I went the first time with my 24 year old daughter. That was a mistake. She was pretty insistent, and I finally gave in. You're smart to wait.Which places would you go to?
I would love to go someday, though I think it would be more enjoyable after the kids are grown. Because of some of the behavioral issues we face, if we went now, it would just be me preventing problems than actually experiencing anything.
I'd go back to Tiruvannamalai, partly because I missed that temple taking care of my stressed out daughter, even though we were 5 minutes away, and there are a couple of nice walking pilgrimages ... one around the mountain, and another up the mountain. Palani always beckons, but I'd do it from Madurai. I have a rather sensitive gut, and what's colloquially called Delhi belly can ruin the experience of darshan. Where would you go?