There is something psychopathic about our culture and society.
Think about it. When we go to watch a film, the subject matter includes a hefty amount of violence, criminality, extreme-risk taking, deception and physical or sexual abuse. We have a celebrity culture based on the ability of people to outrage or shock us to get attention, often resulting in self-destructive behaviour involving drugs, alcohol or sexual abuse, or else huge levels of exploitation by the media and society to turn people into objects of fascination with no respect for personal integrity or boundaries. We have an economic and political system that's build on the assumption of amoral selfishness, treating violating standards of "normal" behaviour or even the law as a cost-benefit analysis of "can I get away with it?". Elections are won or lost based, not on principle or ability, but on charisma and personality, or "superficial charm". Advertising is based on making a degree of deception an integral part of our culture based on emotionally manipulating people to do things they wouldn't otherwise do. People's personal information is harvested in order to find out the things they won't tell you to better understand and manipulate them to behave in ways that suit the interests of elites to increase their money and power over us. We are obsessed with money and wanting more and are actively encouraged to treat consumption as a highly prized valued in its own right, irrespective of its effect on people or the environment. Our understanding of freedom increasingly verges on the libertine as we lay waste to conservative morals, traditions and institutions out of a desire to make money and pursue happiness, more often than not as instant gratification than as the more profound enduring happiness most of us seek. On an everyday basis, our morality works, but when you look at the big picture- the anomalies add up. We are alot less sane than we'd like to think we are.
There are occasional moments when I almost envy the level of dis-inhibition people can show. In small doses, a little bit of psychopathy means you can take risks and seize opportunities rather than putting other people first. It makes life look a lot easier not having to feel conflicted, worried about consequences, or offending people [though the reality may be much more complicated.] It can be quite fun to not feel held back by all the restrictions we face and its well known that a big dose of "confidence" (or narcassism) can be attractive and sexy- at least until the morning after when they've got out the bedroom and you realise they used you.
So I'm left with roughly three possibilities.
One. Maybe I'm just imagining things. its just me and its the depression talking. I'd like my life to be a bit more fulfilling and I'm a bit envious that "successful" people seem to put a lot less thought into the consequences of their actions than I do and get rewarded for it. maybe I just overthink. there's room for improvement if I let go a bit more but I don't need to shut down my empathy entirely.
Two. Psychopathy is genuinely an advantage in our society and make up a disproportionate fraction of the ruling class. We reward people for taking risks, having high levels of dis-inhibition, and out-right lying to people with money, power, fame, etc. They get the fast car, sink the luxury yacht to claim the insurance, break the law and have an army of lawyers to cover their ***. We really don't have to spend time feeling awkward with work colleagues at the office party, or with distant family members at Christmas who you wish would just die and could get their inheritance. its not an obligation- screw them all. Nice guys finish last and bad boys get the girl. Over. and Over. Again.
Three. Psychopaths don't have an advantage but we've created an expectation that they would because our media and morality are so out of sync with reality. We live in a fantasy world where we are told any dream is possible (like a psychopath) but the reality is much more frustrating and limiting. Criminals go to jail. They are forced to pay for their crimes. But we are fascinated by it and attracted to it because we have a system that values material gain over morality or even our sanity. Are we really all that frustrated with our own personal lives that we'd idealise dangerous people?
Can you relate to this? Are there moments when wish you could just switch off your empathy, lie in order to have sex with that really attractive person who you're never going to see again, or just hit that ******* that really deserves a trip to hospital?
Basically- Why does doing the "right" thing make us so miserable?
Help me out here.
Think about it. When we go to watch a film, the subject matter includes a hefty amount of violence, criminality, extreme-risk taking, deception and physical or sexual abuse. We have a celebrity culture based on the ability of people to outrage or shock us to get attention, often resulting in self-destructive behaviour involving drugs, alcohol or sexual abuse, or else huge levels of exploitation by the media and society to turn people into objects of fascination with no respect for personal integrity or boundaries. We have an economic and political system that's build on the assumption of amoral selfishness, treating violating standards of "normal" behaviour or even the law as a cost-benefit analysis of "can I get away with it?". Elections are won or lost based, not on principle or ability, but on charisma and personality, or "superficial charm". Advertising is based on making a degree of deception an integral part of our culture based on emotionally manipulating people to do things they wouldn't otherwise do. People's personal information is harvested in order to find out the things they won't tell you to better understand and manipulate them to behave in ways that suit the interests of elites to increase their money and power over us. We are obsessed with money and wanting more and are actively encouraged to treat consumption as a highly prized valued in its own right, irrespective of its effect on people or the environment. Our understanding of freedom increasingly verges on the libertine as we lay waste to conservative morals, traditions and institutions out of a desire to make money and pursue happiness, more often than not as instant gratification than as the more profound enduring happiness most of us seek. On an everyday basis, our morality works, but when you look at the big picture- the anomalies add up. We are alot less sane than we'd like to think we are.
There are occasional moments when I almost envy the level of dis-inhibition people can show. In small doses, a little bit of psychopathy means you can take risks and seize opportunities rather than putting other people first. It makes life look a lot easier not having to feel conflicted, worried about consequences, or offending people [though the reality may be much more complicated.] It can be quite fun to not feel held back by all the restrictions we face and its well known that a big dose of "confidence" (or narcassism) can be attractive and sexy- at least until the morning after when they've got out the bedroom and you realise they used you.
So I'm left with roughly three possibilities.
One. Maybe I'm just imagining things. its just me and its the depression talking. I'd like my life to be a bit more fulfilling and I'm a bit envious that "successful" people seem to put a lot less thought into the consequences of their actions than I do and get rewarded for it. maybe I just overthink. there's room for improvement if I let go a bit more but I don't need to shut down my empathy entirely.
Two. Psychopathy is genuinely an advantage in our society and make up a disproportionate fraction of the ruling class. We reward people for taking risks, having high levels of dis-inhibition, and out-right lying to people with money, power, fame, etc. They get the fast car, sink the luxury yacht to claim the insurance, break the law and have an army of lawyers to cover their ***. We really don't have to spend time feeling awkward with work colleagues at the office party, or with distant family members at Christmas who you wish would just die and could get their inheritance. its not an obligation- screw them all. Nice guys finish last and bad boys get the girl. Over. and Over. Again.
Three. Psychopaths don't have an advantage but we've created an expectation that they would because our media and morality are so out of sync with reality. We live in a fantasy world where we are told any dream is possible (like a psychopath) but the reality is much more frustrating and limiting. Criminals go to jail. They are forced to pay for their crimes. But we are fascinated by it and attracted to it because we have a system that values material gain over morality or even our sanity. Are we really all that frustrated with our own personal lives that we'd idealise dangerous people?
Can you relate to this? Are there moments when wish you could just switch off your empathy, lie in order to have sex with that really attractive person who you're never going to see again, or just hit that ******* that really deserves a trip to hospital?
Basically- Why does doing the "right" thing make us so miserable?
Help me out here.