Really? It's the opposite in my experience. Cathoolics consider themselvs Christian as do many non-Catholics. The only ones who seem opposed to calling Catholics Christian are the fanatical protestants/evangelicals.
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Really? It's the opposite in my experience. Cathoolics consider themselvs Christian as do many non-Catholics. The only ones who seem opposed to calling Catholics Christian are the fanatical protestants/evangelicals.
Wandered Off
Sporadic Driveby Member
My wife of over 12 years is a believer (though not dogmatic about it), and we are doing well. I accompany her to church if she wants to go - I just have to interpret everything as symbolic mythology for any of it to make sense, but it hasn't been an issue for us.
My wife's Catholic; I'm an atheist. We do okay. 
Hmm. I'd consider most of the Catholics I know to be moderate.
Mr. Hair
Renegade Cavalcade
Just popping by to agree with the handful of people that, yes, relationships between partners of different religions or none can most certainly work. Me and my fiance-of-three-and-a-half-years (henceforth known as "the Missus") come from different faiths, in fact I was the first person outside her church that she'd dated, and it's never ever been a problem for us.
Of course, I am effortlessly dashing and endlessly charming, so y'know, there's that.
Well, I'm kinda runny and I talk a lot anyways. Close enough.
Of course, I am effortlessly dashing and endlessly charming, so y'know, there's that.
Well, I'm kinda runny and I talk a lot anyways. Close enough.
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Minus Habens
Member
I have a friend who is a Muslim. He is married to a Catholic woman.... It has worked for them so far, so I say GO FOR IT!!!
DallasApple
Depends Upon My Mood..
Obviously it seems its not such and intergral part of her personal beliefs to not date or consider a marriage with someone of a different faith or lack there of.
As long as they respect each other then there is no "fault line".
There is no reason I can see that if he loves the girl that because he's an athiest he cant be considerate and caring and encouraging to her in her faith.And even admiring her for her convictions.
And just because she is religious doesnt mean she cant admire and respect him and love him for what kind of person he is .
A wonderful person is a wonderful person period.
Love
Dallas
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KarlVonMox
Member
Thanks so much to everyone who responded. I really appreciate the level of responses I have gotten and Im happy to see that there are many examples of relationships like this working!
My general problem is that I could possibly forsee scenarios in the future in which her belief causes a rift in our relationship. I guess its a risk to take if I want to continue with her.
A lot christians to me are Bible cherry-pickers. They pick and choose what parts of the Bible they want to listen to. There are plenty of passages telling you not to date or associate with non-believers. So then why does she ignore the Bible?
One of the things I dislike about religion is the divisiveness. I've seen people reject one another in the past solely on the basis of religious belief and thought to myself "hah, how ridiculous - breaking up over non-existant deities." If I broke up with her for a reason like that it would make me a hypocrite, I think. Therefore, Im gonna try to make it work and see where it leads down the road.
My general problem is that I could possibly forsee scenarios in the future in which her belief causes a rift in our relationship. I guess its a risk to take if I want to continue with her.
A lot christians to me are Bible cherry-pickers. They pick and choose what parts of the Bible they want to listen to. There are plenty of passages telling you not to date or associate with non-believers. So then why does she ignore the Bible?
One of the things I dislike about religion is the divisiveness. I've seen people reject one another in the past solely on the basis of religious belief and thought to myself "hah, how ridiculous - breaking up over non-existant deities." If I broke up with her for a reason like that it would make me a hypocrite, I think. Therefore, Im gonna try to make it work and see where it leads down the road.
It's probably not an issue three months into dating, but I think the area that usually has the most potential for conflict is deciding how to raise the kids. However, I think this is something that can (usually) be worked out with communication beforehand.
However, if marriage isn't even on your radar screen yet, you may freak her out by starting in about how you're going to raise your children together!
There are plenty of passages that say lots of things. Others speak highly of love; maybe she just ranks them ahead of a literal interpretation of the passages you describe.A lot christians to me are Bible cherry-pickers. They pick and choose what parts of the Bible they want to listen to. There are plenty of passages telling you not to date or associate with non-believers. So then why does she ignore the Bible?
In any case, there are more options available to her than a strict literal interpretation of every single verse as unquestionably true, so I don't think you need to force that on her.
Kilgore Trout
Misanthropic Humanist
Being a rationalist is so fundamental to every aspect of my worldview, that I could not be with someone who didn't share this view - and, therefore, could not be with someone who was religious.
Autodidact
Intentionally Blank
I had a one-year relationship with a devout Christian and it was not an issue for us. Reasons it worked, at least that long:
I loved her, and so loved all that made her, including her faith.
She believes that everyone has to find their own path, so did not mind my atheism.
We shared basic values of kindness, community and diversity, so were in sufficient accord not to argue about it. In fact we never argued about it.
Of course, we didn't marry or have kids
I loved her, and so loved all that made her, including her faith.
She believes that everyone has to find their own path, so did not mind my atheism.
We shared basic values of kindness, community and diversity, so were in sufficient accord not to argue about it. In fact we never argued about it.
Of course, we didn't marry or have kids
DallasApple
Depends Upon My Mood..
Thanks so much to everyone who responded. I really appreciate the level of responses I have gotten and Im happy to see that there are many examples of relationships like this working!
My general problem is that I could possibly forsee scenarios in the future in which her belief causes a rift in our relationship. I guess its a risk to take if I want to continue with her.
A lot christians to me are Bible cherry-pickers. They pick and choose what parts of the Bible they want to listen to. There are plenty of passages telling you not to date or associate with non-believers. So then why does she ignore the Bible?
One of the things I dislike about religion is the divisiveness. I've seen people reject one another in the past solely on the basis of religious belief and thought to myself "hah, how ridiculous - breaking up over non-existant deities." If I broke up with her for a reason like that it would make me a hypocrite, I think. Therefore, Im gonna try to make it work and see where it leads down the road.
But there is divisevness in many things.Not to even do with religion.There will ALWAYS be divisevness.
All people are different.Each individual is different from you.
Love
Dallas
monta
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Sounds limiting, do you not associated with anyone who is religious ?
Kilgore Trout
Misanthropic Humanist
Sure, I have many friends of multiple religions, albeit, I tend to avoid talking about religion and politics with people in real life.
Mr Cheese
Well-Known Member
They would of course be wrong....
the Catholic church is of course an offshoot of the Orthodox churches...
you could argue Catholics are heretics....
Other evidence:
Catholic make the sign of the cross incorrectly...
but thats being picky
Mr Cheese
Well-Known Member
Thanks so much to everyone who responded. I really appreciate the level of responses I have gotten and Im happy to see that there are many examples of relationships like this working!
My general problem is that I could possibly forsee scenarios in the future in which her belief causes a rift in our relationship. I guess its a risk to take if I want to continue with her.
A lot christians to me are Bible cherry-pickers. They pick and choose what parts of the Bible they want to listen to. There are plenty of passages telling you not to date or associate with non-believers. So then why does she ignore the Bible?
One of the things I dislike about religion is the divisiveness. I've seen people reject one another in the past solely on the basis of religious belief and thought to myself "hah, how ridiculous - breaking up over non-existant deities." If I broke up with her for a reason like that it would make me a hypocrite, I think. Therefore, Im gonna try to make it work and see where it leads down the road.
dig deeper
You will find these people are a minority
although there are millions of these people, so it can be hard to see differently
Especially if you are in an area where such people live in large numbers
WhatandWhy
Member
I have been dating a hardcore christian for 13 months now. Her mother is a pastor at 3 Methodist' Churches. Things are working out well. There is nothing that I have found that would show that it could not/will not work out. I have nothing against Christians or any other religion as long as they respect my secular based life as I respect their faith based lives. Just thought that you would like to know that even though a few bumps may occur, it can work out as long as you put your heart into it.