Spiderman
Veteran Member
So, there is this likeable Cambodian immigrant who lives with me who often approaches me and wants to always go on walks with me, interrupt me while I'm praying or meditating or on the computer.
When we went for a walk today he said, "We should hold hands".
I laughed and told him "no, I'm not into holding guys hands".
I actually don't technically know if the man is gay. It seems clear he is at least bisexual, but I don't feel like asking him.
Bottom line is, I know what rejection feels like. It hurts. I don't want to put him through that kind of pain.
But I need to establish healthy boundaries. He keeps talking about how he wants to take me places when we get out.
It does make me uncomfortable.
I do actually have street smarts, and am not naïve. I'm actually quite cynical when it comes to friendly people, and don't trust them.
At the same time, I ask myself "What would Mother Teresa, Buddha, Gandhi, Saint Francis of Assisi, or Jesus do"? I also need to be conscious of not hurting people, and sometimes you have to be nice/charitable, even when being nice has consequences.
I'm sure when people see me hanging out with this guy a lot, they already probably wonder if we are doing something gay. I really could care less what they think.
I feel he is a suffering person and to a certain extent I'm supposed to relieve his suffering to please the Kami, because he says it makes him very happy hanging out with me. Do unto others what you would have them do unto you.
But I need to establish boundaries as well. Let me know if you have any thoughts. Thanks!
When we went for a walk today he said, "We should hold hands".
I laughed and told him "no, I'm not into holding guys hands".
I actually don't technically know if the man is gay. It seems clear he is at least bisexual, but I don't feel like asking him.
Bottom line is, I know what rejection feels like. It hurts. I don't want to put him through that kind of pain.
But I need to establish healthy boundaries. He keeps talking about how he wants to take me places when we get out.
It does make me uncomfortable.
I do actually have street smarts, and am not naïve. I'm actually quite cynical when it comes to friendly people, and don't trust them.
At the same time, I ask myself "What would Mother Teresa, Buddha, Gandhi, Saint Francis of Assisi, or Jesus do"? I also need to be conscious of not hurting people, and sometimes you have to be nice/charitable, even when being nice has consequences.
I'm sure when people see me hanging out with this guy a lot, they already probably wonder if we are doing something gay. I really could care less what they think.
I feel he is a suffering person and to a certain extent I'm supposed to relieve his suffering to please the Kami, because he says it makes him very happy hanging out with me. Do unto others what you would have them do unto you.
But I need to establish boundaries as well. Let me know if you have any thoughts. Thanks!