How to kill lust from my mind?

[rohit60221023]

i have created a list of actions to do when i am attacked by lust. these actions are -

1-Remember “The figure or form of woman is nothing but a network of bones coated with fat and flesh.”

2-stay occupied (listening to music, study, dancing, cooking, jogging, helping)

3-walk by the soul not by body of flesh

4-make no provision to fulfil lust

5-cold showers

6-go out of the room

7-chant 4 times vishnusahasranaam for getting rid of strong desire


8-exhale air out of lungs and kill the lust

Guys i want some more ways to kill it.

PS i am an urdhwareta yogi aspirant
and please don't suggest meditation as it is already in my list

 

[Twilight Hue]

My suggestion likely won't help but gawking over porn, playing with adult toys, or having actual sex alleviated the thoughts well enough so as not to be bothersome. Repeat as needed.

If religious restrictions prevail, I suggest rotten fowl smelling items strewn about will change the subject.

 

[ametist]

Dont think that you MUST restrict it, that it is something which should be restricted at all costs through every means. You should like it in one way or the more you make it an enemy the more it will pop up inappropriately.
Dont fear it.

 

[crossfire]

Viewing pictures of decaying corpses is one Buddhist technique.

 

[columbus]

i have created a list of actions to do when i am attacked by lust. these actions are -

1-Remember “The figure or form of woman is nothing but a network of bones coated with fat and flesh.”

2-stay occupied (listening to music, study, dancing, cooking, jogging, helping)

3-walk by the soul not by body of flesh

4-make no provision to fulfil lust

5-cold showers

6-go out of the room

7-chant 4 times vishnusahasranaam for getting rid of strong desire


8-exhale air out of lungs and kill the lust

Guys i want some more ways to kill it.

PS i am an urdhwareta yogi aspirant
and please don't suggest meditation as it is already in my list

You cannot kill it. It will not go away until you are old.
What you should do is channel it into something productive and moral.

Tom

 

[Nyingjé Tso]

PS i am an urdhwareta yogi aspirant

Then you should know the basics: you cannot suppress it. Rasa is a part of the natural flow of life and death. The aim of the yogi is to control it perfectly to make the rasa flow to the head rather than on the earth.

You should aim to control, and not to suppress. Because suppressing is impossible. Embrace it. Then put it on a leash. And your problem will be solved, as well as you will have significant spiritual improvement.

 

[ratikala]

namaskaram rohit ji

8-exhale air out of lungs and kill the lust

this is perfect method but it might also help to find something to focus on when you breathe in again , ...

some Buddhists use this method to rid them selves of negative or contaminating thoughts and energies by breathing out unwanted thoughts in the form of black smoke , .. as one inhales the focus should return to the point between the eyebrows , where one receives the blessings of ones deity in the form of pure white cleansing light , ...thus Brahmavidya may return .

Guys i want some more ways to kill it.

PS i am an urdhwareta yogi aspirant
and please don't suggest meditation as it is already in my list

you may find it helpfull to avoid solitude as in solitude the mind can wander un restricted , in which case if one takes shelter of ones lord asking them to be present allways , thus even in times of solitude one rememmbers that he is never alone , so at times of disturbed thought one must remind oneself of the lords presence in the heart and return ones thoughts to the lord .

and of couse if one is troubled by disturbed thoughts in the presence of women , then one can remember that all women are our mothers

 

[ratikala]

You cannot kill it. It will not go away until you are old.
What you should do is channel it into something productive and moral.

Tom

one need not Kill it , but one can transform it , ....

 

[Sb1995]

Talk to girls ur age in person

 

[Vinayaka]

one need not Kill it , but one can transform it , ....

Absolutely! It's energy.

 

[Vinayaka]

Guys i want some more ways to kill it.

Before any 'killing' is done, you need to understand it. The mind operates in 3 phases: instinctive, intellectual, and superconscious. Guess which category this one falls into.

So view it like hunger, or the need to feel cool on a hot day. If you 'killed' hunger, your physical body would perish, and atman would have nowhere to live for awhile. So what does the yama say? Moderate appetite. If we eat too muchg we get fat. If we lust too much, things happen, like a lack of focus on studies, loss of energy.

If you are a yogi aspirant, where is your Guru? Maybe you should ask him about this.

 

[rohit60221023]

i dont have any guru, its just that i read somewhere over the net about the benefits of becoming a yogi so i chose to become one.
and i think it can't be killed but it can be transferred into something useful work.

 

[Vinayaka]

i dont have any guru, its just that i read somewhere over the net about the benefits of becoming a yogi so i chose to become one.
and i think it can't be killed but it can be transferred into something useful work.

I'm sorry. Generally yogis become that way because they study under someone who has traveled the path. But these days anyone can call themselves a yogi. So what exactly does that mean to you, if anything?

 

[rohit60221023]

I'm sorry. Generally yogis become that way because they study under someone who has traveled the path. But these days anyone can call themselves a yogi. So what exactly does that mean to you, if anything?

its hard to find a guru these days, i can't find a one even if i want. my motive is to follow teachings of bhagwad geeta about sex, and nothing else

 

[Nyingjé Tso]

You are way too much focused on sex, and Bhagavad Gita teach way much more than that.

If you are really serious and interested into becoming a yogi (and I guess you know that it means renunciation from the world, therefore it's a crucial choice in a life) then ask in the ashrams or mandirs around you, there should be some. They will maybe point you to the right direction. If you have too much time on your hands for sex, then do Seva into a ashram or temple.

Student don't come to Guru, Guru come to students that are ready. Enhance yourself spiritually with basics, like worship or seva in a ashram or temple. You will meet there people that can teach you and eventually guide you to meet your guru.

 

[Brickjectivity]

Respectfully I'd like to insert my opinion.

It isn't sexual instinct that distracts, but distraction is its own problem I think. Even if you had no sexual desire your distraction would continue. Distraction is something that drives you away from focusing upon one thing towards any and every other thing. If you could medically remove your sexual desire then you would be driven towards something else just as strongly, for it is not sex that distracts. Sex is merely an object other than that upon which you desire to focus. In the case of a crush that changes. A crush is much harder to deal with than general sexual desire.

 

[Vinayaka]

Respectfully I'd like to insert my opinion.

It isn't sexual instinct that distracts, but distraction is its own problem I think. Even if you had no sexual desire your distraction would continue. Distraction is something that drives you away from focusing upon one thing towards any and every other thing. If you could medically remove your sexual desire then you would be driven towards something else just as strongly, for it is not sex that distracts. Sex is merely an object other than that upon which you desire to focus. In the case of a crush that changes. A crush is much harder to deal with than general sexual desire.

Pretty smart stuff, and experienced experientially by many. For example, if you're playing a sport, concentrating on anything, then other ideas just don't crop in. However, eventually they do. I used to get busy at my job and forget to eat. But then in the evening, once relaxed, I'd get hungry. It's just incredibly difficult to stay concentrating on something else all the time, and lust is a natural instinctive drive.

 

[Brickjectivity]

For example, if you're playing a sport, concentrating on anything, then other ideas just don't crop in. However, eventually they do.

True, true.

 

[Vinayaka]

True, true.

Not ideas from the intellect though, nor from the superconscious (well they do to, but that involves reincarnation). The intellect can be manipulated, (by will) whereas the instinct is much harder. That's why it's so cute. Just when you think you've got it under control, it pops right up again.

 

[Fireside_Hindu]

This might be an unhelpful piece of advice but feel free to ignore it.

I agree with what some have said about keeping your mind busy with other things - hobbies, work, a movie, a book etc... Sitting around - even if you are meditating is going to open you up to a lot of distracting thoughts, and since you already sound prone to distraction from sexual thoughts in particular I don't think the solution is more "sitting around".

There are days, when no matter how I try to distract myself, I can't get my mind out of the "gutter" as they say. I want it and I want it now. Welcome to your human body.

I would recommend (if it's possible) sex. With a person that you trust/love of course. Not self satisfaction - that's not (and never will be) the same. It sounds like you need a physical connection with another person. Granted, you need WAY more than that in the long term ( you know, like respect and trust) and ideally we'd have these things before jumping into sexy time.

But sometimes the best remedy for an itch is to scratch it.

I don't know the extent of your problem. For example, maybe you have a sexual addiction, but you don't seem to make it sound that way. You sound like someone who has lots of sexual thoughts (as one does), feels guilty about them and wants to get rid of them. But I think the guilt is only feeding your problem. You think about sex a lot because it feels good, but then you feel guilty so then you try and repress it, so then it keeps pushing back.

There's a great quote I heard once, "What you resist, persists".

I'm not saying go on a porn binge and spend days of your life in an erotic frenzy. I"m say, when thoughts of sex arise, treat them like other intrusive thoughts - let them pass through your consciousness so that they can flow out. Stop jumping on them and trying to squelch them, because all you're doing is prolonging your experience with them. Also, stop feeling guilty about it. Seriously.

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