Do Your Beliefs Match Those of Your Significant Other?

I answered "I am religious, my partner is not" - in that this whole God thing is important to me but it doesn't interest him at all.

However, because I don't have a dogma that I feel like I have to defend, my spiritual searching doesn't cause any conflict.

We are both ex Jehovah's Witnesses, so we have that in common.

If one' or their partners beliefs change....so?

One shoild'nt fall in love with a belief....it might change and leave ya broken hearted.

Why don't you have the "I have no partner" option?

lunamoth said:

If you have a spouse, partner, or significant other, do you share the same beliefs about God and religion?

Both my wife and I are religious to a point. We do not share the same beliefs though.

Have your religious beliefs, or those of your partner, changed since you have been together?

We both have changed, but mine have changed much more drastically than hers.

If your partner's beliefs were to change, either from religious to non-religious or the other way around, would you be OK with this?

Very much so...I feel we both have a right to believe what we want. My only issue would be is if her beliefs stopped us from being able to enjoy life because she felt everything was now somehow wrong/sin.

If you are both religious, do you follow the same religion?

I tend to follow Western Esotericism (Heretics) and she is a Christian.

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I said I was religious, but I am not of any specific religion.

My Girlfriend is Christian, but not really into Christianity, she focuses on philosophies beyond her religion if anything. I'm best to say I am Spiritual but not Religious.

I don't like the poll options. What makes one "religious?" By definition, I do not adhere to any religion. However, coining the term "non-religious" is very ambiguous. I do believe in a higher power. I don't like to call it "god," but if I label myself "non-religious," that is interpreted as atheist, which I am not...

Your poll is very black and white. It needs a shade of grey...

My wife is a luke warm catholic, and I'm supposing it's because her side of the family is pretty devout. Neither she nor I go to mass on Sundays, but she will if it's with her mom or brother. We don't argue nor debate about it. She knows that I don't follow any religion (although if the "Force" were true, I'd love to be a Jedi), but knows I will tolerate catholicism since both sides of our family are devout.

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Partner....housemate...er...friend...nothing I could say that could'nt be taken as the oppiset.

lunamoth said:

If you have a spouse, partner, or significant other, do you share the same beliefs about God and religion?

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She met me while still an agnostic with strong atheistic outlook and worldview.
but we discuss the hebrew bible a lot. and many other historical and contemporary issues which involve the major religions.

Have your religious beliefs, or those of your partner, changed since you have been together?

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Yes. while still holding a liberal lifestyle. I shifted to a closer secular examination of the scriptures.

If your partner's beliefs were to change, either from religious to non-religious or the other way around, would you be OK with this?

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We are flexible. we talk about converting her to Judaism, because of practical reasons, and because it makes sense. we both enjoy biblical debates with each other, contemporary politics in the EU and Islamic immigration. she drives me to pursuit my advanced degrees in Islamic archaeology, while I tend to go for the international relations field.
we are solid in where we stand. it seems we can only remodel our beliefs as much from here.

If you are both religious, do you follow the same religion?

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She was born to a Catholic family. but she is a non Catholic. she is much more interested in Judaism.

I am religious while my husband labels himself as an atheist.

Friday said:

If one' or their partners beliefs change....so?

One shoild'nt fall in love with a belief....it might change and leave ya broken hearted.

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I've seen couples who started marriage largely based on a religion that permeated every aspect of their life... then one stopped believing, so they divorced.
I agree, that one shouldn't fall in love with belief... but don't we all?
We have an idea of who our lover is - it's just a belief, largely illusional at first.
In some ways, those who stay commited to a religion that respects marriage, are more likely to stay commited to their marriage, falling back on religious commitment when their marital commitment waivers.
The problem is that people change - their perspectives change & you can't go back to pretending Santa is real etc.

My husband believes very different than I do now. Yet 2 years ago, we believed more similarly. It can be extremely frustrating, especially in teaching our children.

marriage should not be "largely based on religion"

I know that nobody has posted here in a few days, but I just wanted to throw in my two cents.

My wife and I are both very spiritual people. However we are very different on our beliefs. While I am a Heathen, she is much harder to describe. She follows a path that is very eclectic and has more than a few views that are opposite of mine. This makes for great debates and more than a few laughs.
We respect each other and realize that there is more than one way to view things and just because it works for one doesn't mean it'll work for all. We've even discussed that our children will be taught at least the basics of the world religions and be able to decide their path for themselves.
It's all about respecting each other and the varied beliefs. We don't have to like 'em or believe in 'em, but respecting someone's beliefs and their right to practice them solves a whole lot of problems.