My grandfather had a massive stroke Monday night. The left side of his brain is no longer working. MY father said they came in this morning with a mix of Morphine and Propaphal. He doesn't think it will be much longer before he finally "gives up the ghost."
I can't find it in myself to care one way or the other whether the man lives or dies.
I am not going to ask if this is common. I am sure there are others who feel the same way about certain family members.
I mean I can be supportive of my father as he loses his, but I don't feel anything otherwise.
I am not sure of what to discuss. I guess I may be having a problem understanding why I care so little.
He's not gone yet, though. That might be something to consider. He's dying, and you have not had a bond with him. In fact, it sounds like you've been distanced for some time now.
My ex-husband had a biological father that struggled with severe drug addiction and was distanced from many family members for years and years, including my ex. He never heard anything from him, though while he was still alive, my ex talked about his father as if he was "already dead" to him.
When he got the news that his biological father died at 43 of a heart attack (likely from an overdose), he fell apart. All at once, he felt a yearning and a depression of how things "could have been." I think it hit him unexpectedly, because he was all at once surprised by his reaction and emotions while at the same time actively mourning.
I'm not saying that will happen with you, though, but it's one possibility to consider.
Another is....well....we're getting older. I noticed after a best friend of mine from college died, then another school friend died, then a close cousin died, and my grandmother died, and my aunt died....I noticed I was starting to attend as many funerals as I was baby showers and weddings. My husband and I have a good friend who is nearing 70, and he tells us all the time how he enjoys our company because (as he says), "My friends keep dying on me." LOL
I seriously doubt you will approach an impending death of your immediate family the same way. It's like you'd stated about other family members who have passed, and that the grief is different for all of them.