They are not the same though. Good and evil are not to be equated nor positive value beautiful treasurable souls vs negative value ugly trash souls seen on par of each other and to be dealt with the same way by God. Unconditional love is unjust towards good people and won't solve anything.
I don't think learning at time of death would mean you reform. That assumes the decisions that made were evil, were done due to lack of knowledge or experience. I don't believe either is the case.
I believe the problem is that once a soul is corrupted it's mostly because it deceives and lies to itself and others. It's masked within a mask of deception from is own doing.
If it comes back to this world, no amount of knowledge, will make it more truthful. Some knowledge needs to be decimated, and reminders, but they are enough now and always has been. The souls who won't be reformed don't do it because of what they don't know. It's because of injustice and the main thing is deceiving and lying to oneself and others. They can't even be truthful to God when talking to God or reminded of his judgment, is how much they are caught in self-deception and deceiving others.
Are you sure one will not change having Lived the sides one causes? Have you ever said the words: I'll never do that again???? Isn't the learning staring you in the face?
Do people really must learn and grow at the rate you choose? Why? There is Eternity to work with. Is anyone really placing time limits? Isn't it just your assumption death is a time limit?
How is Unconditional Love unfair to people who make good choices? By being evil or making bad choices doesn't one choose much harder lessons for oneself? I do not see how things are unfair.
Isn't the only fair thing to do is set up a system where all the children end up making the Best choices regardless of how long it takes? Would not this eliminate the need for hate, anger, wrath, revenge, payback and all the misery one creates for oneself hanging onto such petty things?
How much hurt does one create for oneself hanging unto these things? Is there a better choice that can be made? Still, like you said. Each must choose what kind of life to create for oneself. Each must decide for oneself then judge the results. In time, won't everyone end up making the best choices regardless of the journey one chooses to make? Isn't it just a matter of time?
When I think of God, I see God's Genius at work. I find there is always more to see and Discover.
That's what I see. It's very clear!!