Does the outside world exhaust you completely?

Music · Aug 15, 2012

I am not just talking of intro vs extroversion. The outside world so exhausts you that you'd rather stay home. You can't stand people, and it's nothing personal. Just a general dislike. You'd rather spend time with books and computers than people. People are simply not for you.

Do you feel that way? Not talking of bad days but do you feel that way all the time or at least most of the time?

Gjallarhorn · Aug 15, 2012

Nope.

Wirey · Aug 15, 2012

Nuh-uh.

DreadFish · Aug 15, 2012

To a degree, yes. And I think that is introversion. I take my socializing on in waves, but after being out for 2 days, constantly in the presence of people unless I go to the bathroom, its almost surreal to be fully alone again, and then I prefer it. I like going out and doing things alone, like biking or going to the park.

To quote Bukowski on the issue, "I don't hate people, I just feel better when they're not around." In fact, when im not around people, I love them. I like to have people in the house and me back in my room away from them

Still, I like to be around people for measured periods. There are times when im ready to be around people and that's what im gonna do, then when I've had my fill, I leave.

Meow Mix · Aug 15, 2012

Sometimes I feel this sort of misanthropy when I'm not around my close friends...

InfidelRiot · Aug 15, 2012

Yes, and DreadFish summarized how it is for me. However, I can spend weeks and months away from people. Online interaction is all I need.

Astravalon · Aug 15, 2012

Music said:
I am not just talking of intro vs extroversion. The outside world so exhausts you that you'd rather stay home. You can't stand people, and it's nothing personal. Just a general dislike. You'd rather spend time with books and computers than people. People are simply not for you.

Do you feel that way? Not talking of bad days but do you feel that way all the time or at least most of the time?

Yes, and I attribute much of it to being an introvert, and very Type-B at that. It's not that I don't like people; I do, and people are what make being on the internet worthwhile for me.

When all is said and done, I'd rather be home with my laptop or a good book than out painting the town red.

Quagmire · Aug 15, 2012

"Does the outside world exhaust you completely?"

It takes it's toll.

What gets to me is the fact that these days people seem to be in their own little bubble most of the time, and it seems like everything outside of that bubble---including the other people around them---are just part of the scenery to them.

I'm talking about:

---people walking down the sidewalk texting: I guess everybody is just supposed to get out of their way, since they obviously aren't looking where they're going so how can it be their responsibility? And for some reason, they never seem to walk in a straight line, so you wind up having to get out of their way 3 or 4 times by the time you finally pass each other.

---people in the aisle at the grocery store with their shopping cart parked sideways and their bodies filling the gap in between. Then their cellphone rings and you know you might as well cross whatever it was you were trying to get to in that aisle off of your list.

---exp. from this morning: I'm at the local University library, looking for a computer station.

First one, no good: the last guy spilled something all over the keyboard and the table.

Next station: no good. Someone's talking on their cellphone right next door.

Next station: looks OK. . .but nope, the last guy had lunch at the station and got potato chip bits all over the seat (how do you do that if you're sitting in it? There should have at least been an *** shaped clear spot).

Next station: OK, this should work. . .except that the guy next to me is whacking his foot against the floor like Thumper from Bambi, only stopping for the occasional break when he leans forward to giggle at the screen (guess his motor skills aren't developed enough to allow him to do both at the same time).

It's like nobody realizes there are other people on the planet anymore.

dyanaprajna2011 · Aug 15, 2012

I've been an introvert all my life. However, as time goes on, I find that I'm more and more cynical, which doesn't really jive well with the Buddha's idea of compassion. I'd much rather just stay at home, by myself, than go out and be around people. However, I'd also much rather be outside by myself, than inside around people. I've gone days, weeks, even months, without any social interaction, and it's suited me just fine. However, I think that, while there is no inherent problem with this type of mentality, I do recognize a flaw in it, even if it's just a flaw for me, and I think that goes back to the Buddha's ideas of compassion. It's hard to show compassion and kindness when you can't stand people so much you try to avoid them at all costs.

Music · Aug 15, 2012

dyanaprajna2011 said:
I've been an introvert all my life. However, as time goes on, I find that I'm more and more cynical, which doesn't really jive well with the Buddha's idea of compassion. I'd much rather just stay at home, by myself, than go out and be around people. However, I'd also much rather be outside by myself, than inside around people. I've gone days, weeks, even months, without any social interaction, and it's suited me just fine. However, I think that, while there is no inherent problem with this type of mentality, I do recognize a flaw in it, even if it's just a flaw for me, and I think that goes back to the Buddha's ideas of compassion. It's hard to show compassion and kindness when you can't stand people so much you try to avoid them at all costs.

Wasn't the Buddha himself kind of an introvert? Also I believe one can be empathetic even being able to connect to people socially. I may not be a lover of humanity, but at least theoretically I recognize that the poor and the weak deserve compassion, and so on. Sort of like 'agape' in Christianity.

Shermana · Aug 15, 2012

Music said:
I am not just talking of intro vs extroversion. The outside world so exhausts you that you'd rather stay home. You can't stand people, and it's nothing personal. Just a general dislike. You'd rather spend time with books and computers than people. People are simply not for you.

Do you feel that way? Not talking of bad days but do you feel that way all the time or at least most of the time?

10 years ago I'd say no.

Nowadays....

SLAMH · Aug 15, 2012

Music said:
You can't stand people, and it's nothing personal. Just a general dislike. You'd rather spend time with books and computers than people. People are simply not for you.

Do you feel that way? Not talking of bad days but do you feel that way all the time or at least most of the time?

Well, I spend most of the time alone, maybe it is a general dislike but to me it is a matter of interest. I mean if I sat with a group of people and they started talking about certain belief, concepts, ideas or even started wondering about the purpose of the existence I wouldn't resist and but do involve in the dialogue. But, however if they started talking about something I find meaningless I would feel like I'm wasting my time.

dyanaprajna2011 · Aug 16, 2012

Music said:
Wasn't the Buddha himself kind of an introvert? Also I believe one can be empathetic even being able to connect to people socially. I may not be a lover of humanity, but at least theoretically I recognize that the poor and the weak deserve compassion, and so on. Sort of like 'agape' in Christianity.

I'm not sure I would say the Buddha was an introvert, but he might have had some of those tendencies. But, I've been thinking recently that it is possible to be a cynic, and yet still show compassion. I'm thinking that I can not trust people or their intentions, and yet still show the compassion of the Buddha; the two don't have to be mutually exclusive. I'm still putting thought into that, though.

1137 · Aug 17, 2012

Music said:
I am not just talking of intro vs extroversion. The outside world so exhausts you that you'd rather stay home. You can't stand people, and it's nothing personal. Just a general dislike. You'd rather spend time with books and computers than people. People are simply not for you.

Do you feel that way? Not talking of bad days but do you feel that way all the time or at least most of the time?

Hmmm, in general I would have to answer yes. I refuse to drive because the stupidity of mankind becomes so clear when you see them drive. I hate dealing with people the majority of the time. People are completely oblivious to what is going on, inconsiderate, ignorant, things of that nature. Every time you go out you are guaranteed to see someone you would consider to be acting like an unevolved moron. I do have close friends and family who I will go out with, and we just complain about humanity together.

I find it hard to make close connections with people simply because they tend to have few respectable traits, be uninteresting, act immaturely, are unable to have an intelligent conversation, etc. I'm not saying everyone should be all business or anything, nothing wrong with immaturity as long as it is not your normal state of mind.

But, in short, yes I find the outside world exhausting as well as depressing. Sucks the hope right out of me.

Jainarayan · Aug 17, 2012

DreadFish said:
To a degree, yes. And I think that is introversion. I take my socializing on in waves, but after being out for 2 days, constantly in the presence of people unless I go to the bathroom, its almost surreal to be fully alone again, and then I prefer it. I like going out and doing things alone, like biking or going to the park.

To quote Bukowski on the issue, "I don't hate people, I just feel better when they're not around." In fact, when im not around people, I love them. I like to have people in the house and me back in my room away from them

Still, I like to be around people for measured periods. There are times when im ready to be around people and that's what im gonna do, then when I've had my fill, I leave.

:clap Could not have said it better myself.

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