Hey all,
I'm wondering if there's a general (1) length of literal time spent together and (2) length of time physically spent together one should reach before proposing? There's two variable because, for example, maybe it's been a few months but you spend every day together, or it's been a year of long distance and you've barely been face to face. Where is the perfect balance for proposing? Not an actual formula obviously, I guess more like "when is it way too early/you waited way too long" to propose?
If you find yourself talking with them practically every day,
even when you are separated (so you talk on the phone or via e-mail or chat) I'd say that's a pretty good sign that you may be in territory to propose. I don't think its necessarily the amount of time, but the
quality of the time you spend together and the amount of effort you do to be together and stay in touch.
I know culturally we're all supposed to live up to some ridiculous expectation of it being an amazing moment, but it doesn't have to be. Forget the pressure. forget about what everyone else is "supposed" to do. Its your life after all and people can't tell you you're loving someone the wrong way. [ok, maybe I can think of exceptions here because I have a sick and twisted mind, that but you know what I mean...
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Its a question of two people knowing that time only makes their relationship richer because they are so good together. They find that obstacles makes the relationship stronger. If you're worried about being embarrassed or rejected, that should be a moment to stop and wonder if that is because you
don't think you can be yourself around someone because they will not accept you or if you can't accept yourself. Being honest with yourself and what you want is what matters here. Just think about why you're uncomfortable and if it gives way because you know this person will accept you no matter what- you probably should find a moment to ask. If it was me, I'd take them for a long walk or a nice dinner and bring it up in the conversation and see what happens. I'm quite an introvert so I'm not in to big, empty gestures. Its not my style. I'd just want to be happy making someone else happy. The rest is history.