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Is Underage Marriage Allowed in Islam?

Raymann

Active Member
I admit, I haven't done a lot of research on the topic but I have listened to a lot of debates on it.
Now I came across Quran 65:4

"As for your women past the age of menstruation, in case you do not know, their waiting period is three months, and those who have not menstruated as well. As for those who are pregnant, their waiting period ends with delivery.1 And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make their matters easy for them."

This verse refers to the period of time needed to remarry after a divorce.
It clearly states that women who are married and still have not menstruated have to wait 3 months after divorce to remarry.
We can draw the conclusion that Allah sees this situation as normal and therefore it doesn't look like there is any kind of prohibition about girls under age (pre-pubescent) getting married.
In other words, what we consider "pedophilia" is allowed under Islam.
 

The Hammer

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Premium Member
"As for your women past the age of menstruation, in case you do not know, their waiting period is three months, and those who have not menstruated as well. As for those who are pregnant, their waiting period ends with delivery.1 And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make their matters easy for them."

I doubt this is used in modern times.

This was common practice in the middle ages and before, not just in the middle east.
 

Saint Frankenstein

Wanderer From Afar
Premium Member
I doubt this is used in modern times.

This was common practice in the middle ages and before, not just in the middle east.
Adults marrying prepubescent children hasn't been common anywhere I know of. In most cultures I'm aware of, you were viewed as an adult when you started puberty, so around 12 or so. So adolescents, yes. But not literal children.
 

We Never Know

No Slack
I admit, I haven't done a lot of research on the topic but I have listened to a lot of debates on it.
Now I came across Quran 65:4

"As for your women past the age of menstruation, in case you do not know, their waiting period is three months, and those who have not menstruated as well. As for those who are pregnant, their waiting period ends with delivery.1 And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make their matters easy for them."

This verse refers to the period of time needed to remarry after a divorce.
It clearly states that women who are married and still have not menstruated have to wait 3 months after divorce to remarry.
We can draw the conclusion that Allah sees this situation as normal and therefore it doesn't look like there is any kind of prohibition about girls under age (pre-pubescent) getting married.
In other words, what we consider "pedophilia" is allowed under Islam.

I think you are assuming menstral ages don't change/evolve. What was the menstral ages 2000-3000 years ago?

For example "the average age at menarche in 1840 was 16.5 years, now it is 13 years."

The age of menarche - PubMed
 
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icehorse

......unaffiliated...... anti-dogmatist
Premium Member
The OP brings up an example of a wider point, and that is all of the problems associated with putting so much stock in scripture.
 

The Hammer

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Premium Member
Adults marrying prepubescent children hasn't been common anywhere I know of. In most cultures I'm aware of, you were viewed as an adult when you started puberty, so around 12 or so. So adolescents, yes. But not literal children.

This Quran quote states after menses.

That's not prepubescent. And yeah, it does still go on in parts of the world today (very small part). I'm not justifying it. Just saying it still happens. And I haven't heard of it occuring in the middle east in modern times.
 

Saint Frankenstein

Wanderer From Afar
Premium Member
Pedophilia refers to prepubescent. Older, but not fully adult, is hemophilia. Still creepy though.
They were treated as adults, not kids at that age (or it could've been 13-15, as people were generally older when they started puberty in the past). The concept of "teenagers" as some distinct category didn't really exist until modern times. They had to do the work of adults, too. They also weren't necessarily married off to 50 year olds, either.
 
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fantome profane

Anti-Woke = Anti-Justice
Premium Member
I think you are assuming menstral ages don't change/evolve. What was the menstral ages 2000-3000 years ago?

For example "the average age at menarche in 1840 was 16.5 years, now it is 13 years."

The age of menarche - PubMed
You might think an all knowing God would have known that menstrual age can and will very and would be different in the future. And knowing this might have picked a different way to delineate age of consent.

On the other hand this would be just the kind of think you would expect from men writing 1400 years ago.
 

exchemist

Veteran Member
Afaik, early/child marriages like this were never consumated until many years later. That's what we've discussed in Anthropology. I could be wrong.
In Romeo and Juliet, Paris and Juliet's father discuss this. Capulet objects that she is not yet fourteen and then says: "Let two more summers wither in their pride ere we may think her ripe to be a bride.
Paris: Younger than she are happy mothers made.
Capulet: And too soon marred are those so early made.....

So they are arguing about whether 13 or 15 is a suitable age for her to be married - and to get pregnant.

That is late medieval Italy.

But real with real child marriages, i.e. pre-pubescent, I'm sure you are right.
 

exchemist

Veteran Member
I admit, I haven't done a lot of research on the topic but I have listened to a lot of debates on it.
Now I came across Quran 65:4

"As for your women past the age of menstruation, in case you do not know, their waiting period is three months, and those who have not menstruated as well. As for those who are pregnant, their waiting period ends with delivery.1 And whoever is mindful of Allah, He will make their matters easy for them."

This verse refers to the period of time needed to remarry after a divorce.
It clearly states that women who are married and still have not menstruated have to wait 3 months after divorce to remarry.
We can draw the conclusion that Allah sees this situation as normal and therefore it doesn't look like there is any kind of prohibition about girls under age (pre-pubescent) getting married.
In other words, what we consider "pedophilia" is allowed under Islam.
OK, but you might as well conclude from reading the gospels that modern Christianity and Judaism condone stoning to death! Any scripture has to be read with an understanding of the cultural norms of the time, not read across without adjustment to life over a thousand years later.
 

Father Heathen

Veteran Member
OK, but you might as well conclude from reading the gospels that modern Christianity and Judaism condone stoning to death! Any scripture has to be read with an understanding of the cultural norms of the time, not read across without adjustment to life over a thousand years later.

But these things are presented as representing god's own word and will (inerrant and unchanging), which should supersede cultural norms rather than beholden to them.
 

exchemist

Veteran Member
But these things are presented as representing god's own word and will (inerrant and unchanging), which should supersede cultural norms rather than beholden to them.
Says who, though? In virtually every religion there is considerable interpretation of these ancient texts.
 

Father Heathen

Veteran Member
Says who?

Those who claim their holy scriptures and religious figures are inerrant representatives of god?

For example, the bible gives instructions on how to sell one's own daughter into slavery (Exodus 21:7-8). People defend this by saying it was culturally acceptable at the time, but this suggests that social norms dictate morality rather than god.
 
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