Fromper
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So I've been thinking about this lately. The words "Jew" and "Jewish" have multiple meanings. One meaning is religious, and the other is ethnic/cultural. There are "secular Jews" who have given up on the religious belief, but refuse to give up the cultural identity of being Jewish.
Personally, I questioned the religious stuff and wondered if God was real even as a kid. I was pretty much a "secular Jew" most of my life, but it took until well into my 30s to embrace the atheist label. These days, when filling out any sort of survey, census, etc that asks religion, I check the "atheist" or "none" box. I don't even consider checking the "Jewish" box any more, despite having done so for years, even after I stopped believing in God.
If asked to provide a list of words that describe myself, I'd probably start with straight, white, male, vegetarian, atheist, and American, before moving on to stuff about my career and hobbies. The word "Jewish" wouldn't even occur to me as one to include any more. I guess I'm still Jewish ethnically, and I've got the big nose to prove it. But asked to check a box on a census, I'd identify myself as "white" for my race. Is Jewish really an ethnicity?
What about my nephews? My sister married a mostly secular Christian and had two kids, who have grown up pretty much without religion. They have secular style celebrations for the holidays of both religions, putting up a Christmas tree, lighting a Menorah, getting presents on both holidays, eating matzah during Passover, and getting Easter baskets full of candy. But they've never gone to church or synagogue, except during family celebrations like weddings and funerals for more religious family members, and never received any religious schooling. Would anyone consider them Jewish?
I guess once I embraced the atheist label, I rejected the Jewish one, and now I don't understand why other "secular Jews" don't do the same. I guess being Jewish is part of my cultural heritage, but it just doesn't seem like a big deal that's worth preserving. The place where I grew up is part of my heritage, too, and that plays just as big, if not bigger, a part in my world view and how I relate to others. To me, the words "Jew" and "Jewish" should only be used for actual believers of the religion.
Personally, I questioned the religious stuff and wondered if God was real even as a kid. I was pretty much a "secular Jew" most of my life, but it took until well into my 30s to embrace the atheist label. These days, when filling out any sort of survey, census, etc that asks religion, I check the "atheist" or "none" box. I don't even consider checking the "Jewish" box any more, despite having done so for years, even after I stopped believing in God.
If asked to provide a list of words that describe myself, I'd probably start with straight, white, male, vegetarian, atheist, and American, before moving on to stuff about my career and hobbies. The word "Jewish" wouldn't even occur to me as one to include any more. I guess I'm still Jewish ethnically, and I've got the big nose to prove it. But asked to check a box on a census, I'd identify myself as "white" for my race. Is Jewish really an ethnicity?
What about my nephews? My sister married a mostly secular Christian and had two kids, who have grown up pretty much without religion. They have secular style celebrations for the holidays of both religions, putting up a Christmas tree, lighting a Menorah, getting presents on both holidays, eating matzah during Passover, and getting Easter baskets full of candy. But they've never gone to church or synagogue, except during family celebrations like weddings and funerals for more religious family members, and never received any religious schooling. Would anyone consider them Jewish?
I guess once I embraced the atheist label, I rejected the Jewish one, and now I don't understand why other "secular Jews" don't do the same. I guess being Jewish is part of my cultural heritage, but it just doesn't seem like a big deal that's worth preserving. The place where I grew up is part of my heritage, too, and that plays just as big, if not bigger, a part in my world view and how I relate to others. To me, the words "Jew" and "Jewish" should only be used for actual believers of the religion.