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Peace be upon you.
Peace be on you.....These days a lot is being said in the world about rights of women and men. And in stating this so much excitement is being that people of the world are denying:
=to determine the boundaries of rights.
=to make difference with respect to human structure which includes body-make and natural faculties.
=which of the rights of men and women should be same, and where there is need to differentiate them.
If there is a need to make distinction regarding the rights of women and men. For what? To prove man’s superiority or to make woman realize her weakness or to get dishonest benefit from disposition of woman!!..... If for this, pondering should be done about rights of women and men, and the effort should be done to make distinction then it is surely oppression for woman.
Worldly people have raised voice against this oppression today. Islam has rasied the voice against this oppression 1400 years ago. Some detail of it with reference to Holy Quran have been mentioned in Jalsa Salana 2016, UK, address to ladies.
As said above, these rights of men and women are being discussed a lot these days. In Germany too, much is being uproared. Our girls and women are sometimes impressed by it and think perhaps criers about women right are perhaps the champions of these rights, and their efforts are truly commendable.
Perhaps they are praiseworthy about getting rights for those women who had been deprived of their rights since ever, neither religion nor law of country gave them the rights which they deserved. But a Muslim woman cannot say that there is any role of organizations of women for winning their freedom and establishment of their rights.
Allah the Exalted has granted such teaching in Holy Quran and established rights of each stratum of society, that neither human made laws can compete with these nor charters of human right organizations have viewed so as Holy Quran and Islam viewed.
Objection raisers against Islam undoubtedly can say they do not see complete or much practice to pay these rights is not seen in most Islamic countries by governments. But this objection can not be raised against teaching of Islam that it usurp rights of women in its laws. It cannot be said that the Book of religious law which Muslims are proud of (as it present the best solution of each matter ) has negated the rights of women and did not take care of them. If anyone alleges so, he oppresses.
There is difference between the philosophy of rights of women and men in Islam and worldly laws made under worldly thoughts. Islam is the natural religion and it determines the right of women and men according to their natural properties. Or we can say as Allah the Exalted has divided human in two types i.e. man and woman, that is why their rights and duties are made according to these two types. So, according to Islam, the establishment of their rights should be by keeping in view this difference. Yes, where there is commonality, rights are common (details in address to ladies in UK Jalsa about, in which areas Allah the Exalted gives same rights to women and men; the reward of their deeds and many other matters). Where there is variation, there are different rights and needs are mentioned.
For example food and water are essentials for life which men and women both use for life. But is certain conditions when woman is passing through pregnancy and child birth, she need best food, worldly people too recognize it, and doctors too because in that duration some parts of woman body need such food which is essential for woman and child at that time. How much Islam has taken care in fine details of these matters, how it has taken care the right of woman during nursing the child. If woman and man are divorced in such time when she is giving milk to her and his child, Allah the Exalted says the all food expenses of mother during that time has to paid by man. Allah the Exalted said: “wa alamoludey lahu rizqohunna wa kiswatohunna bil maruf” [from 2:234] And the man to whom the child belongs shall be responsible for their (the mothers’) food and clothing according to ‘maruf’ (usage)………….By food and clothing, expenses are meant (not inliteral sense as for a servant). She is not servant, she is mother of his child. By ‘maruf’ it is meant, according to capacity of father (rich and poor provide accordingly to their sources)………..Mention of this matter in divorce scenario, it is made clear that here a common milk providing woman is not mentioned, there was custom in that time and in early time the woman were hired for milk providing for child. Here mother of child is being mentioned. ………As it is obligation for mother to give milk to child till appointed time which is two years maximum according to directive of Allah the Exalted, it is obligation for father that he should bear all expense of child’s mother….It is not any favor to woman it is her right. By establishing this right she is saved from indignity………...Even after the divorces such commandment is there, and as wife she has more rights.
Though there is difference in make, as the wisdom is present in men it is present in women. Both have the right to acquire knowledge. God has given equal substance for progress. Both can get knolwdege and understanding through wisdom. No man can claim that a woman’s wisdom stops at a certain point and those of man continues to grow. If men can be great orator woman can be too. Sahaba (r.a. Companions) used to attend lectures by Hazrat Aisha (r.a.).
Women and men are given similar limbs but there is difference in physical power in both. Men have a strength in nerves. In a UK survey, women feel four times more stress during travel for going to job. Men are qawwam / maintainer they should show forbearance in solving matters.
Women have a different strength of nerves it is displayed from child birth to its rearing. Men cannot cope such situation……… If they get somewhat irritated, after slight beating the child they again cuddle them, said Hazrat Musleh Mo'ud (r.a.).
So when Allah has made different disposition of men and women, it is ignorant question to give them equality in each work or exchange their role. A previous primeminister of UK allowed women to serve as fighter in army as demand of equality. Their generals protested and said it is wrong, ex-soldiers said it is akin to weakness the army…….So it is needed to understand the difference.
In the world, men have usually oppressed women in general. In response, women demanded equality for them in every matter. Both are wrong.
Ahmadis have to correct this. Sadly some of our men too think women as inferior. Some women write to Huzur (a.t.) their spouse tell them to keep no connection with her relatives after the marriage even with parents. Such men do not understand women too have heart. They do not care her emotions. Sometimes there is hand of mother-in-law behind these oppressions. If their own spouse had done something wrong in past, now they should be kind to daughter-in-laws.
Deen Islam gives same rights to everyone. Flow your thoughts according to religious teaching. Pay mutual rights. If one fulfill his / her right, no blame can come to Islam for usurping of rights.
What was model of behavior of Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) with spouse…….. Once he (sa) came home he saw his wife Ummey Habibah (ra) was combing her brother’s head with hand and he was resting. Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) asked, “Do you like Muawiah”. She said yes she liked her brother very much. Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) said I like him very much too.
Everyone should play their part to establish peace. Instead of demanding rights pay attention to fulfill others’ righst. Woman should see what are her duties, and man should see what are his duties and how to fufill these rights beautifully. By doing so discords in homes will be finished.
Governments make plans to raise children so that mothers may focus of jobs. It is an effort to establish women’s right but a time will come when they will know real training camp and love is the mother. Make review, it can be seen children raised through social services become deficient. Some governments are making policies that women work and father are given allowances to live with children. …If it is made law resuts will be dangerous.
Some mother whose children are waqfe nau [devoted for faith before birth] they think their training is fully Jamaat’s duty…..The responsibility of Jama'at is upto guidance,but to raise the children in virtuous environment, to tell them importance of Deen Islam and to make then useful person is the responsibility of mothers and it is her right that husband should fully cooperate her in this regard.
Once Hazrat Musleh Mo'ud (r.a.) said people have lot of care for health and beauty of child but they do not care beauty of his soul. …… So the Ahmadi mothers who make pledge to give priority to Deen / faith over world, they are not fulfilling the pledge unless they are not doing full effort to teach their children about religion.
Girls too should remember, they are mothers of tomorrow. They should be religious-mothers not the earthy-mothers. They should pay the rights of their children. Then that society will be born where rights are established. For this, a lot of effort and attention is required.
Huzur (a.t.) said today you should not raise voice for right which is limited only to you by getting impressed by loud cries of worldly people but you should raise a voice which continue to get increase in the brains of men since childhood through their training --- for the establishment of rights of wife, daughter and mother , for their high station in society.
Wherever they have equal rights, Allah has given them; reward for deeds is equa; to get education, they are equal but as for as matter of training of children and next generation, it is responsibility of woman.
May Allah enable all to do so. [Aameen]
Then Huzur (a.t.) led the silent prayer.
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Based on (gist) address by Hazrat Khalifatul Messiah V (may Allah Help him with His Mighty Help) at Jalsa Salana, Germany 2016, to Ladies / lajnaimaillah (September 3, 2016), alislam.org, mta.tv
=to determine the boundaries of rights.
=to make difference with respect to human structure which includes body-make and natural faculties.
=which of the rights of men and women should be same, and where there is need to differentiate them.
If there is a need to make distinction regarding the rights of women and men. For what? To prove man’s superiority or to make woman realize her weakness or to get dishonest benefit from disposition of woman!!..... If for this, pondering should be done about rights of women and men, and the effort should be done to make distinction then it is surely oppression for woman.
Worldly people have raised voice against this oppression today. Islam has rasied the voice against this oppression 1400 years ago. Some detail of it with reference to Holy Quran have been mentioned in Jalsa Salana 2016, UK, address to ladies.
As said above, these rights of men and women are being discussed a lot these days. In Germany too, much is being uproared. Our girls and women are sometimes impressed by it and think perhaps criers about women right are perhaps the champions of these rights, and their efforts are truly commendable.
Perhaps they are praiseworthy about getting rights for those women who had been deprived of their rights since ever, neither religion nor law of country gave them the rights which they deserved. But a Muslim woman cannot say that there is any role of organizations of women for winning their freedom and establishment of their rights.
Allah the Exalted has granted such teaching in Holy Quran and established rights of each stratum of society, that neither human made laws can compete with these nor charters of human right organizations have viewed so as Holy Quran and Islam viewed.
Objection raisers against Islam undoubtedly can say they do not see complete or much practice to pay these rights is not seen in most Islamic countries by governments. But this objection can not be raised against teaching of Islam that it usurp rights of women in its laws. It cannot be said that the Book of religious law which Muslims are proud of (as it present the best solution of each matter ) has negated the rights of women and did not take care of them. If anyone alleges so, he oppresses.
There is difference between the philosophy of rights of women and men in Islam and worldly laws made under worldly thoughts. Islam is the natural religion and it determines the right of women and men according to their natural properties. Or we can say as Allah the Exalted has divided human in two types i.e. man and woman, that is why their rights and duties are made according to these two types. So, according to Islam, the establishment of their rights should be by keeping in view this difference. Yes, where there is commonality, rights are common (details in address to ladies in UK Jalsa about, in which areas Allah the Exalted gives same rights to women and men; the reward of their deeds and many other matters). Where there is variation, there are different rights and needs are mentioned.
For example food and water are essentials for life which men and women both use for life. But is certain conditions when woman is passing through pregnancy and child birth, she need best food, worldly people too recognize it, and doctors too because in that duration some parts of woman body need such food which is essential for woman and child at that time. How much Islam has taken care in fine details of these matters, how it has taken care the right of woman during nursing the child. If woman and man are divorced in such time when she is giving milk to her and his child, Allah the Exalted says the all food expenses of mother during that time has to paid by man. Allah the Exalted said: “wa alamoludey lahu rizqohunna wa kiswatohunna bil maruf” [from 2:234] And the man to whom the child belongs shall be responsible for their (the mothers’) food and clothing according to ‘maruf’ (usage)………….By food and clothing, expenses are meant (not inliteral sense as for a servant). She is not servant, she is mother of his child. By ‘maruf’ it is meant, according to capacity of father (rich and poor provide accordingly to their sources)………..Mention of this matter in divorce scenario, it is made clear that here a common milk providing woman is not mentioned, there was custom in that time and in early time the woman were hired for milk providing for child. Here mother of child is being mentioned. ………As it is obligation for mother to give milk to child till appointed time which is two years maximum according to directive of Allah the Exalted, it is obligation for father that he should bear all expense of child’s mother….It is not any favor to woman it is her right. By establishing this right she is saved from indignity………...Even after the divorces such commandment is there, and as wife she has more rights.
Though there is difference in make, as the wisdom is present in men it is present in women. Both have the right to acquire knowledge. God has given equal substance for progress. Both can get knolwdege and understanding through wisdom. No man can claim that a woman’s wisdom stops at a certain point and those of man continues to grow. If men can be great orator woman can be too. Sahaba (r.a. Companions) used to attend lectures by Hazrat Aisha (r.a.).
Women and men are given similar limbs but there is difference in physical power in both. Men have a strength in nerves. In a UK survey, women feel four times more stress during travel for going to job. Men are qawwam / maintainer they should show forbearance in solving matters.
Women have a different strength of nerves it is displayed from child birth to its rearing. Men cannot cope such situation……… If they get somewhat irritated, after slight beating the child they again cuddle them, said Hazrat Musleh Mo'ud (r.a.).
So when Allah has made different disposition of men and women, it is ignorant question to give them equality in each work or exchange their role. A previous primeminister of UK allowed women to serve as fighter in army as demand of equality. Their generals protested and said it is wrong, ex-soldiers said it is akin to weakness the army…….So it is needed to understand the difference.
In the world, men have usually oppressed women in general. In response, women demanded equality for them in every matter. Both are wrong.
Ahmadis have to correct this. Sadly some of our men too think women as inferior. Some women write to Huzur (a.t.) their spouse tell them to keep no connection with her relatives after the marriage even with parents. Such men do not understand women too have heart. They do not care her emotions. Sometimes there is hand of mother-in-law behind these oppressions. If their own spouse had done something wrong in past, now they should be kind to daughter-in-laws.
Deen Islam gives same rights to everyone. Flow your thoughts according to religious teaching. Pay mutual rights. If one fulfill his / her right, no blame can come to Islam for usurping of rights.
What was model of behavior of Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) with spouse…….. Once he (sa) came home he saw his wife Ummey Habibah (ra) was combing her brother’s head with hand and he was resting. Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) asked, “Do you like Muawiah”. She said yes she liked her brother very much. Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) said I like him very much too.
Everyone should play their part to establish peace. Instead of demanding rights pay attention to fulfill others’ righst. Woman should see what are her duties, and man should see what are his duties and how to fufill these rights beautifully. By doing so discords in homes will be finished.
Governments make plans to raise children so that mothers may focus of jobs. It is an effort to establish women’s right but a time will come when they will know real training camp and love is the mother. Make review, it can be seen children raised through social services become deficient. Some governments are making policies that women work and father are given allowances to live with children. …If it is made law resuts will be dangerous.
Some mother whose children are waqfe nau [devoted for faith before birth] they think their training is fully Jamaat’s duty…..The responsibility of Jama'at is upto guidance,but to raise the children in virtuous environment, to tell them importance of Deen Islam and to make then useful person is the responsibility of mothers and it is her right that husband should fully cooperate her in this regard.
Once Hazrat Musleh Mo'ud (r.a.) said people have lot of care for health and beauty of child but they do not care beauty of his soul. …… So the Ahmadi mothers who make pledge to give priority to Deen / faith over world, they are not fulfilling the pledge unless they are not doing full effort to teach their children about religion.
Girls too should remember, they are mothers of tomorrow. They should be religious-mothers not the earthy-mothers. They should pay the rights of their children. Then that society will be born where rights are established. For this, a lot of effort and attention is required.
Huzur (a.t.) said today you should not raise voice for right which is limited only to you by getting impressed by loud cries of worldly people but you should raise a voice which continue to get increase in the brains of men since childhood through their training --- for the establishment of rights of wife, daughter and mother , for their high station in society.
Wherever they have equal rights, Allah has given them; reward for deeds is equa; to get education, they are equal but as for as matter of training of children and next generation, it is responsibility of woman.
May Allah enable all to do so. [Aameen]
Then Huzur (a.t.) led the silent prayer.
=====
Based on (gist) address by Hazrat Khalifatul Messiah V (may Allah Help him with His Mighty Help) at Jalsa Salana, Germany 2016, to Ladies / lajnaimaillah (September 3, 2016), alislam.org, mta.tv
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