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It took me many years to like that guy in the mirror
Glad you got there. Hope it stays that way for you through the rest of your life.
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Why did i have the need to defend my self in the past?
- Thread starter Spirit of Light
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Glad you got there. Hope it stays that way for you through the rest of your life.
Spirit of Light
Be who ever you want
I hope so too
Spirit of Light
Be who ever you want
I do no longer seeing it as a weakness to admit one's own faults or weaknesses in life. it might even be an eye-opener for one's self.
Hey nobody is perfect,an army saying is “improvise overcome and adapt”,critique is fine but don’t over think it,don’t beat yourself up.
Spirit of Light
Be who ever you want
I do not beat my self up
only experiences new layers of understanding about who I am 
Bird123
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This question asked in the headline is a question I asked myself this weekend. Why did I always have to say?
Yes, but.......
Why was I unable to just say, This is what I stand for, take it or leave it......
So what if people disagree with me. let them do it....
The current answer to my own questions is: Because I was seeking validation, seeking to be seen or heard, and was afraid of letting people down. I did not trust myself, not even my own spiritual belief
So I defended myself so hard that I started to see my own flaw.
To admit that I fooled myself for so long, was the hardest thing for me to do from within my heart. To say it to myself "you are weak"
But it did wake me up. and that is to me the lesson I take with me. It is ok others disagree with me, and I don't have to be correct all the time.
Life is meant to be lived, not feared because others see you as different. It is ok to be different.
Ah, the question remains: Are you really so different than so many out there? I think not!! I see so many fighting to never be wrong even when they are. They can tap dance their way into justifying anything regardless of what is actually true. On the other hand, you are right, more is learned and Discovered by being wrong than almost anything else. Perhaps one should not fight being wrong so much.
I can't wait for my next great screw up. It's going to be Glorious!!!
That's what I see. It's very clear!!
I do not beat my self up
Nothing wrong with that.
Spirit of Light
Be who ever you want
As I see it today, it is just a layer on the sufi path I am on
As I see it today, it is just a layer on the sufi path I am on
Happy trails then.
Shakeel
Well-Known Member
Everyone needs validation. It's a basic need.
This question asked in the headline is a question I asked myself this weekend. Why did I always have to say?
Yes, but.......
Why was I unable to just say, This is what I stand for, take it or leave it......
So what if people disagree with me. let them do it....
The current answer to my own questions is: Because I was seeking validation, seeking to be seen or heard, and was afraid of letting people down. I did not trust myself, not even my own spiritual belief
So I defended myself so hard that I started to see my own flaw.
To admit that I fooled myself for so long, was the hardest thing for me to do from within my heart. To say it to myself "you are weak"
But it did wake me up. and that is to me the lesson I take with me. It is ok others disagree with me, and I don't have to be correct all the time.
Life is meant to be lived, not feared because others see you as different. It is ok to be different.
I like the saying... "it's not wrong... just different".