Dating after age 25

[The Sum of Awe]

I found it at work.

Work. I have crushes on two coworkers right now, and am going to see where it goes.

That's a great place to meet people, unfortunately it's the luck of a draw. I suppose I could just job-jump until I meet a single lady whose interested

The other place I would normally offer doesn't exist near you.

Have you tried to see if there were any like "singles groups" on the Meetup app. Or even just engaging in a hobby that can bring you in contact with people. The mall near me had a game shop, that would do game nights with various cards, board or strategy games.

You've got me curious in "the other place" I must know

Meetup app doesn't have much in this area. I've been going to the city and visiting different shops where I might bump into people. Just a couple book stores so far, I'll keep doing this with different places different times. An issue is that I think I should wait until I actually have something to say before I approach a woman, and really I've always just kind of avoided strangers so... what I'm saying is I have no idea how to cold approach lol.

It will find you when you least expect it.

One problem is some confuse love with company(so they won't be alone) and while being wrapped up with that company, they miss other opportunities that may have turned out to be love.

You've made a great point. Patience is a virtue. I shouldn't just choose a person because I want someone here, I need to be patient for a person i really want to be with.

 

[JustGeorge]

Wow, that's awful! I never would've dreamed a UU congregation would be so ungrateful. Was this the managers themselves saying these things?

The reverend once tried talking to my then two year old son. He wouldn't look at her and wouldn't respond. "Oh my gosh! Don't you ever talk to him? You need to spend more time talking to your son! He should be able to respond to a greeting by now!"

My son turned out to be autistic.

Because we were 'poor', there was all kinds of assumptions made about us(besides that we didn't talk to our children )... the reverend also brought over a care box of expired food(some ten years expired!) after cleaning out an elderly member's cupboard...

I believe that lady is gone now, but most of the bullies were highly involved or visible members(the ones complaining about the cleaning job fit into this category). My husband did a summer sermon once, and as he was setting up, he was getting cracks made about his topic(because it was theistic).

Like I said, if you fit a certain mold, its probably a good community. There were a lot of people who did fit that, and were very happy with it. But if you don't fit into that ideal, you might struggle a little.

 

[The Hammer]

You've got me curious in "the other place" I must know

Meetup app doesn't have much in this area. I've been going to the city and visiting different shops where I might bump into people. Just a couple book stores so far, I'll keep doing this with different places different times. An issue is that I think I should wait until I actually have something to say before I approach a woman, and really I've always just kind of avoided strangers so... what I'm saying is I have no idea how to cold approach lol.

There is a program/place in a few of the major cities of the US and one in Canada called "Events and Adventures". It basically offers various events for people to sign up for, and everyone is single. Hoping to foster meeting someone in an environment where an interest is shared (sporting event, snowboarding, board games, cooking
class etc).

What sorts of hobbies do you enjoy participating in?

 

[The Sum of Awe]

The reverend once tried talking to my then two year old son. He wouldn't look at her and wouldn't respond. "Oh my gosh! Don't you ever talk to him? You need to spend more time talking to your son! He should be able to respond to a greeting by now!"

My son turned out to be autistic.

Because we were 'poor', there was all kinds of assumptions made about us(besides that we didn't talk to our children )... the reverend also brought over a care box of expired food(some ten years expired!) after cleaning out an elderly member's cupboard...

I believe that lady is gone now, but most of the bullies were highly involved or visible members(the ones complaining about the cleaning job fit into this category). My husband did a summer sermon once, and as he was setting up, he was getting cracks made about his topic(because it was theistic).

Like I said, if you fit a certain mold, its probably a good community. There were a lot of people who did fit that, and were very happy with it. But if you don't fit into that ideal, you might struggle a little.

I'm sorry that you went through that! Perhaps that lady was old and from a generation that didn't understand autism well (not an excuse, just an explanation) That's ridiculous that they gave you expired food, what were they thinking??

I'll go and visit, what can it hurt to visit a few times?

 

[Trailblazer]

Where do you find love?

You are so young. At your age I was not even thinking about dating. I was just graduating from my first MA program. My husband came down from heaven when I was 32 but now he has gone back. I do not want to be alone for the rest of my life nor do I want a complete stranger living in my house so for now I have to settle on my eight cats for company.

 

[Trailblazer]

Women expect you to take care of them, even in this new age of feminism. I'm on welfare and can barely afford to pay for my own existence, let alone another person.

They do? I would never expect a man to take care of me, I have always taken care of myself.
Maybe that is partly because my father took care of my mother and then when he died she could not take care of herself. I vowed for that to never happen to me.

 

[JustGeorge]

I'm sorry that you went through that! Perhaps that lady was old and from a generation that didn't understand autism well (not an excuse, just an explanation) That's ridiculous that they gave you expired food, what were they thinking??

I'll go and visit, what can it hurt to visit a few times?

Well, she wasn't old(50s, so middle aged), and knew well enough, but her prejudices hung out. But it was years ago. I hope where ever she went she's learned to deal with them a little better.

Visiting won't hurt a thing, and sometimes you do get some really interesting sermons. Our problem was we leaped in before checking the water for gators. If you stay aware, you should be fine. If you don't find who you're looking for exactly there, they may have events posted that might be of interest that could hint where else you might find her.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

There is a program/place in a few of the major cities of the US and one in Canada called "Events and Adventures". It basically offers various events for people to sign up for, and everyone is single. Hoping to foster meeting someone in an environment where an interest is shared (sporting event, snowboarding, board games, cooking
class etc).

What sorts of hobbies do you enjoy participating in?

Ah, okay, you're right that woudn't be in my area.

As for social hobbies I like many things bicycling, camping, visiting malls, city-exploring, I enjoy reading which could be a seen as a social hobby, cafes. I guess things that don't require much skill tbh (so not much for sports or cooking - board games are cool though). I'm also a heavy writer but I don't know where I would find a community for that though except online.

 

[Trailblazer]

I found my lovemuffin right here on RF, but I wasn't looking. Nevertheless, we've been married 6 years now.

How'd you do that? Start up a Conversation?

 

[JustGeorge]

Ah, okay, you're right that woudn't be in my area.

As for social hobbies I like many things bicycling, camping, visiting malls, city-exploring, I enjoy reading which could be a seen as a social hobby, cafes. I guess things that don't require much skill tbh (so not much for sports or cooking - board games are cool though). I'm also a heavy writer but I don't know where I would find a community for that though except online.

Not sure how far you are from CR, but there's a board game 'area' in the mall there.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Not sure how far you are from CR, but there's a board game 'area' in the mall there.

I will put that in one of the places to check out I've been to something like that before in the Mall of America, was a neat place.

 

[Spirit of Light]

It seems really hard to start relationships once you're out of school. You're kinda just waiting for that someone to fall into your life, and then you hope to see them regularly enough to get to know them, then you hope things go well enough to start a relationship...

Tinder and dating apps? No dice. I keep my account up and swipe sometimes, but no matches. I don't think I'm THAT ugly and my bio might need work, idk. But honestly a lot of it might have to do with the algorithm.

Bars/clubs? Eh, seems unlikely. A hook-up possibly, finding the love of my life? Probably not.

I've been thinking of joining different churches (there's really not many other types of social groups in my area). I know there's a UU organization a half hour away, I might check that out. But I don't expect to find a single women there my age, I'll at least have a community but I'd still like something a little more personal.

Honestly feel like I'm literally waiting for an angel to just fall out of the sky one day (happened once but I messed that up ah well I know better for next time)

Where do you find love?

I found my current girlfriend working in my favorite coffeshop, she made me an amazing cappuccino so I started to only buy the coffe she make.

I was 44 years old when I met her

 

[ChristineM]

Where do you find love?

Regilar visits to a cafe, buy your prospect a coffee.

Art galleries

Libraries

Join special interest clubs.

The gym.

The supermarket freezer section.

Walking/jogging/the park

Not that I'm looking but these are the places ive been hit on.

And some advice from Ed Sheeran

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Regilar visits to a cafe, buy your prospect a coffee.

Art galleries

Libraries

Join special interest clubs.

The gym.

The supermarket freezer section.

Walking/jogging/the park

Not that I'm looking but these are the places ive been hit on.

And some advice from Ed Sheeran

The freezer section I can see the pickup lines being creative there lol

Hmm, I'm not sure what the video is telling me. My approach has always been casual conversation and I really don't know how to get it beyond that, it seems the video is saying "boy let's not talk too much let's dance". Perhaps I don't need to though? Perhaps casual conversation is all I need and it could lead to more regular visits and/or number exchange? that's how I always imagined it going.

 

[JIMMY12345]

It seems really hard to start relationships once you're out of school. You're kinda just waiting for that someone to fall into your life, and then you hope to see them regularly enough to get to know them, then you hope things go well enough to start a relationship...

Tinder and dating apps? No dice. I keep my account up and swipe sometimes, but no matches. I don't think I'm THAT ugly and my bio might need work, idk. But honestly a lot of it might have to do with the algorithm.

Bars/clubs? Eh, seems unlikely. A hook-up possibly, finding the love of my life? Probably not.

I've been thinking of joining different churches (there's really not many other types of social groups in my area). I know there's a UU organization a half hour away, I might check that out. But I don't expect to find a single women there my age, I'll at least have a community but I'd still like something a little more personal.

Honestly feel like I'm literally waiting for an angel to just fall out of the sky one day (happened once but I messed that up ah well I know better for next time)

Where do you find love?

Not easy also try a gym or running/cycling club.