This is a good topic, and one that I feel passionate about because Paul has gotten such a bad rap for 2000 years as a woman hater/discriminator and much worse! Most of this is found in the Pastoral Letters (1 & 2 Timothy and Titus). At this point in time, pretty much every legit Biblical Scholar would attest that Paul was not the author of the Pastoral Letters. Probably 80% or more believe this. I am in that camp (not that I am an authoritative Biblical Scholar, yet anyways
). But its painfully obvious that Paul did not write those letters! And what is even more painfully obvious is that Pauls theology and ideology towards women was nothing like what is described in the Pastoral Letters!
Let us take a look at Pauls most important letter (arguably of course), the letter to the church at Rome (Romans). Romans is Pauls most systematic laying out of the gospel. It is basically a fundraising letter. Paul wants to go to Spain (which at that time was the western most part of the known world) but he needs financial support to do so. So he writes to the Church at Rome and is asking for funds. However, before the Romans just start giving Paul money, they of course want to know what he plans on doing, what his gospel is all about. That is why Romans is so simple in describing the gospel.
Anyways, as we can see, this is a very important letter, arguably Pauls most important letter. Now who does he entrust with this precious document, to take to the Church in Rome (one quick side note, when you think of Church in the first century, do not think of build buildings with pews and such, think of small homes, with maybe 50 people at most in each house, probably smaller in most)? A woman by the name of Phoebe. Romans chapter 16 makes this clear. So what Phoebe would do is go around to these homes (the Church in Rome) and read Pauls letter, and of course answer questions, basically be Pauls representative. So much for women being silent in the Church eh?! Haha!
More evidence of Pauls real view on the role of women is in 1st Corinthians. It is a woman who brings Paul a report of all that is going on in the city, and prompts Paul to write the letter and she takes it back with her. Paul even refers to women as co-laborers (equal partners in spreading the Gospel) and deaconesses. But study this for yourself, I think youll be surprised to how Paul really viewed the role of women and how he actually treated them.