Aquitaine
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that would never come to happen.
women are not permited to mary more than one husband (not just according to islam)
Why is it not permitted?
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that would never come to happen.
women are not permited to mary more than one husband (not just according to islam)
Obviously you didn't even attempt to read why Muhammed married Aisha. I cannot argue with someone who doesn't even read the post. You seem to be attacking the culture not the religion. It was the culture almost every place in the world. I don't know why you seem to be signalling out Arabia. You are also unable to comprehend that today's values cannot be transplanted to society 1400 years ago.Also, again you say it was the practice of the time, but we're taling about God's right-hand man here, yet he still decides to submit to Cultural norms of the time.
I am arguing that the Prophet Muhammed was not a Pedophile. Thus he didn't engage in pedophilia though I most likely phrased the sentence poorly.Erm, he did engage in such sick activities; he married and slept with a child. As for why he married her, I don't know, maybe he wanted to add to his already excessive collection of wives, and wanted a young one for personal greed.
Bias? C'mon, I'm observing what I see in Islamic texts, he married what..... 11 Women, and married a child - no matter how hard you try to twist it, you cannot deny such things happened.
Click the link. It will explain what Nikah is and how your sexual connotation of consummation does not apply.There's only so much you can hide behind translations, it obivously tells of him having sex with her, and therefore consummating his marriage.
Abibi said:Obviously you didn't even attempt to read why Muhammed married Aisha.
You have failed to respond to the evidence I have provided. You continue to blame the culture of society which you seem not to understand. It was not a culture of having sex with young girls. It was marrying women that were women in society's eyes.
Their lives were half as long as life expectancy in advanced countries like America. The earlier the die the younger you marry. This is simple, I don't understand what is daunting about this prospect.
Yes he married them. They weren't his concubines. They weren't his sex slaves. They didn't live in a rich harem. He didn't indulge in luxuries. He didn't marry someone for years on end after his first wife died. Why would he want to, just for carnal desires, so suddenly. You deny historical proof and rationality.
Click the link. It will explain what Nikah is and how your sexual connotation of consummation does not apply.
Why is it not permitted?
How Imam Abu Hanifa received his kunya (i think it means name)
Abu Hanifa' is an unusual name because it means 'the father of Hanifah', and Hanifah was his daughter. It was not the custom in those days to do this. Normally, the name would be 'the father of the name of a son.'How this came about is quite edifying. One day the great Imam Abu Hanifa was asked a question that, for the first time in his illustrious career, he was unable to answer. The question was, "Whywere women forbidden to marry more than one husband at a time?" To make a long story short, Abu Hanifa's daughter said that she knew the answer and would solve this question if her father would make a promise to her that if she succeeded in solving this problem, he would then assure her a place in history. Abu Hanifa agreed. So she gathered a group of women together and gave each of them a cup. Then she brought in a large bowl of milk and asked each of them to dip their cups in the milk and to fill their cups. They did so. She then asked them to pour back the milk into the bowl. They did this too. She then asked them to re-fill their cups taking back only their own milk that they had poured into the bowl. This, obviously, was impossible to do. Hanifah had clearly demonstrated the kind of predicament that would be created if a woman had several husbands. With more than one husband, if she were to become pregnant, she would have exceptional difficulties determining who the actual father was. Identifying parentage and lineage would then be insurmountable for the offspring. Imam Abu Hanifa was so pleased with her answer that he took the name 'Abu Hanifa', 'the father of Hanifah', so his daughter did indeed earn a place in history.
http://www.sunnah.org/history/Scholars/How%20Abu%20Hanifa%20got%20his%20kunya.htm
is that good enough?
eselam said:muslim families are quite large in numbers compared to non muslim families.
so if a woman marries say 3 men and they each want at least 6 or 7 kids.......do try to imagine that.......she would have to give birth year after year for atleast 18 or 21 years.
please tell me you think thats a bit too much.
if that was to happen, then the wife would be just a breeding machine, she would have her rights taken away, she would be separated from her children (just as the man has to give all his wives a house each the husbands must have one each in this case).
now just to make this interesting and to support it by facts, do ask a female from your family if she would be willing to go through that (nothing personal meant) and post the answer i will be happy hear back from you.
so first you didn't understand my example then you end up trying to dissprove it, nice.
Could you elaborate on this, Madhuri? Are you saying that God is male and has a female companion (i.e. a godess)?In fact God, in any manifestation in the eternal spiritual realm, has one wife/companion. In fact God is the union of the male and female counterparts. One man and one woman make a whole.
Physically, though, it would be easier for 3 women to produce 7 children each than it would be for 1 woman to produce 21 children. One man can father a lot more children than one woman can give birth to. In cases where the logic behind the practice of polygamy is to increase a given population, it would stand to reason that a man could marry more than one woman but a woman would not be permitted to marry more than one man. I'm not saying that's how it is with Islam, but that's how it was in the early days of Mormonism when polygamy was practiced.3 Husbands wanting 7 children each is no different from 1 Husband wanting 21 children.
3 Husbands wanting 7 children each is no different from 1 Husband wanting 21 children.
Besides, who's to say it's all about "want" when it comes to having a family? Who cares if each Husband wants 7 kids each, they'll all share fatherhood of however many children happen to be born, even if it's just 1. That's the idea, that's the deal, the marriage is a unity between all people involved, it's not just a way for individuals to get what they want and then separate.
"Yeah I'm only marrying you so I can get like 7 kids, innit".
Yes, I do think it is a bit much for each Husband to want to have 7 kids each, even though they're all supposed to act as a family and should be gratefull of whatever comes out of the Mother's Womb.
Explain to me how a giving birth to a large amount of children can take away a Womans "rights"?
Also, why would they be separated? Shouldn't they all just consolidate their money and buy one big house, rather than multiple little ones?
I have 4 females in my family (1 Mother, and 3 Sisters). Two of them are here, and they both say they would not want 21 children, multiple Husbands, or be part of a Polygyny relationship. They believe in 1 Husband and 1 Wife, together.
I'd imagnie the other two would say the same.
Not only that, but if separation via houses is one of your concerns, then the same happens with Polygyny with the Wives having houses of their own.
I have 4 females in my family (1 Mother, and 3 Sisters). Two of them are here, and they both say they would not want 21 children, multiple Husbands, or be part of a Polygyny relationship. They believe in 1 Husband and 1 Wife, together.
I'd imagnie the other two would say the same.
Where does that lead us?
Physically, though, it would be easier for 3 women to produce 7 children each than it would be for 1 woman to produce 21 children. One man can father a lot more children than one woman can give birth to. In cases where the logic behind the practice of polygamy is to increase a given population, it would stand to reason that a man could marry more than one woman but a woman would not be permitted to marry more than one man. I'm not saying that's how it is with Islam, but that's how it was in the early days of Mormonism when polygamy was practiced.[/font]
She was not a child.Why? What was it? What was this honourable noble cause that justified him to marry a child?
I'm not blaming his actions on anything. He had everyright to marry the women offered to him in marriage. Aisha prospered of the marriage and wrote lovingly of the Prophet. She exhibited none of the mental scars that many other women exhibit at the hands of pedophiles. She actually became one of the most respected scholars in the history of Islam. So can you explain to me why she does not show a response to the supposed acts that you speak of?Nope, It's actually the other way around, you are blaming the actions of Mo' on the Cultural norms of the society at the time. Did God's Apostle bother to amend these cultural aspects? No, he went along with them.
A male marries later in life because he is expected to support his family. He is expected to go to war. He is expected to commit himself to tasks that are not suitable for a man in the body of a 13 year old.Except if you're a Male, then you marry much later in life, no matter how short your life expentancy is, as you said in the previous post. It seems to me not to be that the younger you are the earlier you marry, but instead the younger the girl the earlier she marries an older man. Now that doesn't add up......
You are denying historical evidence and rationality when you imply the Prophet married these women for carnal desires. This accusation just doesn't make sense logically. Why would a man who could summon the most beautiful virgins of Arabia be content with old women? Moreover why would he even marry them? It would be easier to keep them as concubines. To exploit them. However the Prophet supported and fostered these women in their times of need. He made them a part of the Ummah and ensured that they were not forgotten. He genuinely cared for these women. Also the Prophet rejected luxuries. His lifestyle was the complete opposite of that of a Harem, perhaps you should look up what a Harem actually is...How am I denyig historical evidence and rationality? I said he married 11 Women, and you agreed........ Also, where did the sex-slaves and concubbines come from, I never mentioned anything like that? Oh and, he didn't live in a rich Harem, or indulge in luxuries?! The Man had 11 wives......
The Arabic term is Nikah.Nikah is where the translation stems from. The English translation of Nikah is quite different from anything relating to sexual meanings. Nikah cannot be twisted to mean anything vaguely sexual and hence the English translation cannot be taken to mean anything sexual.OH all the vast transaltions I read, I see "consummated" in pracitcally all of them. Now, the people who translate this stuff arn't idiots, they seem to be abl to get accurate translations for everything else, so why would they slip up here? If the "consummation" was just an act of sealing the marriage contract, then why doesn't it say "formalize" or something along that line?
are you serious or sarcastic again?
just before you said that we can determine who the father is through DNA tests and now you are saying that it's ok for a child to have 3 fathers? we're back to the mental issues that i mentioned. we're just going in circles Paul.
oh come on, you know thats not how it works.
have you ever met anyone who has gotten married just to have kids and not love his wife? try to be reasonable will ya?
well in islam a woman can earn her own money if she wants to, so we cross that option out.
she can go out where she wants to, but we can cross that out too.
she can have her own car if she wants to, but a car or a van wont fit 21 kids in it, we cross that out too.
would you like me to keep going?
so 3 men that are married to the same woman would be fine sharing a house with one another? do you really think that?
women are given a house each in a polygamy marriage in islam. the law doesn't allow 3 or 4 women to live at the same house. so it would be reasonable to say 3 men should have their own "multiple little ones" instead of having to "consolidate their money and buy one big house"
so that why a marriage contract exists in islam, women can say that they do not want their husband to marry other women.
i think that leads to the end of the discussion, what do you recon?
i don't know if thats how it is in islam, but here is an example of why someone might want a second wife;
a couple gets married right, but the wife can't have any kids. so instead of the man having to divorce his first love and his first wife, he gets married to another one and keeps the first wife also.
there are some had that say women numbers will be more than the number of men so polygamy will be the only anwer to that. and a time will come that 50 women will be loked after by one man.
Physically, though, it would be easier for 3 women to produce 7 children each than it would be for 1 woman to produce 21 children. One man can father a lot more children than one woman can give birth to. In cases where the logic behind the practice of polygamy is to increase a given population, it would stand to reason that a man could marry more than one woman but a woman would not be permitted to marry more than one man. I'm not saying that's how it is with Islam, but that's how it was in the early days of Mormonism when polygamy was practiced.
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i don't know if thats how it is in islam, but here is an example of why someone might want a second wife;
a couple gets married right, but the wife can't have any kids. so instead of the man having to divorce his first love and his first wife, he gets married to another one and keeps the first wife also.
Also, I know that single households where the wife has two "husbands" can work.
I know... because I know a household where this is so.
(of course the second male cannot be a legal husband because of the laws)
well thank you very much, see we have facts and evidence that a woman being married to 2 or more men does not work, where as a man being married to 2 or more women does work.
thanks for your supporting post UV.