Circle_One said:
But see, I was never your typical child, I guess. I specifically tried to be friends with those that the other kids ostricized because I always thought it disgusting that kids could treat one another in that way. I invited everyone because I wanted everyone there. I wanted everyone there because I thought it unfair that some kids would get left out. I felt everyone should always feel included, because we were, afterall, just kids and didn't need to treat one another in such a horrid way.
But that's just it...it was what you wanted to do. I, for example, wouldn't have wanted to invite the popular people to my party (which wouldn't have made a huge difference...they wouldn't have shown up anyway) because I didn't like them. Why would I want people I don't like at
my party? Why would I want to go to a party for someone who didn't like me?
Circle_One said:
Perhaps I can be swayed to understand your argument for the birthday party. I won't change my opinion of it, but I do see where you are coming from. However, I am steadfast, at least, in my opinion of the holiday cards. If you're going to give one to one kid, each kid should receive one. Such a happy occasion should not be made depressive for a young child. No matter what the reason.
I've never seen any elementary school circumstances where kids
weren't required to give valentine's cards to everyone. I think that's pretty standard.
Circle_One said:
See, I was a bit more hard to define when I was in school. I didn't fit into a clique. I guess I just had a "me" clique. I was friends with who I wanted and could never care less what anyone thought. This made the "it" kids want to be friends with me, mainly, because they couldn't be. I refused to be friends with anyone who treated anyone else poorly. So basically because, instead of vying for their attention, I was turning myself and those who followed me, against the "it" kids of my school, and this made them want me in their clique even more.
See, even you didn't want
everyone in your group of friends.
Circle_One said:
School, especially elementary (meaning, it's a start of a new phase in life, making new friends, etc), is a hard time for kids in life and I always thought the process of making it more horrid and more hard for some kids, by others, quite despicable. Which is why I believe in the things previously mentioned in the OP.
Honestly, elementary school wasn't that hard for me. It was middle school that was aweful.