What Approach or Approaches Have Worked for You When Courting Someone?

[Debater Slayer]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

 

[JustGeorge]

Don't take any general advice.

What I mean by that is there are no 'cookie cutter' approaches to these things. There isn't anything all women love, or all men love. There's no 'standards' in relationships. What worked for 46 other couples might ruin another couple.

These affairs come from the heart, not the head. Listen to that.

 

[Debater Slayer]

Don't take any general advice.

What I mean by that is there are no 'cookie cutter' approaches to these things. There isn't anything all women love, or all men love. There's no 'standards' in relationships. What worked for 46 other couples might ruin another couple.

These affairs come from the heart, not the head. Listen to that.

I agree, on all counts. Perhaps my question would better reflect the above if I worded it as, "What has worked for you during courting?" instead of being about advice or tips.

 

[Debater Slayer]

OP edited!

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

I agree, on all counts. Perhaps my question would better reflect the above if I worded it as, "What has worked for you during courting?" instead of being about advice or tips.

With my now-wife, I meowed on our first date. Apparently, our second date was despite this, not because of this.

 

[JustGeorge]

With my now-wife, I meowed on our first date. Apparently, our second date was despite this, not because of this.

My oldest son's father ate the cat's food to try to prove he was okay with cats.

I was not impressed.

Don't eat the pet's food, @Debater Slayer .

 

[Revoltingest]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

Have no fear.
Be thoughtful.

 

[Stevicus]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

Love poetry might work. However, my poems would always degenerate into some kind of radical political diatribe, so it would only really impress politically radical women - which are somewhat rare, actually.

Some people say that gifts are always welcome, as we see here:

 

[libre]

I regret to inform y'all that I have zero game and every woman I've gone out with has made the first move.

Perhaps this should be my goal for the new year.

 

[The Hammer]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

Compliments. A stray touch. A sideling glance.

It's all body language

 

[lewisnotmiller]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

Remind yourself that charming a woman with a false version of yourself is not helping either of you.
Be authentic and be your best self. Don't be someone else.

 

[Rational Agnostic]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

Hmmm, what do you mean by "worked?" This is very open-ended. Are you asking about how to ask someone out or are you already dating someone and trying to enhance your existing relationship or what?

 

[Twilight Hue]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

Keep completly off the topic of romance and talk about common interests and just have fun which is the whole point of being together in the first place.

 

[Koldo]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

I legit don't see the point of courting per se someone you have romantic feelings for.

If the person in question is already interested in me, I only have to invite her to some activity that would be usual to couples, like watching a movie at the theater and then slowly treating her as if we were a couple already while at it. That's it.

If that person is not interested in me, there is zilch I can do about that, other than somehow trying to give a fake impression, which is a terrible idea if you want to start a relationship with that person.

 

[Subduction Zone]

At one time I thought that stalking was a good idea. Turns out I was mistaken. And no matter what do not hide in her shower.


Seriously? Chat her up a bit. See if there is anything that both of you like to do and then propose to do it together. By the way, just like stalking, sex is not something that you propose to do together when getting to know someone. See above.

 

[PoetPhilosopher]

Romance is something best learned by meeting people and being open. And what's "in" and what's "out" in this day in regards to romance, is constantly evolving.

 

[ChristineM]

What approach or approaches have worked for you when courting someone toward whom you had or have romantic feelings?

Be yourself, be considerate, be confident, take it as it goes, don't try to show off.

It worked for Paul

Edit : and no infractions or bans ;-)

 

[Guitar's Cry]

I have found developing a friendship first, being myself (despite how goofy and dorky I am), and being honest were the most helpful things. Like, even more so than flirting. I think most people really just want a genuine person rather than a perfect one, so showing that you are such is a big first step.

 

[VoidCat]

Just straight up ask them out? Then again I've only dated like 3 people and i was a teen.

As an adult i havent pursued anyone romantically but it seems a lot of folk find me attractive so I have sexted a few people with consent...but sexual stuff don't equal romance...