Curse my lack of social ability

[Phasmid]

There's a party at the house in honour of my house mate, yet I know no one... so I'm sat in my smoke filled room typing this :' (

Ah well... *sips beer*

What to do?

 

[Phasmid]

Now I just took a leak but someone knocked on the door and I couldn't... continue... so I had to cut it short and find two pretty girls staring at me when I leave the room :' (

*sips beer*

 

[Comicaze247]

Well, if your roommate isn't introducing you to his friends, then he's a bit lacking in social ability himself. Just introduce yourself to some people *shrug* It can be hard at first, I know, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. You could start by talking to your roommate about something, then turn to whoever's around him then say "Hi, I'm so and so's roommate, what's your name?" "How do you know so and so?"

 

[Phasmid]

Can't do that.

 

[Phasmid]

Roll on 03:00....

 

[Stellify]

There's a party at the house in honour of my house mate, yet I know no one... so I'm sat in my smoke filled room typing this :' (

Ah well... *sips beer*

What to do?

Haha I wouldn't complain too much about beer and RF
I mean, you still like us, right? Right?! :sad4:


Heh..but in all seriousness..If you want to go socialize, do it When I don't know many people, I usually take it upon myself to serve the drinks (ie: stand by the keg and fill, or by the liquor bottles and mix things for people)...Everyone likes you because you're giving them alcohol, and you get a steady stream of people, so you don't have to worry about trying to keep up a single conversation for too long (like when you hardly know someone, and things just get awkward because you run out of things to talk about? Then one of you has to find a non-offensive way of leaving? I hate that lol)

Edit: I'm super, super shy..but that's what works best for me or I have a really good friend come over who's more socially skilled than I am, and it eases things a bit because I can hang out with them all night while meeting other people.

 

[Comicaze247]

Can't do that.

Why not? :areyoucra

 

[Phasmid]

Why not? :areyoucra

I'd freeze up and/or stutter like a fool. And I'm generally useless with people unless I'm talking through text.

 

[Phasmid]

Anoyingly there's a Russian girl who seems really nice... but I can't think of anything to say to her... *smacks head on desk*

 

[Phasmid]

Sigh... I will go down again and stand in the corner for a bit.

 

[Stellify]

I'd freeze up and/or stutter like a fool. And I'm generally useless with people unless I'm talking through text.

I sympathize completely :sorry1:

EDIT: Also with the below post...

 

[Phasmid]

Argh.... for **** sake...

I can't stand this... I'm completely useless. I hate social situations. I think I'd rather be kicked in the teeth than talk to people I don't know.

 

[Phasmid]

I sympathize completely :sorry1:

Thanks... it's just annoying... if I had a few people to talk to, I'd be okay. But the 2 people I DO know, go off and do their own thing. Story of my life, I'm invisible, hence the name Phasmid.

 

[Stellify]

Is there a reason you're so shy around people? And is there anyone you know that makes you less so?
One of the reasons I like my room mate so much is that she's totally crazy, very social...she brings me out of my shell a little (although at times I'm mentally kicking and screaming the whole way), and also does most of the talking...so I can be involved, but not feel like I'm under some gigantic spotlight.

 

[Comicaze247]

I'd freeze up and/or stutter like a fool. And I'm generally useless with people unless I'm talking through text.

Practice practice practice. The more you say "I can't" the more you won't be able to do it. People don't tend to bite. Women are more approachable than you may think. You'll never get good at it unless you start.

 

[Stellify]

Thanks... it's just annoying... if I had a few people to talk to, I'd be okay. But the 2 people I DO know, go off and do their own thing. Story of my life, I'm invisible, hence the name Phasmid.

Yeah, that's the way I am..I'm more likely to go for a walk or leave altogether if there are a bunch of people I don't know. It makes me crazy, and I'm just no good at being social Too shy, easily embarrassed, etc. etc.
Invite someone else over! Then sit down and have a beer with them.

 

[Phasmid]

Is there a reason you're so shy around people? And is there anyone you know that makes you less so?
One of the reasons I like my room mate so much is that she's totally crazy, very social...she brings me out of my shell a little (although at times I'm mentally kicking and screaming the whole way), and also does most of the talking...so I can be involved, but not feel like I'm under some gigantic spotlight.

Well put it this way. After spending ages stood in a crowd saying nothing, my friend says, "Are you alright?" leading people to stare at me like something's wrong with me.

 

[Phasmid]

Practice practice practice. The more you say "I can't" the more you won't be able to do it. People don't tend to bite. Women are more approachable than you may think. You'll never get good at it unless you start.

Luckily there's plenty of alcohol to drown out the, "I can't".

 

[Phasmid]

Yeah, that's the way I am..I'm more likely to go for a walk or leave altogether if there are a bunch of people I don't know. It makes me crazy, and I'm just no good at being social Too shy, easily embarrassed, etc. etc.
Invite someone else over! Then sit down and have a beer with them.

I'd love to, if I weren't 200 miles away from my friends.

 

[Stellify]

Well put it this way. After spending ages stood in a crowd saying nothing, my friend says, "Are you alright?" leading people to stare at me like something's wrong with me.

Ack. I hate that. My response is usually to turn bright red and say something like "Yeah! I'm just listening...."

Wish I was there to help out, man. We could be awkward and unsocial together