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Discussion in 'The Interview Place' started by Conscious thoughts, Aug 28, 2021.

  1. Conscious thoughts

    Conscious thoughts Veteran Member

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    Thank you @Sirona :)

    There have been times this summer that I doubted my own being, my own belief, my own existence. So yes in those moments my writing become confusing (even for me when reading back)
    When speaking of mortifying the self, that is to let go of the ego, something that is a lot harder to do than it sounds, it is not to let go of the higher self or soul/spirit :) If that happen I would truly be dead spiritually too.

    Looking at the "goal" or path of the Sufi it is this.
    Sufis strive to purify their thoughts and actions through rigorous discipline and prayer. A major goal of Sufism is to let go of all external pleasure that is common to man. Sufis practice long periods of fasting and ritual to attain a state of oneness with God.

    This is not an easy path and I noticed with my own being that to find the answers may seem so difficult, but when the answer does appear, it is the easiest thing in the world, but it is hidden for me until the veil is lifted, and one of the reason it becomes difficult is, the ego, there is always a voice in the back of the head telling that just leave it for a moment and do all the things you know is Haram to do, Have some fun.

    Fun to me is realizing new wisdom, understanding life in a new way, and so on.
    Fun for me is to help others realize their dreams and hopes, unfortunately, it can also lead to lack of energy in my own body ( as I experienced this month)
     
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    "Sufism is my personal belief and I am happy as a Sufi."

    What more need to be said? And it shouldn't matter what others say.
     
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  3. Conscious thoughts

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    True :) when I first started to go in to sufism it was like coming home :)
    Yes there been some difficult times for me this year with personal struggle. But I realize, it is in struggle i find the answers i need to grow as a person and being :)
     
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    Constructive criticism: you haven’t given me enough cheese and chutney.

    (You’re a beautiful person, I have no real criticism)
     
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  5. Conscious thoughts

    Conscious thoughts Veteran Member

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    Thank you @Meow Mix

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    Meow Mix Chatte Féministe

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    Good attempt! I was thinking lighter, like

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    :oops: whoops :p
     
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    Sirona Hindu Wannabe

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    Okay, here is my perspective based on the Hindu "gospel" "Bhagavad Gita". I hope it doesn't sound too harsh for you, but it may give you something to think about anyway.

    Bhagavad Gita 9.2: This knowledge (of God) is the king of education, the most secret of all secrets. It is the purest knowledge, and because it gives direct perception of the self by realization, it is the perfection of religion. It is everlasting, and it is joyfully performed.

    I think this means you are supposed to find some joy and satisfaction in the way you practise. If it gets you to be depressed it's probably being done in a wrong way. Do you have a spiritual guide to give you feedback?

    Well, I think this is typical Western thinking. It's only this or that obstacle remaining, and once I conquered it, I will be happy. It's the spiritual version of "I only have to buy this or that thing, and only then I will be perfect and lovable." Again, I think you should rather find joy in the way you practise your religion, instead of hoping for a reward from God in the future.

    Maybe you should go back to "normal" Islam. Maybe the rules of your group are too strict. From what I read, Islam in general seems to have a positive attitude to most worldly pleasures. Maybe you should practise "normal" Islam and be grateful for the things God gives you. Bhagavad Gita (3.6) says that "One who restrains the senses of action (eyes, ears etc.) but whose mind dwells on sense objects (the things you desire) certainly deludes himself and is called a pretender." I guess it's probably more rewarding to be a grateful "normal" Muslim rather than an overly strict "pretender". There are many things that are wrong in my religion but I guess there is one deep truth about it: the fact that you can't effectively suppress the mind in the long term. Instead, you need to engage it in something "better", like a child. Instead of "taking the toy away" from the child, you give it a "better" toy. Maybe you could study Arabic calligraphy, or Islamic architecture or something like that.

    Maybe it is a selfish statement but in my religion I learned that one has to get one's own mindset right before helping others. What's the use of exhausting yourself in helping others? You probably can help even more people when you're in a better condition. Moreover, people in general tend to respond better to someone who radiates with happiness rather than to someone who probably gives them the blues.

    Anyway, you shouldn't listen to anyone who tells you you're alright when you feel you're not. Listening to your inner voice instead of unsuccessfully trying to meditate it to death may be the first step for you to get to know your genuine Self.

    Hope this makes some sense. Enough for one day.
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    tHANK YOU @Sirona :)

    Your words is not to hard toward me :)
    Sufism is the path that speak to my heart so it is the path I will stay on :) Yes, it is a hard path, but I might have put too high expectations on my own being, and made it twice as hard as it should be.

    The practice in itself is very very fun actually :) I do research totally differently now than I used to do when I was a Buddhist. I am actually paying attention to my being now, and yes even I did not pay enough attention to me in the past, and only on how to help others, that is about to change :)
    I will as an empath always be there for others, but listening to my inner voice a bit better is how I will practice from now on.

    I went from not knowing who I was at all, to have a better sense of it.
    And my Sufi teacher does guide me, but also says I do have to go through difficult times to learn. Without the difficulty it is not a spiritual path :) He can not tell me what to do in every aspect of my life, because that is what the spiritual path is all about, to understand self, and get closer to Allah.
     
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    Revoltingest Abnormal before it was fashionable
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    @Conscious thoughts...
    I recommend less bland clothing.
    Hawaiian style shirts would look particularly good on you.
     
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    :confused: WUT
     
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    Revoltingest Abnormal before it was fashionable
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    It may be confusing, but I agree with him. Has @Revoltingest ever been wrong? :)
     
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    Aupmanyav Be your own guru

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    "Your chance to give me contructive critique": Not useful. You have your set beliefs.
     
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    Twilight Hue Twilight, not bright nor dark, good nor bad.

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    Get over your insecurity and fear. Your in a prison of your own making if you don't proactively muster some self courage to face difficult things.
     
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    You are correct, it has been a challenge for me to overcome my insecurity:)
     
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