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A Candid Discussion on Homosexuality

Storm

ThrUU the Looking Glass
Thanks for your testimonial. Each relationship is different. What I was speaking of was a general trend in comparison with straights. I would say a significant minority of gay couples had agreed-to extracurricular activity and the percentage is somewhat larger than straight couples. As for talking comfortably about the sexiness of others for gay guys is a slight majority and for straights due to the wives sensibilities a slim minority. I will try and find the article where I read this.
Well, when you've already decided not to let busybodies dictate your love life, it's not a huge leap.

Speaking as a queer, it's been my observation that queeers aren't actually more likely to be polyamorous as to be less concerned about the pearl clutchers screaming at them. After all, they already do. Why not expand the repertoire?

For the record, I'm bisexual and intensely monogamous, which really confuses people. LOL
 

SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
Response: That's a blatant lie. I never said that, supported by the fact that you cannot quote from anywhere where the words "men do not feel appreciation for being cared for". No where. You are falsely twisting my words because that is the best you can do to defend your severely flawed argument.

So your lying and strawman tactics expose you and make my argument. Another homosexual proves that homosexual sex is based on lust, not love, therefore homosexuality is wrong. As lust involves the idea of using a person sexually for your own pleasure, the same root evil of rape and molestation and since homosexual sex is based on lust, it is wrong and just as perverted and damaging as them. Thanks for the assistance and making my point.

Good day.
Well, that's what I took away from your argument as well. And I've read it several times, since you keep repeating it.

You have a very archaic view of love, from my perspective.

Rape and molestation aren't based on lust, rather they're based on imposing one's dominance and power over another person to compensate for their own feelings of inadequacy. Trying to equate homosexuality with rape and molestation is pretty pathetic.
 

Storm

ThrUU the Looking Glass
Well, that's what I took away from your argument as well. And I've read it several times, since you keep repeating it.
And he's been doing this for years. Nothing but this, actually. One thread after another, one topic after another, Laughably transparent lies, shifting the burden, insisting that every argument tearing him to shreds is "invalid,"never wavering, never learning, and never ever EVER getting any less pathetic.

Come on, folks, this is a Poe. Sometimes it's fun to play with him, but you can't take it seriously.
 

FyreBrigidIce

Returning Noob
Response: The question was not loving each other, but loving each other sexually. As sex can be based purely on lust, or be based on love. So if one cannot name specifically what causes a man to love another man sexually but not a woman other than lust, then the answer logically is that the difference is lust. Giving the argument that homosexual sex is wrong because it is based on lust and not love and strong position.
I can sexually love another woman or man based on different things. Yes, I am Bi-sexual and proud of it. Personally speaking, if a woman or man has a good personality and treats others with respect and dignity, lifts them up instead of stomping a mud-hole in them while they are down, I can be sexually attracted to either because a chemical in my brain says that they are a good person for me to be with emotionally, physically, and mentally. Both of us can help each other grow as individuals in a positive way.

Blessed Be
 

dgirl1986

Big Queer Chesticles!
Something to consider: It is not so black and white as people like to think. It isnt just heterosexuality and homosexuality. You have bisexuality on differnet levels, straight people can find themselves in love with someone of the same sex even though they do not have that inclination normally and vice versa. Sexuality is complicated and is still being studied to understand it completely.
 

Al-Fatihah

Muslim
1) Honestly, have you never felt horny after looking at someone without wanting to protect her? If not, I need you to understand that a lot of people have.

2) These two forms can't be sufficient in themselves to create sexual love. Otherwise, most daughters would feel sexual love towards their fathers. There is something missing from this explanation. Now, what is it?

Response: A person can be aroused without wanting yo protect someone. One can alsobe aroused and in being so, want to turn their partner on by arousing them. That is the point. When a persin is aroused and acts on it by arousing someone else with the intent to receive their affection, it is lust. Yet when aroused and out of appreciation intends to turn their partner on by arousing them, it is love. That is the difference. When your pleasure comes first, its lust. When you intend to please someone and put them first, it i love.
 

SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
Haven't we been here before? That is not a proper dichotomy here. However I will give you a true paradox in response at the end.
Yes we have. And I don’t believe you actually answered the question last time either.

If sexual attraction really is a choice, why would anyone consciously choose to be openly gay in a world where they know they will be treated with disdain and contempt by people who can’t accept others for who they are when they could easily just “choose” to be attracted to the opposite sex and be treated with respect and dignity?
There exists no reason what so ever to suggest that whatever is true of heterosexuality goes for homosexuality.
There exists no reason to suggest that whatever is true of heterosexuality does NOT go for homosexuality.
It may very well be that we are all born heterosexuals but for many reasons (including possible spiritual ones) a few deviate off course and reinforce the synaptic pathways in their brains with repetitive gratification until the end result was a compulsion to do what is unnatural. I have some experience with addiction but my particular issue had no physical component but it was purely mental. I had done something for so long I had rewired my brain to think it was not only normal but necessary and it was all I could do to break it. My few physical addictions pretty much evaporated when I was born again but that mental one was a nightmare to escape.
This view has no basis in reality. And it certainly doesn’t explain the people who say they knew from a very young age that they were gay, long before they’d ever engaged in anything you’d call a “homosexual act.” Never mind the genetic and epigenetic components involved.
Another reason would be that both may be choices where one is natural (maybe I could have chose to have homosexual desires) and one in contradiction to it but still with a similar path of actualizing.
Well then that brings me back to my question: When did you choose to be heterosexual? I really have to wonder how you can believe that sexual attraction is a matter of choice. Could you just decide tomorrow that you’re going to be attracted to men from now on? How would that even work?
[*]Another is the relative strength of those desires. Maybe homosexuality and heterosexuality are both choices but unequal at least when young. I'm being perhaps to candid here but I had many urges as a child I finally decided were ridiculous and did not gratify. Maybe I trained myself out of all kinds of adorations that others do not.
Experimentation is quite common in adolescence but to say you trained yourself to be attracted to a certain gender doesn’t make much sense to me.
Now let me throw my paradox at you. The positions commonly stated are perfectly natural and perfectly unnatural.
What positions, and by whom?

As far as we can tell, homosexuality has been around as long as human beings have been around, not to mention its occurrence elsewhere in the animal kingdom. So maybe at this point in time it’s a bit of a misnomer to call it unnatural, given its continued prevalence throughout human history.
But what about the very good evidence at least some of homosexuality is both not a choice and unnatural (meaning not normal). Studies I have read are al over the place but a few give great evidence that women who have many kids close together suffer chemical imbalances that produce a high rate of homosexuality. So in that case it would be non-choice and genetic abnormality like you mentioning Psychopathy above. They would not be right but be natural (in a sense). What do you do in the case that this is the same for homosexuality in general?
What you’re talking about is commonly referred to as the “fraternal birth order effect.” It says that the more older brothers a man has, the greater the likelihood that he will have a homosexual orientation. One explanation for it is that when a woman is pregnant with a male fetus, her body is exposed to a male-specific antigen (H-Y antigen, I believe), that causes her immune system to produce antibodies to fight it because it’s foreign to her system. Those antibodies remain in the woman’s system after the pregnancy has ended and build up with each successive pregnancy of a male fetus and after enough has built up, those antibodies can cross the placental barrier and break down the chemicals in the fetus’ brain that would normally produce heterosexuality. The odds are said to increase something like 33% with each successive male child.

If this is the case, are you saying the response from the mother’s immune system is unnatural or abnormal (since you equate the two words)?
(You were the one who brought up psychopathy, which is a personality disorder.)
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
When your pleasure comes first, its lust. When you intend to please someone and put them first, it i love.
And you have never once, not ever, been able to show that gays do not do that in the privacy of their bedrooms. You ASSUME they don't because you personally cannot fathom such a thing. That is your personal issue. Your issue of not being able to personally comprehend something so you have been making stuff up left and right to try to support your line of thinking. But you can't, and have never, and can't ever, prove that gays don't love. What you have been proving is your complete lack of understanding due to your own, apparent, homophobia.
 

SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
That is like saying homicide is ok because two homicidal maniacs can adopt a child.
Where on earth did you pull that bizarre comparison from? Are you really that desperate to avoid the point?
Not everything that has one adult or two and a child is a legitimate family.
You’re going to have to explain why two parents and a child DOESN’T constitute a “legitimate” family unit. If it’s just my sister and me left, and I want to call the two of us a legitimate family unit who are you to say we are not? What makes it “legitimate” or not??
And nature is one poor justifying excuse to claim homosexuals who do so are doing so in any natural way. The vast mountain of species is never strictly homosexual and almost never has homosexual family units. Not that what penguins might do is an excuse for anything man does anyway.
I don’t recall referring to nature to describe what a family unit is or is not.

Human beings are not strictly homosexual, nor or other species in the animal kingdom. So what? What’s the point in repeating that?
Rome and Greece but knowing how loath you are to consent to any idea contrary to your own these will be far too complex to be resolvable.
Homosexuality was a contributing factor in the downfall of the Roman and Greek empires? How so?
I care that is why I posted it and most of academic mankind cares which is why Nietzsche is so popular and in so many libraries. Not caring may say more about you than me or Nietzsche. And not even in a single way is what I said the same in modern times as in history.
So what? The entire history of human kind is bathed in strife and bloodshed. These are not new things, which is what you seem to be suggesting.
The 20th century is what I am talking about. If you deny what I said then I think no words ever spoken would make the slightest difference. Might as well say "How can I claim the sun is hot?".
Well then I really have to wonder what you know about human history.
Nope, the US was attacked by Mexico won the war gave much of it back and forgave it's entire debt, is the only major nation to self condemn slavery plus go on to lose 300,000 men who died to free others they had never met, was attacked by Britain and defeated them, defended the freedom of others in Europe then left without keeping anything, was attacked by Japan and Germany defeating both giving back their nations plus rebuilding and protecting them for years, defended South Korea when invaded by the communist North and won but still gave back the North (that was benevolent but a mistake), defended South Vietnam for the same thing until you secularists took over but we still won (yes one) and left without keeping anything, freed Kuwait from Iraq and refused to invade Iraq or keep anything, freed Iraq and Afghanistan from homicidal terrorist lunatics then rebuilt both and at most kept a base or two. We have also been the only force capable of keeping Nazism, Communism, and Islam from conquering the whole earth. Invented countless modern marvels, first to the moon, constantly lead the world in many of the main categories of generosity and are one of the first on the scene of even our enemies when disaster strikes, introduced by far the most successful model of wealth creation in history, Actually I have to go but this list would have just kept on and on and no nation in 5000 years can match half of it.
Every nation that used to practice slavery which later ended the practice of slavery is responsible for “self condemning slavery.”

Um, the US didn’t fight World War II single-handedly. Sorry. Same goes for the Korean War. Same goes for the Afghanistan and Iraqi wars. Nor are you the first or only country to come to the aid of others.

This is all subjective opinion (that only focuses on the US’s positive contributions while ignoring the negative), as I said before. Personally, I’d much rather live in Canada than the US. And I’d say that most people who feel the same way about their country as you do yours, would say the same of their country of origin. So whose opinion is the superior one?
 
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SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
Marriage is primarily practiced and lawful for reasons alright, but not the ones you mentioned. It is practiced for security in partnership. For legal protections. For recognized companionship. There is nothing inherent about marriage that makes married people better parents nor guarantee that they will have a good environment for their family. As for your B reason...that is merely your belief, no basis in actual fact.
I should have included these factors as well! Thank you. :)
 

fantome profane

Anti-Woke = Anti-Justice
Premium Member
Response: A person can be aroused without wanting yo protect someone. One can alsobe aroused and in being so, want to turn their partner on by arousing them. That is the point. When a persin is aroused and acts on it by arousing someone else with the intent to receive their affection, it is lust. Yet when aroused and out of appreciation intends to turn their partner on by arousing them, it is love. That is the difference. When your pleasure comes first, its lust. When you intend to please someone and put them first, it i love.
And this is what is just so weird about your argument. You have no reason to think that homosexuals would be any less concerned with giving pleasure than heterosexuals. Reality is that people in loving homosexual relationships are concerned about giving affection to the person they love. They give sexually, and non-sexually. They support each other, help each other, sacrifice for each other. They give each other little gifts, they take out the garbage, do the dishes, listen to each other. They do all the same things heterosexual couples do.
 

Shad

Veteran Member
The idea that homosexuality contributed to the fall of Rome is Christian polemics and rhetorical truism, opinion. It's fear mongering and shifting of blame away from the central causes by anti-homosexual movements. It is nonsense. The same people claim America is going to fall by allowing same sex marriage all while ignoring other factors like the government's inability to balance a budget and curb it's spending. If there is any parallel between the two nations it is the ever increasing military budget and the cries of "the barbarians are at the gates!"

Chicken little syndrome.
 
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joshua3886

Great Purple Hippo
Right and wrong should be determined the same way we determine right from wrong in every other debate in society. Does it hurt others? Clearly no, your neighbor could be gay right now, but you don't know it because it's not affecting you in anyway. Does being gay lead to other forms of crime? No, there is no logic or proof to suggest that being gay will turn you into a drug dealer or a murderer. Does being gay hurt the individual? No, despite many ignorant claims that being gay causes AIDS, the virus can be transmitted between two straight people in the same fashion. Being gay doesn't affect society in anyway whatsoever, so therefore it is not morally wrong.
 

HekaMa'atRa

Member
Response: A person can be aroused without wanting yo protect someone. One can alsobe aroused and in being so, want to turn their partner on by arousing them. That is the point. When a persin is aroused and acts on it by arousing someone else with the intent to receive their affection, it is lust. Yet when aroused and out of appreciation intends to turn their partner on by arousing them, it is love. That is the difference. When your pleasure comes first, its lust. When you intend to please someone and put them first, it i love.

Oh look, more jacked up personal opinions and trying to pass them off as truths. You have yet to disprove that homosexuals are incapable of putting their partners sexual needs first. All you did was insert a definition on love, write down your hilarious 1950s gender roles, and tried to pass it up as some kind of romantic/sexual dogma.

If it's that easy than the definition I posted disproves your opinion and we're done here.
 

YmirGF

Bodhisattva in Recovery
If it's that easy than the definition I posted disproves your opinion and we're done here.
The question is will Fatihah "man up", :D as it were, and admit he is wrong?

I'm guessing, no, as it goes against everything he believes. Like, can anyone seriously imagine the eruption that would occur if he tried this conversation tactic in person? My god, sparks would be flying almost immediately and I'm confident saying that people would not be as generous as many have been in this thread. I know, I for one, would go into thermonuclear mode fairly rapidly. In person, that is... Just sayin' ;)
 

Storm

ThrUU the Looking Glass
Oh, nooooo. This ALWAYS works in person. Not one of the many homosexuals he's pulled this **** on could rebut him - they ALL admitted he was right. Remember?

It's totally true. They just go to another school, so you wouldn't know them.
 

YmirGF

Bodhisattva in Recovery
Oh, nooooo. This ALWAYS works in person. Not one of the many homosexuals he's pulled this **** on could rebut him - they ALL admitted he was right. Remember?

It's totally true. They just go to another school, so you wouldn't know them.
Yeah, dem homasexials are such lay downs, as it were. Spineless pillow biters...
 

Koldo

Outstanding Member
Response: A person can be aroused without wanting yo protect someone. One can alsobe aroused and in being so, want to turn their partner on by arousing them. That is the point. When a persin is aroused and acts on it by arousing someone else with the intent to receive their affection, it is lust. Yet when aroused and out of appreciation intends to turn their partner on by arousing them, it is love. That is the difference. When your pleasure comes first, its lust. When you intend to please someone and put them first, it i love.

I don't agree with these definitions, but regardless, both homosexuals and heterosexuals can feel what you call 'lust' and 'love'.
Seriously, just ask any homosexual couple who has been in a relationship for some years.
 

SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
I don't agree with these definitions, but regardless, both homosexuals and heterosexuals can feel what you call 'lust' and 'love'.
Seriously, just ask any homosexual couple who has been in a relationship for some years.
It's completely ludicrous to think otherwise, in my opinion. To believe that homosexuals don't feel both lust and love, same as anybody else, is to suggest that they are not capable of the full range of human emotions that anybody else is capable of experiencing. Essentially he is saying they are inhuman. Obviously that is nonsense.
 

Draka

Wonder Woman
It's completely ludicrous to think otherwise, in my opinion. To believe that homosexuals don't feel both lust and love, same as anybody else, is to suggest that they are not capable of the full range of human emotions that anybody else is capable of experiencing. Essentially he is saying they are inhuman. Obviously that is nonsense.
That does appear to be what he is saying. In fact, he said as much to me. He claimed homosexuals were a different species. Thus...not human.

Then again, according to his line of reasoning, left-handed people, green eyed people, red haired people, people with any variance from what may be considered "the norm" are not human either. Are you in some way different from the majority? Have a genetic difference? Is your sexuality or gender identity different? Do you perhaps have a mental disorder or a physical disorder? guess what...you're not human! :rolleyes:
 
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