I hear women of all ages being called "girl". This irks me, because
a) Men are rarely if ever called "boy"
b) It shows attitudes that women are children and can't take care of themselves
I think it's very disrespectful. What do you think?
It only bothers me if I think the person means something negative by it, or is attempting to gain the upper hand by the use of it.
Mostly, I don't think that's the case, so I am not often bothered by it. I'll refer to guys as
boys sometimes, and I don't really mean it in a offensive way -- but I do sometimes play with terms and attitudes in a joking way -- usually in a very familiar setting, with people I have a good rapport with, and that I think know that I wouldn't really tolerate offensive behavior or terms directed toward anyone in a mean-spirited way, or intended in a generally demeaning way.
I would not use it in a business, formal, or other "serious" situation setting, though, where the situation calls for a level of professionalism, formal respect, etc. or where it might undermine a person's position in a situation.
I will also sometimes refer to other women (especially my sisters or long-time friends) as
girls, even though most of them are older than me, and I'm 50.
One of my brothers uses the term
girls toward us, and he also uses the term "broad" and that is definitely done to get a rise out of us, so we can spar with him. I win a lot. I think he likes it.
I think it can be used affectionately at times.