Nisou Kitsune
Resident Anime Freak
Does your God:
- humiliate you?
- criticize you and put you down?
- treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see, especially if they aren't in the same church or religion?
- blame you for His own abusive behavior?
- see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
- have a bad and unpredictable temper?
- hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
- threaten to take your children away or harm them?
- threaten to hurt you if you leave?
- destroy your belongings?
- act excessively jealous and possessive?
- constantly check up on you?
- ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
- (for women) tell you or teach you that you are the property of your husband/father and your place is in the home?
- threaten to ostracize you if you leave?
- force you to stay with your partner no matter what is happening in the relationship, even if it means your possible death?
- control where you go, what you do, or what you wear?
- keep you from seeing your friends or family of different faith(s)?
- limit your access to money, the phone, the car, certain work, or limit any and everything you do?
- claim "persecution" whenever the group/leader is criticized or questioned?
- absolute authoritarianism without meaningful accountability?
- little to no tolerance for questions or critical inquiry?
- unreasonable fear about the outside world, such as impending catastrophe, evil conspiracies and persecutions?
- said or say there is no legitimate reason to leave, former followers are always wrong in leaving, negative, sinful or even evil?
- former members who often relate the same stories of abuse and reflect a similar pattern of grievances?
- records, books, news articles, or television programs that document the abuses or illegal activities of the religion/group or its history of violence?
- followers who feel they can never be "good enough"?
- preach that the group/leader/religious book is always right or infallible?
- said or say the group/leader/religious book is the exclusive means of knowing "truth" or receiving validation and that no other process of discovery is really acceptable or credible?
- feel afraid of your God or religious group much of the time?
- avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your God or group?
- feel that you can’t do anything right for your God?
- believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated by your God?
- wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
- feel emotionally numb or helpless?
- feel like anything your God/the group/leader does can be justified no matter how harsh or harmful?
- have extreme obsessiveness regarding the your God/group/leader?
- depend upon your God/the group/leader for problem solving, solutions, and definitions without thinking for yourself?
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