Your Given Name

[lewisnotmiller]

I hate my given name. I don't identify with it and stopped using it to all intents and purposes a long time ago. I use my middle name but I can't say I like it much better. Both names are too girly sounding; the first one is way too popular and on top of that it's spelled in a less common way; it's not a made-up spelling, just lesser used, so folks are constantly mis-saying it for some reason, even though when I worked at school a 10 year old child rightly pronounced it from reading my name tag and this was a girl who was basically illiterate and had a tonne of trouble reading.

My eldest is not at all girly, but her name is basically unisex, and she seems fine with it.
But we did spell it in a less-common (but not made up) way, and I do worry that will drive her nuts now.

Even worse, with this next baby coming, my wife and I agreed on a girl's name we both like, but we both assumed a different spelling. I'm not sure there is a commonly agreed 'normal' spelling for it.

 

[lewisnotmiller]

I hate my name. Its Krista. Its an okay name for someone else, but it doesn't fit me.

I met a Krista once. She was energetic, enthusiastic, and feminine. I felt the name belonged to her. I'd have happily let her keep it all to herself.

Me, I'm George!

I had a male friend who was Krister.

 

[Quintessence]

Why?

See: lots of other member's posts in this thread about them being unhappy with names assigned to them by their parents at birth.

 

[JustGeorge]

I had a male friend who was Krister.

I had an ex that called me that...

 

[Gargovic Malkav]

My given name translates as "Joy of victory". I like it.
Some people have trouble memorizing it, calling me by a similar sounding name which is a girl's name. I usually correct them or don't respond when they keep doing it or start calling them by a name that isn't theirs. Sometimes I grudgingly tolerate it when I'm dealing with old people who have trouble remembering things or people who have mental issues.

 

[JustGeorge]

Aside from my own name, sometimes I am baffled when people mispronounce my son Ares's name...

Really? They say it Our-es...(or closer to Eris). I thought that was a name everyone would know...

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I hated my birth names.
My mom's new name/name had I been born physically female, Sara, is ok. The middle name though, no, because it's her middle name. And Im terrible at naming things, lol.

 

[Estro Felino]

No...
LoL...because I was given that name because I was born on Saint Lucy's day...
Btw my new name means Holy or Saint in Swedish...so...it was destiny

 

[Secret Chief]

Let's just say I wish we lived in a culture where the cultural norm was every child had to go through the process of selecting their own chosen name as a rite of passage into adulthood.

Happy birthday!

 

[TransmutingSoul]

Well I post with my given name.

Tony is Antony though

Regards Tony

 

[Twilight Hue]

Do you like your given name? If not, why? If so, what do you like about it?

I hated my given name in grade school and actually asked people to call me by my middle name.

As I grew older, I really like me given name, and I wouldn't trade it for another, except for perhaps Nick or Mark.

How do you feel about your given name?

I dont like my name at all. I was continually bullied over it in the old days. It gave me an affinity for Johnny Cash's , "A boy named Sue" however.

It might have been ok for another time, or another country, but definitely not in the 70s.

 

[ChristineM]

Do you like your given name? If not, why? If so, what do you like about it?

I hated my given name in grade school and actually asked people to call me by my middle name.

As I grew older, I really like me given name, and I wouldn't trade it for another, except for perhaps Nick or Mark.

How do you feel about your given name?

I am happy with my given name, the one problem i have with it comes from (Would you believe) christians, a few of whom have insisted to the point of argument that i should be a believer in christianity with a name like mine.

Hubby on the other hand hates his given name and usually insists on using Paul, his middle name. Interestingly in France the first name is formal and is the one always used, so most french people and all french bureaucracy (there is a lot) insist on using his given name.

 

[Audie]

Do you like your given name? If not, why? If so, what do you like about it?

I hated my given name in grade school and actually asked people to call me by my middle name.

As I grew older, I really like me given name, and I wouldn't trade it for another, except for perhaps Nick or Mark.

How do you feel about your given name?

Min is just right for me. Short !

And anyone can spell it.

 

[Aupmanyav]

How do you feel about your given name?

Been with it for 78 years. I do not mind. A very common Kashmiri name, choice of my esteemed grandpa.

 

[Rival]

Aside from my own name, sometimes I am baffled when people mispronounce my son Ares's name...

Really? They say it Our-es...(or closer to Eris). I thought that was a name everyone would know...

I would be saying it as Aries as in the star sign.

 

[Vinayaka]

Aside from my own name, sometimes I am baffled when people mispronounce my son Ares's name...

Really? They say it Our-es...(or closer to Eris). I thought that was a name everyone would know...

How do you say it?

Many Hindu names get totally mangled in the west. Both my first and last name do, but many of the Tamil folks from south India have rather long names. The longer the name the harder it is to say.

 

[JustGeorge]

I am happy with my given name, the one problem i have with it comes from (Would you believe) christians, a few of whom have insisted to the point of argument that i should be a believer in christianity with a name like mine.

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I remember an incident like that. I was talking with a man named Christian, and someone came up and said that a Krista and Christian talking must be evidence that Christ was active in the place(or something of the sort). Which we then got a chuckle out of. "Yes, Krista the Hindu and Christian the Buddhist."

How do you say it?

Many Hindu names get totally mangled in the west. Both my first and last name do, but many of the Tamil folks from south India have rather long names. The longer the name the harder it is to say.

It would be said like Air-eese(like the ending of Reece's candy)

All my kids' names get mispronounced. LeeAnder=Landers(why the s?) Ares=Eris Yudhishtira(....I can't say that).

I find with the oldest and youngest child, its more of an unwillingness to try to read the name. People scan it, but if it doesn't come to something they're familiar with(like Joe or Laura), they just make an awkward quick utterance, or won't try at all.

The people that actually try to read the names tend to get them correct, or reasonably close.