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Discussion in 'General Religious Debates' started by Riders, Feb 6, 2019.

  1. 1213

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    Perhaps, but don’t you think the man who provides would deserve even something good also?

    Yeah it is sad in my opinion, but don’t you think it is stupid to give virginity for free, to a man who doesn’t appreciate it and the woman?

    Isn’t it quite obvious, when person loses virginity, she/he is married in Biblical point of view. So, if non-virgin man has sex with virgin, he is probably committing adultery and would deserve death penalty, in Biblical point of view. It is not acceptable for men to commit adultery.
     
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    Christian fairytale. Kind of romantic idealism. If your sister wants to do this, it's fine, ok by me, but I suspect she'll find in the end this romantic idealism is not really important.

    Great if it works out for her in a perfect relationship. Most relationship are usually far from perfect. And, if it doesn't work out, how is she going to deal when the next guy she wants to marry comes along? Is that relation always going to be "inferior" now that she is no longer a virgin.
     
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    This is why I can’t get along with conservative Christianity. The whole wait until marriage thing is unhealthy, IMO. (Not to mention the men’s work and women’s work stuff.) You need to, for a lack of a better term, explore your sexuality so that you find someone who is actually sexually compatible. If you just bonk the guy you marry, chances are you will not have a fulfilling sex life. At least not without a little help.
    I’m not saying that one should hop into bed with any Tom Dick or Harry. But if you teach young ladies and men to save their virginity until marriage, don’t act surprised if they get married just so they can have sex guilt free. If you’re in a committed relationship and you feel ready. Then fine. Maybe you’ll find that your partner just isn’t for you. Maybe even find a better compatible partner and get married to them. Instead of finding out on your wedding night that perhaps another person out there might be better suited to you.
     
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    Strangely enough as stern and strict as she is, Carolyn at one time claimed to also be a sex addict like me,. She was having sex with single guys in church mostly.She got disgusted with herself and settled down.

    But her and husband had issues with porn at the start of her marriage as well. So even with conservative Evangelical Christians if sex addiction is in one person quite often its the whole family. Its why when she recognized it in me she tried to get me in a female religious recovery group Mary Magdalen ministries.
     
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    I don't think it is a good idea to go about telling other folks how they ought to live their life when you couldn't even live that life yourself.
     
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    How do you "give" virginity? It's not a thing, it's just a lack of a particular experience.
    Sex with a virgin isn't perceptibly different from sex with a non-virgin.
     
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    Actually, I think, when man and woman have sex first time, there happens change also in their minds. They will be eternally connected and it is like they are married, even if there is no formal marriage. That is why there is the saying, “old salt makes you thirsty”. If person has sex with someone, and then rejects him/her and marries someone else, there will always be connection to the first one and it can cause problems. This is why I think it was meant to be so that people have one companion and marriage and not multiple sex partners.

    Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh.
    Gen. 2:24
     
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    Thirza Fallen Crazy Cat Lady

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    This patriarchal virgin/**** dichotomy is crap.
     
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