1. Welcome to Religious Forums, a friendly forum to discuss all religions in a friendly surrounding.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
    • Access to private conversations with other members.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon!

Why get married if not for sex and romance?

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Trailblazer, Sep 25, 2022.

  1. Trailblazer

    Trailblazer Veteran Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2017
    Messages:
    39,343
    Ratings:
    +12,182
    Religion:
    Baha'i
    Why get married if not for sex and romance?

    1. Let’s say you are an older man or woman and you were divorced or widowed and you have no interest in sex. Would you get remarried? If so, why would you get remarried?
    What would be the purpose of the marriage?

    2. Is romance a necessary precursor to marriage or a necessary part of marriage? If so, why?

    Romance: a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.
    romance means - Google Search

    Is romance same as love?

    Love means devotion, affection and commitment. Romance is everything superficial like long drives, intimate dinners. Jan 17, 2021
    What is the Difference Between Love & Romance - FN

    What makes a person romantic?

    Most romantic people are in love with love; they get extra enjoyment out of fantasy, idealism and little gestures of endearment. Pretty much all of us feel romantic when we begin new relationships. Some of us feel more romantic during sentimental times or just for vacations, date nights or anniversaries. Feb 9, 2017
    How Romantic Are You? [Quiz] - Live Happy Magazine

    What do romantic feelings feel like?

    Romantical feelings can be described as deep emotional interest and connection with another individual that is not purely physical or sexual. One of the first signs is that you wish to be intimate with that individual, but that intimacy doesn't need to be of a sexual nature. Apr 12, 2022
    What Does Romantic Attraction Feel Like - WOC Therapy
     
    • Useful Useful x 1
  2. Moon

    Moon Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 22, 2019
    Messages:
    3,705
    Ratings:
    +1,286
    love, companionship, friendship,family,children
     
    • Like Like x 2
    • Winner Winner x 1
    • Useful Useful x 1
    • Optimistic Optimistic x 1
  3. InvestigateTruth

    InvestigateTruth Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 21, 2010
    Messages:
    8,454
    Ratings:
    +3,147
    Religion:
    Baha'i
    Only if one feels attracted to someone. If you feel like living and intimate relationship with that person. Otherwise I don't see any good reason to marry again.
     
  4. sun rise

    sun rise Śvāna Dharma
    Premium Member

    Joined:
    Apr 28, 2014
    Messages:
    74,352
    Ratings:
    +38,521
    Religion:
    Love/Omnism
    I would if I found someone.

    Blend my life with another person's life.

    It's not necessary. In the past marriages were arranged and often were happy. Romance is not necessary but "little gestures" are like adding spices to a meal - it improves the relationship.
     
    • Like Like x 1
    • Useful Useful x 1
  5. Sand Dancer

    Sand Dancer Crazy Cat Lady

    Joined:
    Jan 12, 2013
    Messages:
    6,848
    Ratings:
    +4,492
    Religion:
    Agnostic Buddhist
    Tax benefits, insurance, etc? You can have sex and romance without marriage, but IMO if you wanna have kids, I think it benefits the kids if parents are married. If one parent runs off, at least you can divorce and get some compensation.
     
    • Like Like x 1
    • Useful Useful x 1
  6. Trailblazer

    Trailblazer Veteran Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2017
    Messages:
    39,343
    Ratings:
    +12,182
    Religion:
    Baha'i
    Do you think that a physical attraction is necessary?
    Do you think that a sexual relationship is necessary in marriage?
    Can't you think of any other reasons why someone might want to get married?
     
  7. ADigitalArtist

    ADigitalArtist Veteran Member
    Staff Member Premium Member

    Joined:
    Feb 1, 2015
    Messages:
    10,367
    Ratings:
    +16,813
    Religion:
    Irreligious Agnostic Atheistic Apatheist
    Marriage wasn't a prerequisite for sex to me so it wouldn't be the reason that we get married even as a young person let alone an old person. It would be to throw a big party to celebrate being together as well as uniting uniting decision making power and assets under the law of the society that I am in.
    It makes things like health and life insurance easier as well as automatic inheritance and medical decisions without needing a lawyer an Poa or living will.
     
    • Like Like x 4
  8. VoidCat

    VoidCat Pronouns: they/them/their thon/thons/thonself

    Joined:
    Nov 21, 2018
    Messages:
    9,052
    Ratings:
    +10,045
    Religion:
    Pagan Witch and Demonolatrist
    Quasiplatonic relationship. Thats why
     
    • Like Like x 1
    • Optimistic Optimistic x 1
  9. Twilight Hue

    Twilight Hue Twilight, not bright nor dark, good nor bad.

    Joined:
    Mar 7, 2009
    Messages:
    47,580
    Ratings:
    +21,425
    Religion:
    Philosophical Buddhism
    Marriage is basically a declaration of ownership over a union.
     
    • Useful Useful x 2
  10. PureX

    PureX Veteran Member

    Joined:
    Feb 12, 2006
    Messages:
    23,071
    Ratings:
    +12,618
    Religion:
    Philosophical Taoist/Christian
    Most humans don't want to go through life alone.
     
    • Winner Winner x 2
    • Useful Useful x 1
  11. Evangelicalhumanist

    Evangelicalhumanist "Truth" isn't a thing...
    Premium Member

    Joined:
    Aug 29, 2013
    Messages:
    14,315
    Ratings:
    +17,541
    Religion:
    None.
    Humans like to feel connected -- it makes us comfortable. Many people who have been married for many decades have lost all interest in sex, but lost none of the connection to the spouse that they used to have it with.

    I keep wondering why so many RF members seem to have so little insight into some of the very simple things that comprise what it means just to be human. Are they all so focused on some other reality than this one, that they can't easily cope with their own reality/
     
    • Like Like x 5
    • Winner Winner x 2
  12. Exaltist Ethan

    Exaltist Ethan Earth is Divine Nature

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2012
    Messages:
    772
    Ratings:
    +704
    Religion:
    Earthseed
    I have a wedding ring tattooed on my hand. I'm not legally married. Then why did I do it?

    I'm married to God. Richard Dawkins was right - "Pantheism is the sex'ed up atheism." lol

    But really, I like to think that the ring shows a degree of devotion I have towards pantheism, syntheism and what I believe to be God. What nature is becoming. I know girls are going to freak out if they are interested in me and see that ring. I don't care. I consider myself a devotee of my own beliefs, the idea of what God means to me, and I'm proud of it.

    If by one chance I actually do get married to a woman one day I'll put an actual ring over it. I can always take her ring off, but the tattoo symbolizes that God always comes first in my life. I know most people can't really understand that.
     
    • Like Like x 1
    • Useful Useful x 1
  13. sun rise

    sun rise Śvāna Dharma
    Premium Member

    Joined:
    Apr 28, 2014
    Messages:
    74,352
    Ratings:
    +38,521
    Religion:
    Love/Omnism

    That's the most cynical thing I've read at least for this month if not longer. And who owns whom?
     
    • Like Like x 1
  14. Vinayaka

    Vinayaka devotee
    Premium Member

    Joined:
    Feb 10, 2011
    Messages:
    36,008
    Ratings:
    +21,922
    Religion:
    Saivite Hindu
    I think companionship is the main reason. Boss and I go waterfall hunting, look at scenery, or go on pilgrimages and cultural excursions. We watch TV shows together, and go on walks. If you imagine somebody doing all that stuff alone (there are exceptions) it's easy to see why a person might remarry. Dad would have if he'd have found someone, after Mom passed. One of my aunts did. Social people like other people by definition.
     
    • Like Like x 4
  15. InvestigateTruth

    InvestigateTruth Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Sep 21, 2010
    Messages:
    8,454
    Ratings:
    +3,147
    Religion:
    Baha'i
    If there is no physical attraction or sex involved, I wouldn't call it marriage. But still some people may get married because they don't want to be alone, or they want to have a companion. There must be some attraction either physically or spiritually.
     
    • Optimistic Optimistic x 1
  16. Sand Dancer

    Sand Dancer Crazy Cat Lady

    Joined:
    Jan 12, 2013
    Messages:
    6,848
    Ratings:
    +4,492
    Religion:
    Agnostic Buddhist
    I didn't take it that way. I took it as, "I am the owner of 'us' and you are the owner of 'us,' and no one else has any ownership in it.
     
    • Like Like x 2
  17. Trailblazer

    Trailblazer Veteran Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2017
    Messages:
    39,343
    Ratings:
    +12,182
    Religion:
    Baha'i
    Why?

    In the Baha'i marriage ceremony all that is read is: “We will all, verily, abide by the will of God.”

    Why would sex need to be involved once a couple is past the child-bearing years?
    That is what this thread is about, older people.
     
    • Like Like x 1
  18. Trailblazer

    Trailblazer Veteran Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2017
    Messages:
    39,343
    Ratings:
    +12,182
    Religion:
    Baha'i
    That is also how I interpreted it.
     
    • Friendly Friendly x 1
  19. Trailblazer

    Trailblazer Veteran Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2017
    Messages:
    39,343
    Ratings:
    +12,182
    Religion:
    Baha'i
    or emotionally or intellectually, unless it is an arranged marriage, but arranged marriages are not the case with older couples.
     
    • Like Like x 1
  20. Trailblazer

    Trailblazer Veteran Member

    Joined:
    Dec 27, 2017
    Messages:
    39,343
    Ratings:
    +12,182
    Religion:
    Baha'i
    Did your dad look for someone? Did your aunt look?
    Seek and ye shall find, well maybe...

    My dad passed on at age 52 when my mom was 51 and she lived to be 93, but she never remarried.
     
Loading...