MatthewA
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Hello Men and Women of Religious Forums.
How do you deal with or handle shame?
Now shame is something that has come across and happened to everyone us in life, it would seem.
Are there any helpful advice, or insights of when it comes to dealing with shame, what you have learned in life that has helped in overcoming shame ~ and where ever it comes from.
Here is the definition of Shame ~ According to Websters New World Dictionary - 1984 cc.
2. a tendency to have feelings of this kind, or a capacity for such feeling
3. dishonor or disgrace [to bring shame to one's family]
4. a person or thing that brings shame, dishonor, or disgrace
5. something regrettable, unfortunate, or outrageous [it's a shame he wasn't told]
2. to dishonor or disgrace
3. to drive, force, or impel by a sense of shame SYN. - DISGRACE --for shame!
~ For shame -
1. to cause to feel shame
2. to do much better than, suprass, outdo - shame on shame should be felt by; this is shameful of
Definition for Pride:
How do you deal with or handle shame?
Now shame is something that has come across and happened to everyone us in life, it would seem.
Are there any helpful advice, or insights of when it comes to dealing with shame, what you have learned in life that has helped in overcoming shame ~ and where ever it comes from.
Here is the definition of Shame ~ According to Websters New World Dictionary - 1984 cc.
Shame n. (Greek - scham)
1. a painful feeling of having lost the respect of others because of improper behavior, incompetence, etc. of oneself or another2. a tendency to have feelings of this kind, or a capacity for such feeling
3. dishonor or disgrace [to bring shame to one's family]
4. a person or thing that brings shame, dishonor, or disgrace
5. something regrettable, unfortunate, or outrageous [it's a shame he wasn't told]
``` Shamed ~ Shaming
1. to cause to feel shame; make ashamed
2. to dishonor or disgrace
3. to drive, force, or impel by a sense of shame SYN. - DISGRACE --for shame!
~ For shame -
2. to do much better than, suprass, outdo - shame on shame should be felt by; this is shameful of
Depends if I've done something objectively shameful. If I have, I try to put it right, which can mean admitting my fault , to myself and others, and if necessary taking corrective action. Dishonesty can be a cause of shame in my experience, so the antidote is simple; I try to be more honest.
In general though, shame is not a helpful emotion. Humility, on the other hand, definitely is. Shame is a function of pride, and pride helps no one; humility is a function of a healthy and right sized ego, and is worth cultivating.
We should never be ashamed of who and what we are, nor of our thoughts, feelings or impulses, all of which are things we do not choose. Low self esteem can be overcome with self love, which includes self forgiveness when we do behave badly, or when we let ourselves or others down.
Being able to laugh at oneself is important too. We are ridiculous creatures in many ways, often guilty of taking ourselves far too seriously.
Definition for Pride:
Websters New World Dictionary 1984 cc
Pride
1. a) High opinion of oneself; exaggerated self-esteem; conceit
b) haughty behavior resulting from this; arrogance
2. proper respect for oneself; sense of one's own dignity or worth; self-respect
3. delight or satisfaction in one's person own or anothers achievements, in associations etc.
4. a person or thing in which a persons pride is taken
5. the best of a class, group, society, etc : pick; flower
6. the best part or time; prime; flowering
7. mettle (in a horse)
8. A) a group or family (of lions) -b) [colloq.] - any impressive group or cluster
9. [Archaic] a) a magnificence; splendor b) ornament
10. [OBS] sexual desire -
SYN - Pride - Conceit, vanity, vainglory, self-esteem, - ANT. humility
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