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A man is coming onto me, and I need to establish boundaries!

Brickjectivity

wind and rain touch not this brain
Staff member
Premium Member
In many cultures, it is normal for men to hold hands, put their arm around each other, and even sit on one another's laps! He may not be coming onto you.

But, its perfectly fine not to be comfortable with that. I wouldn't be. Just try to let him know that this isn't something you're used to in friendships, and you just prefer to not have physical contact with him. You can, as @Rival has said, point out that in this culture, those gestures mean something entirely different(and that could be good for him to know, anyways).
It is? It makes sense to me. It makes perfect sense, because I know that when I was 7 I was very affectionate. I only stopped being affectionate because of the limitations and boundaries enforced by etiquette. Even so, I am surprised. I've never heard of such culture.
 

SalixIncendium

अग्निविलोवनन्दः
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Premium Member
When we went for a walk today he said, "We should hold hands".

I laughed and told him "no, I'm not into holding guys hands".

I never understood why it's socially acceptable for heterosexual females to hold hands, but not heterosexual guys...

...but it's okay for heterosexual guys to smack each other on the arse.
I won't touch your hand, but I'm gonna touch your butt, k?
 

JustGeorge

Not As Much Fun As I Look
Staff member
Premium Member
I never understood why it's socially acceptable for heterosexual females to hold hands, but not heterosexual guys...

...but it's okay for heterosexual guys to smack each other on the arse.
I won't touch your hand, but I'm gonna touch your butt, k?

You get a lot of crap when you're a heterosexual female who doesn't like to be touched, too! :(

People are so picky to each other...
 
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