If the act has a bad moral object then intending to do it would be bad. The word "evil" has a very broad application to me, from a "white lie" to genocide to the death of a plant, all of this can go under the name "evil" to me. Or it can also be said to be lack of good in anything, or where it is not as good as it could be.
I've actually never tied morality to anything outside of hurting others-speech, body, or mind. Anything outside of that the morality is individual. So, I can't say "this type of sex" is morally bad. It may be taboo and make me uncomfortable (say opposite-sex sex for example
) but nothing to where I call it a sin. It's one thing to say the act is wrong but another to relate to murder and rape. It translate as homosexuals are murderers and rapists-which the latter was highly believed in the past. In the early 1990s during Clinton in the US homosexuals couldn't be boy scout leaders for fear he would molest young boys.
I mean many christians may think LGBTQ is focused on their morals but it really goes beyond theological differences.
The association between a person and their acts is to a degree impossible to avoid, as we only come to know persons through their acts, the acts reveal their existence to us even. Moreover knowing choices that are moral are a kind of "working of the person," in that good persons produce good acts and bad persons produce bad acts. Now bad shouldn't be thought of as some positive quality but only that the person is deficient, or in a sense is not as good of a human person as they could be. One can still say they are entirely good in themselves but they could be better.
I wish this applied in christianity to same-sex couples who wish to touch the people they love. I can't imagine many christians who can't do this. Though, my friend (former girlfriend) is heavily christian and believes god knows her heart.
The negative consequences of it from my view include but are not limited to: a decrease in the goodness of a person, a blindness to the things of God (long in Christian theology has it been said that lust and fornication blinds the intellect) or higher goods at all, the social consequences that occur when a society is filled with this (the whole begins to not direct itself to it's end which is God and virtue, which leads to death and Hell ultimately).
I understand if it were murder but not sex.
The point about Jesus was basically just that He by His good acts had negative consequences but the good ones outweighed the bad ones.
Putting god-says-so aside for a minute what's inherently wrong with same-sex sex that causes negative consequences?
I know you said it separates them from god but from a non-god view how is it wrong (assuming the intentions are healthy and safe sex between both parties involved)?
When a christian says same-sex sex is wrong to many it translates not just from scripture, but medically, morally (from the couple's point of view), legally, and otherwise. Those reasons that hurt people or take people's rights away rather than theological differences.
Those two examples are not a comparison to same-sex sexual acts but just elucidate the point of gravity and the necessity of knowing choice in moral acts.
That's a pretty harsh way to use same-sex sex and murder together with similar gravity. Can you imagine how a christian gay person feels when he sees homosexual align with murder and rape? No matter how a person interprets it, it's not a good feeling.
As for intention: yes it is the position that intention alone is not the most important part of the act. While they may have a good or misplaced intention to do good the act in itself is bad. An example to elucidate that point is how someone can intend to not make a mess but does in fact, they may not even realize they have done it but they in fact did do it, and it objectively has made a mess. The same applies here.
Is it only theologically and morally bad based on christian values?
I know there are christians on this board that mistake their christian values with medical facts in regards to sexual orientation, homosexuals, and same-sex sex. I would say the two are completely separate due to culture, language, bias, laws, and people's personal experiences.
I agree with God's judgment of Sodom and Gomorrah although I personally think it had more to do with the rape than that, but that's a side issue. I am just saying that in judging the world at the end of time those who are saved will participate in that, so there is imitation. I do not think any judgment of God is in error though.
I can see those who engage in sexual promiscuity. Though I'm coming from couples who do not.