I don't enjoy life after University

ronki23 said:

I didn't enjoy the second year of undergraduate as I was sick of commuting and having to get home before 10PM. That and I was doing kickboxing for years 1 and 2 but in the second year I was training hard for tournaments which I never got to go to in the first place.

I enjoyed year 3 because I could drive and I could go to nightclubs.

During postgrad I didn't get along with people at the University martial arts clubs so I quit; whenever I went to nightclub people who say they were going to come never turned up and I didn't want to go to the nightclub anyway because people from the local martial arts clubs would be there. However, I found a wrestling club and took up salsa dancing in the final 2 months of University.

Then my so-called friends stop communicating with me in the last month after we had no more classes and they went on trips with one another but not me.

If it helps the majority of my 'friends' during postgrad were Han (Chinese, Taiwanese, Malaysian, Hong Kong) and my so-called friends from undergraduate who stopped talking to me were from European countries and a Saudi Arabian. Also the one guy who I did keep in contact with from undergraduate was unreliable and kept letting me down- a Sunni Muslim from Guinea. I didn't speak with him for 18 months and when he wishes me for my birthday I ask what he's up to then he says he's expecting a kid so he DEFINATELY won't have any time now. Also I haven't spoke to the Saudi Arabian in 5 years.

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ronki23 said:

I get peeved they meet up because people say nobody stays in touch after University but they're still meeting up while I don't see any of them

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ronki23 said:

I hated my grad school so I don't miss that but I do miss undergraduate/college. Now everyone is working full time and/or have kids and are too busy or far away to meet up.

I wish I had a better time at grad school but I didn't make any real friends there and didn't go out to nightclub because everyone went to the same 3 crappy nightclubs.

However, I get pretty peeved when people meet up in different countries; the notion that people disconnect after University is nonsense

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ronki23 said:

I get peeved they meet up because people say nobody stays in touch after University but they're still meeting up while I don't see any of them

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Curious George said:

I am not sure where you are but kickboxing like boxing or working out at the gym here isn't as social as some of the martial arts classes. That said I was thinking maybe a team sport that fosters camaraderie. Dancing is a little tough because asking people to do something after can seem like you are picking up on them. That said there are dance groups that meet and have classes and social gatherings. And if you invited several people it would seem less intimate and therefore less like you were hitting on any one person. Perhaps you can connect with a dance group to start.

How about volunteer work?

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David T said:

What were your majors?

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lewisnotmiller said:

I still meet up with (some) uni friends on an extremely regular basis, and I finished Uni 22 years ago.

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Srivijaya said:

Can't you just get some new friends? People change, so move on and socialize. Facebook is a fake environment anyway.

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ronki23 said:

Exactly. So the notion of losing touch after studies is nonsense.

All that ever happens when I message them on FB or LinkedIn

"Hey, how's it going. Been a while. What you up to?"

Either I get no reply or I get

"Not much. Busy with work"

and that's it.

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ronki23 said:

I did volunteer work and hated it. Full of Middle aged women who liked 50 Shades of Grey and the company never took me on as a paid employee despite losing 6 people in the 8 months I was there

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ronki23 said:

Business Management

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