I have a question for you. Since you knew Baha'i in real life, and maybe still do, just how representative do you feel our main three Baha'i folks here are? Yes we have 3 or 4 less participating Baha'i and they do behave differently here. Do you think the average Baha'i in real life is a lot like the 3 who post a lot, or more like the 3 or 4 who don't post much at all, and when they do it's less arrogant?
I'm thinking maybe I'm making some poor conclusions based on the small sample size.
Unless a person lives in a big city, the Baha'i communities can be pretty small. A "big" community for a town could be 20 Baha'is. And a community with less than 9 adult Baha'is wouldn't have an LSA. My Baha'i friends were from several small communities that did relatively nothing. Since my friends were young and did a lot of travel teaching. Very few adults from any one community were involved in the teaching. Mainly driving the Baha'i "youth" to places. Then turning them loose on the target area, minority neighborhoods and Indian Reservations were the most common.
That's the Baha'is I hung out with. They were active in the spreading of the Faith, which at that time was supposed to lead to "entry by troops." A lot of them were fairly new Baha'is. So, the main thing they were telling people is that God had sent a new messenger that has come to bring peace and unity. That all people, no matter what color of skin, or from what religion, or from which country... all people were one. Lots of enthusiasm, but not much depth into what Baha'is really believed. And those that did join during these teaching trips were left in a community of Baha'is that didn't know what to do with them.
Lots of the communities that I saw were made up of older Baha'is. They had their feast meetings once every 19 days and that's about it. The better communities had at least one person or family that was very open and charismatic. So, people from other boring communities would go to their "fireside" meetings. Those charismatic Baha'is would give a short talk about the basics of the Baha'is Faith.... Where it came from. How it started and what they believed. These firesides were meant to teach "seekers" about the Faith, but sometimes there were no seekers, just Baha'is. So, then they would do a "deepening" and really get into the Baha'i beliefs.
Every now and again there would be bigger meeting that included a lot of communities. They always had a good speaker and maybe some music or a film. The films were awesome. They showed people of all sorts all smiling and looking so happy. Nothing about any of this was like what is happening here. It was all just the basics, and the "seeker" would be surrounded by people be loving and kind. Usually there were no one there that wasn't open and eager to learn about the Faith.
Now some of the leader of the LSA's, actually most of them, didn't go to these larger meetings. There was nothing there for them. These meetings were aimed at those people interested in the Baha'i Faith. But then there were deepenings. Those could also be in those same communities that had the charismatic Baha'is. And usually an outside person was brought in to lead the deepening.
Then there were the inactive Baha'is. Rarely seen or heard. I was told a native lady was a Baha'i and I said I'd like to meet her. They gave me her address and she was nice to me. But she had nothing nice to say about the other Baha'is in the community. I don't know what Baha'is do now, but back then lots of Baha'is did nothing. Just the feast every 19 days.
I'd say the worst thing I saw was that there was a definitely split between liberal and conservative Baha'is. The liberal ones were the ones going out and teaching, again just the basics. And the conservative, older more knowledgeable Baha'is were on the LSA's. Stll, I liked the Baha'i Faith a lot until my friend became a Christian, then once I read the Bible and NT for the first time, I realized how manipulative and biased the things Baha'is were telling me were.
These Baha'is have been in the Faith a long time. They are not those new, liberal Baha'is that I knew and liked. What bothers me is that after all these years, it doesn't seem like those virtues that are talked about ever really got put into practice. It could be like those Christians that go to Church on Sunday and seem as Holy as Jesus and the Apostles. Then they go home, and they dropped the facade. If we met most of them in person, I'll bet they'd be the nicest people in the world to us. These Baha'is haven't been trained how to teach the Baha'i Faith to people on an internet forum. The threads they start are much too controversial. So, what can they do but try and support the beliefs of their religion.
Those firesides and other meetings would be like them starting a thread in the "seeker" section and let those that were interested come to them. Anyway, I hope some of that helps.