After I finished this post I realized you might not even believe in hell. If that's the case, disregard this entire post.
I suppose I might believe in hell, but I don't know what type of a hell I believe in anymore. I find it to be nothing but a concept that distresses, distracts and derails.
I like what my boyfriend says regarding God and I think it's spot on. Though he doesn't fully believe in God, he believes if there is a God, God would be one of perfect love, logic and compassion.
Yes, this is a common rationalization. You believe that those who go to hell inflict it upon themselves, correct?God just gives them what they ask for, right? You and I both know that no one wants to go to hell, regardless of whatever decisions they make in their lives. If you and I can understand something this simple, don't you think a deity would understand it? Why would a deity create such a place if he had this simple understanding? If he was the epitome of love and compassion?.
I have an obligation to be honest. If I'm to tell you that I believe int he bible, which I do (to a great extent - though much perplexes me and I interpret much differently than others), I can't deny that there's much within that mentions such concepts of damnation, hell, separation from God, etc.
But, I think that this can be interpreted in various ways. Yes, I do believe that we choose our ultimate spritual destination by our actions and choices in this lifetime, but I'm not sure that this will equate to a surprising thing for people when they pass on to the next life, as I think those of sound mind, know themselves quite well.
I'm of the mindset that God gave us free will and I'm of the mindset that God has given us many avenues in which to find him. I'm not of the belief that Christianity has to be the "right" path, you see. I can't buy that anymore. I think that there's a universality to spirituality that will ultimately lead us all to the same end and we grasp the paths that work the best for us.
However, I do believe that there is an adversary to that which light/love/God represents. And that can come in the form of rejection/apathy/hatred, etc.
For those that choose to live in hatred and to do unkind things - knowing that they are doing so, without remorse - I can buy that there may be an alternate end for them. But what that end is...I don't know for certain. How "hell" is defined is something I simply don't know.
And I'm open to the fact that I may be wrong. This is just what makes sense to me. For those that WANT an afterlife apart from God, I can't fathom why God would force reconciliation.
I wouldn't want to think about it either, otherwise I would be forced to reconsider a deeply held belief, and that can be very unsettling. I think you're a good person, and you're compartmentalizing this evil concept of hell because it's not in alignment wih your sense of morality.
Ultimately, I believe that God will do what's compassionate and of love when it comes to his creation. Our greatest instruction was to love. I don't see any love in hell, as there's only fear in that concept.
Well then hopefully we begin in a good place.
Hopefully.