MatCauthorn
Member
I have recently come up against a somewhat disturbing trend with a friend of mine, in regards to our religious differences. She is a non-evangelical protestant (I'm not sure what denomination) and a few months ago we had a big discussion in which she accused me of being anti-religious (I am a waffling agnostic/humanist, but am definitely not a theist). I took umbrage to her accusations and we had a lengthy conversation in which I told her that I feel that religion is something people should be able to discuss openly without being afraid of hurting people's feelings. She said that I should open myself to possibilities beyond just what I can perceive with my senses and determine through reason. I, not wanting to precipitate a big argument, de-escalated the situation and we never really resolved the issues behind it.
Ever since that time, I've been getting weird vibes from her anytime a religious topic comes up. I've begun specifically avoiding bringing up anything of a religious nature so as not to offend her or cause another problem. This is a problem, though, because she is one of my best friends and I want to be able to talk with her about thoughts I have on religion and my own belief without her thinking that I am putting down her religion, or religion in general (if I say something negative about Christianity, for example, or even theistic belief versus agnosticism or atheism).
So that's a long-winded way of asking -- is it wise to discuss religion with friends who do not necessarily share your same beliefs? How do you talk about topics which border on religious issues (the religion of the president, war in Iraq, the death penalty, Ten Commandments cases, etc.) without losing friends? Or do you just avoid talking about such things at all?
Thanks.
-- Mat
Ever since that time, I've been getting weird vibes from her anytime a religious topic comes up. I've begun specifically avoiding bringing up anything of a religious nature so as not to offend her or cause another problem. This is a problem, though, because she is one of my best friends and I want to be able to talk with her about thoughts I have on religion and my own belief without her thinking that I am putting down her religion, or religion in general (if I say something negative about Christianity, for example, or even theistic belief versus agnosticism or atheism).
So that's a long-winded way of asking -- is it wise to discuss religion with friends who do not necessarily share your same beliefs? How do you talk about topics which border on religious issues (the religion of the president, war in Iraq, the death penalty, Ten Commandments cases, etc.) without losing friends? Or do you just avoid talking about such things at all?
Thanks.
-- Mat