Male Gay Characteristics

[Secret Chief]

This was unexpected...
A woman that I have worked with for about a year somehow managed to mention in conversation that she had assumed I was gay. Have you not heard me mention the word "wife" I asked. She had, but it didn't seem crucial in her assessment. I was bemused. She became embarrassed so I didn't ask how she had come to this apparently obvious conclusion.
(It's not that long ago that a woman was seriously hitting on me so I don't think I'm the most camp man on the planet).
So.... what could she have been making this assessment on? Aside from the obvious (whatever that might be) what would make you assume a man is gay?

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

This was unexpected...
A woman that I have worked with for about a year somehow managed to mention in conversation that she had assumed I was gay. Have you not heard me mention the word "wife" I asked. She had, but it didn't seem crucial in her assessment. I was bemused. She became embarrassed so I didn't ask how she had come to this apparently obvious conclusion.
(It's not that long ago that a woman was seriously hitting on me so I don't think I'm the most camp man on the planet).
So.... what could she have been making this assessment on? Aside from the obvious (whatever that might be) what would make you assume a man is gay?

Could be how you approach her. If the two of you talk about feelings, relationships, gossip, etc, she might have gotten that mistaken impression.

When a straight man and a straight woman approach each other, neither one may necessarily be thinking of the other as more than friends, but generally there exists a certain friction, in my opinion... a certain awkwardness that usually results in not tackling certain subjects, or rather than talking very much to each other, just kind of making fun of each other.

Whereas with say, a straight woman and a gay man, there might be more talking of the things mentioned - feelings, etc. And more non-uncomfortable synchronization.

 

[McBell]

A dick in their mouth. Or a guy on their arm.

That would certainly lead me to think they just might be gay.

 

[McBell]

Could be how you approach her. If the two of you talk about feelings, relationships, gossip, etc, she might have gotten that mistaken impression.

When a straight man and a straight woman approach each other, neither one may necessarily be thinking of the other as more than friends, but generally there exists a certain friction, in my opinion... a certain awkwardness that usually results in not tackling certain subjects, or rather than talking very much to each other, just kind of making fun of each other.

Whereas with say, a straight woman and a gay man, there might be more talking of the things mentioned - feelings, etc. And more non-uncomfortable synchronization.

I suspect that you are close to if not actually hitting the nail on the head.

 

[Secret Chief]

Could be how you approach her. If the two of you talk about feelings, relationships, gossip, etc, she might have gotten that mistaken impression.

When a straight man and a straight woman approach each other, neither one may necessarily be thinking of the other as more than friends, but generally there exists a certain friction, in my opinion... a certain awkwardness that usually results in not tackling certain subjects, or rather than talking very much to each other, just kind of making fun of each other.

Whereas with say, a straight woman and a gay man, there might be more talking of the things mentioned - feelings, etc. And more non-uncomfortable synchronization.

Thanks for the idea. Actually we've only ever had brief conversations and usually about work. At the short morning meetings I'm seated with other women (there's no men in the department), one of whom is openly flirty with me.

 

[ChristineM]

That would certainly lead me to think they just might be gay.

Or good friends

 

[ChristineM]

This was unexpected...
A woman that I have worked with for about a year somehow managed to mention in conversation that she had assumed I was gay. Have you not heard me mention the word "wife" I asked. She had, but it didn't seem crucial in her assessment. I was bemused. She became embarrassed so I didn't ask how she had come to this apparently obvious conclusion.
(It's not that long ago that a woman was seriously hitting on me so I don't think I'm the most camp man on the planet).
So.... what could she have been making this assessment on? Aside from the obvious (whatever that might be) what would make you assume a man is gay?

I have several gay friends, the only one you would say is gay is my ex hairdresser in the UK. He really does does mince but yhat could just be hairdresser training ;-)

 

[SalixIncendium]

So.... what could she have been making this assessment on? Aside from the obvious (whatever that might be) what would make you assume a man is gay?

I've been mistaken as gay more than a few times, always by women. I'm not sure what led to these assessments.

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

Aside from the obvious (whatever that might be) what would make you assume a man is gay?

Other than hearing him refer to his husband, very little, but I have known a fairly large number of gays, lesbians, and transgender individuals.

 

[Secret Chief]

I have several gay friends, the only one you would say is gay is my ex hairdresser in the UK. He really does does mince but yhat could just be hairdresser training ;-)

We have a gay couple as friends. One is obviously gay but the other one not at all. Neither is a hairdresser though...

 

[Secret Chief]

I've been mistaken as gay more than a few times, always by women. I'm not sure what led to these assessments.

Not just me then! No idea why at all?

 

[ChristineM]

I've been mistaken as gay more than a few times, always by women. I'm not sure what led to these assessments.

Could be your fashion sense...

 

[Secret Chief]

sense

 

[SalixIncendium]

Not just me then! No idea why at all?

I don't recall even when asking why they thought that ever receiving a definitive answer. Usually it was just, "I don't know...I just thought you were."

 

[The Hammer]

Ok, I don't think she's witnessed either of those things. Anything more subtle?

How about treating her not as an object, but as a friend?

Are you openly in tune with your emotions? That's always been touted as gay to me lol.

 

[Secret Chief]

The curiosity is gnawing at me - I may have to ask her directly!

 

[Estro Felino]

In my country, a male who won't catcall pretty women who look like Miss Italy is automatically called gay.
I dont know about UK, though...

 

[ChristineM]

The curiosity is gnawing at me - I may have to ask her directly!

Good plan

 

[McBell]

This was unexpected...
A woman that I have worked with for about a year somehow managed to mention in conversation that she had assumed I was gay. Have you not heard me mention the word "wife" I asked. She had, but it didn't seem crucial in her assessment. I was bemused. She became embarrassed so I didn't ask how she had come to this apparently obvious conclusion.
(It's not that long ago that a woman was seriously hitting on me so I don't think I'm the most camp man on the planet).
So.... what could she have been making this assessment on? Aside from the obvious (whatever that might be) what would make you assume a man is gay?

I have on occasion been mistaken for being gay.
(I of course am only speaking of the times I know about)

Interestingly enough, it has never once been by a gay/lesbian individual.
It has always been by straights....

 

[Secret Chief]

In my country, a male who won't catcall pretty women who look like Miss Italy is automatically called gay.
I dont know about UK, though...

Thankfully different. Catcalls would possibly elicit an expletive response.