You have to confront the other person's differences, their communication style, their truth, and their context in order to find unity or greater peace. We get beyond the bias, the assumptions, the lack of physical and/or intonations and actually put some effort in understanding each other.
I was telling
@loverofhumanity that it starts with you; it starts here.
I've only seen less than a handful of threads in the debate section, surprisingly, that people actually walked away without fussing. They learnt something. Maybe not something new but a different perspective. They were civil about it. I just observed since everything was going so well. No one argued. There was a lot of division. Positive division. RF should have a genius world records for these things. It would be nice to look back on it and say, "wow, it is worth coming here because I actually
want to learn something from this place."
But it defeats the purpose for any universalist to come to RF, really. Yes, we can talk about differences, but if you are not challenged for the logic of your belief (as we are always challenged with ours), what are you wanting to learn that you don't already know or agreed to?