I believe I understand the reasons that would cause you or me to be apprehensive in certain situations. I'm curious whether admitting apprehension or fear to those around us is difficult for you. Are there unusual experiences that you have had that made it obvious to others you were afraid but you found it impossible to admit to that fear in real life?
This is difficult to explain so if it sounds sketchy it's because i cannot fill in too much detail... Maybe one day but not yet and if it sounds crazy that's because it was
I got myself into an situation that just wouldn't let go, it included threats to myself, my children my husband and family, psychological and physical torture, pain, unwanted coercion and much more. It frightening me so much that i considered suicide as an escape.
My husband knew, he was also scared, scared for me and for hisoen life because on trying to defuse the situation he wound up hospitalised twice.
There was no way that we could confide in anyone, family and friends simply could not understand and fear kept us compliant. From a gregarious couple we became reclusive, secretive, shunning friends and family, scared of them finding out. Even to the extent of going food shopping at daft o'clock on the morning at all night supermarkets so as to avoid meeting anyone we knew. We lived like that for 6 months.
It got so obvious there was a serious problem that one day a good friend confronted us. It all came out, and like magic it was all sorted. The lifting of constant fear is the most invigorating feeling.
We have (hubby and I) have taken counseling and are, i think, as close to being over it as it is possible to be. It's got to the stage that i now vary rarely wake up screaming from a recurring nightmare
I joined the Survivors Circle forum here on RF with the full intention of relating the whole story. I have started to compose the post 3 times now but it seems i am not yet ready.