I've been feeling much the same way. The disrespect I've got from some members has been very toxic to me and is impacting very negatively on my mental health. Of course, they just don't get it.
My wanting to be treated with dignity and basic respect is too demanding for some people, it seems. As is considering I am a real person with real feelings.
Toxic people always think it's the other person with the problem. No introspection. No consideration for the other person's feelings or perspective, which they just accuse of being "whining".
I've seen a very nasty pecking order in chat here with a clique of some people seeking to shut anyone up with opposing views, resorting to passive-aggressive b/s, while simultaneously seeing themselves as enlightened liberal freethinkers. Their perception seems to be that anyone asking them to show basic respect is acting like a tyrant seeking to control them. They act as the arbiter of how other people should behave and what topics and points of view are off limits, being happy to employ ridicule and shaming to silence dissent and having no concern for how uncomfortable other people are made to feel, while simultaneously having zero tolerance towards any critique of their own behaviour and points of view.
It's like highschool all over again, the "cool kids" virtually get away with murder, they know they can get away with being rude, disrespectful and inconsiderate as well as getting anyone with opposing views to shut up, and have a full-blown sense of entitlement to get away with such.
Of course, they'd be more than happy to dismiss my perspective and feelings here as complete nonsense and accuse me of being the one with the problem, as is their M.O.