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Featured Why i'm against sex before marriage

Discussion in 'General Religious Debates' started by Meandflower, Jul 14, 2021.

  1. Meandflower

    Meandflower Well-Known Member

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    I'm against sex before marriage because when people have sex with different boyfriends/girlfriends without marriage (and often people begin with sex in their teenage years) then it is high risk of becoming pregnant and many women and teenage girls choose abortion.

    But if people is virgin to they are adult and get married (to the person they want to have a family with/or the person they want to spend the rest of their life with) then the abortions numbers will be much fewer! Then the abortion numbers will go down!

    So the best solution to get much fewer abortions is that people do not have sex outside marriage!

    I believe abortion is murder (except if a child or woman has been raped, or the woman have a illness so she is in risk of dying in child birth).

    And even if you do not believe abortion is murder, you do agree i hope that it is best to try get the abortion numbers to get fewer?

    Because of this i believe that to not have sex before marriage is the most moral.

    What do you think about this? Any thoughts?
     
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  2. Polymath257

    Polymath257 Think & Care
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    Sounds to me like a better strategy is to promote birth control.

    Remember that people inside marriages may not want to have children as well.

    if you want to reduce the number of abortions, promote sex education and the use of effective birth control.
     
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    That's very stupid for a simple reason. If everybody follows your advice, people will marry sooner and will be even less likely to get contraception and there will be just as much or even more abortions. There will also be much more divorces. Your method has been tried and has failed numerous times in numerous circumstances in the past and present.

    The best solution to get fewer abortions is very simple. Comprehensive mandatory science-based sexual education, free easily available contraception, gender equality, more critical thinking skills and family planning resources. That can make abortion level diminish.
     
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  4. Meandflower

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    Well the truth is if people wait with sex to after marriage the abortion numbers will go down.

    This is why:

    Yes maybe some marriaged couple do not want children and because of this they take abortion. But if people do not have sex before marriage then almost all the abortions that happen because of sex before marriage be Will be much fewer.

    And even if you believe abortion is not murder, you do agree i hope that is best to try to get the numbers of abortion to be fewer?

    So to wait with sex to after marriage is the perfect solution to get the abortions to be much fewer!

    Birth control can married couples use!
     
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    Marriage to me is just a piece of paper, and often an expensive and unnecessary one at that. Better strategy is promoting healthy communication, sex education and contraceptive use.

    Just a reminder that 'abstinence only' states have the highest rates of teen pregnancies.

    Sex is natural, marriage isn't.
     
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    I don't understand. How does marriage prevent women from getting an abortion?

    That and how does marriage prevent unwanted pregnancy less than it would before marriage?

    I don't believe STDs really "care" about marriage.
     
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    Too much risk of marrying someone you're not romantically compatible with.
     
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    I'm in favor of reversible sterilization of everyone at birth, to be reversed only if asked after adulthood.

    That would drastically reduce the number of abortions.
     
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    Definitely abortion numbers go down if some people wait with sex till married, esp. when they wait with marriage till 25 or older
     
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    Marriage prevent almost all the abortions that happens because of sex in teenage years and early aldulthood.
    If people marriage when they are adult, mentaly mature, and wait with marriage unntil they find the person they want to spend the rest of their life with
    then almost all those abortions will be gone!
     
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    If it were murder, how would rape make it not murder?
     
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    With rape the rapist is the murderer
     
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    Women who are married have abortions too.
     
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    If a rape victim gave birth only to kill her baby later, does this logic still apply?
     
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    How?

    What's the logic or reasoning behind saying "I do" and choosing to abort?
     
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    People learning how to best protect themselves when having sex is proven to reduce not only pregnancy but abortion overall. As well as containing STDs properly.
    Marriage is inconsequential. Because married women have abortions, married couples cheat or even have open marriages.
    Pragmatism over feelings usually leads to better results, imo
     
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    Yes but if people do not have sex before marriage then the abortions that happens because of sex in teenager years and early aldulthood will go down
     
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    As a Baha'i, I always followed the Baha'i Law of no sex outside of marriage. I got married when I was 32 years old and my husband who is also a Baha'i was 42. We were both virgins and have never had sex with anyone else. The Baha'i Law states:

    “The Bahá’í teachings on sexual morality centre on marriage and the family as the bedrock of the whole structure of human society and are designed to protect and strengthen that divine institution. Bahá’í law thus restricts permissible sexual intercourse to that between a man and the woman to whom he is married.” The Kitáb-i-Aqdas, p. 223
     
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    People are going have to sex before marage, it has been like that since the dawn of time.
     
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    in my opinion the solution to this problem is that sex outside marriage become illigal.
     
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