I'm talking about the Quran in general, the topic of warfare would be one small facet of the discussion.
I think I understood what you mean icehorse
It seems that you felt bad about the Quran because it repeatedly compare between the love from God, blessings and rewards for the believers who do good deeds (Allatheen Amano wa amelo alsalehat), the curse, threaten, and hard punishment for criminals and nonbelievers in hell. (Alatheen kafaro was zalamo)
Well, to understand why this is repeated ,we must ask ourselves, what is the Goals from the holy Qur’an, meaning what is the message God wants anyone, Muslim or non-Muslim to get by reading any page from it.
The first message in priority is:
To believe in God, love Him and hope for his rewards by doing good deeds, and to fear God punishment, hence fearing of disbelief and making evil deeds.
That’s the main message, God wants any Muslim or non-Muslim to get this message even if he read only one page.
As for how Muslims to treat non-Muslims, God does not have to say this instruction more than once, so when He says in holy Quran to treat any peaceful non-Muslims with goodness and just, He does not repeat it in every page, because this is an order, an instruction that needs no repetition.
But what needs repetition is the main message:
Love God, believe in Him, do good deeds, Fear God, His punishment, do not do evil deeds.
Now imagine a teacher in a class, his students some of them are good, hardworking, on the other hand there is another group who is taking drugs, not studying, and always sexually harass their fellow students’ girls.
What do you expect from this teacher, it’s to always praise his good students, talk about their future success, and at the same time always warn the other students of the consequences of their laziness and bad deeds. This teacher will repeat this message every day on every class to make sure it reaches his good students and bad students evenly.
The holy Quran is a book that wants you to reach heaven, it’s not a book that take care of not hurting non-Muslims feeling by not mentioning the bad punishment for non believing and doing evil deeds, in fact if hurting their feeling will make them think twice and fear hell, and keeps the Muslim away from disbelief and bad deeds, then this message is required.
Regards,
Mahmoud