It's been a while since I posted a journal thread and even longer since I posted an elaborately personal one. I suppose now is as good a time as any to do so.
As some here know, I have had COVID twice within two months. Thankfully, I recovered without major damage in both instances. Shortly after recovering from my second infection, however, I felt an intense increase in fatigue. I went for a blood test that showed mild anemia and leukocytosis, and I'm now waiting for my follow-up to get those treated.
I don't know whether the fatigue is related to COVID, but one thing I have noticed is that nothing makes me panic at this point. I just no longer feel anxious in that way. Instead, I experience distress, depression, or just numbness--but not anger, anxiety, or panic.
Ever since I became an atheist while in ultra-conservative Saudi Arabia in 2012, I have had to adapt in multiple ways as a survival mechanism, for better or worse. One experience after another since then has only added to the lack of quick reactivity. First there were spending two years literally fearing for my life in KSA, struggling in my last year of high school, and reluctantly switching majors two years into my first one due to failing an entire semester.
Then there was the sudden loss of a best friend who distanced herself (for personal reasons that she said were unrelated to me). That caused genuine heartbreak, but it also taught me not to rely on anyone for my happiness or emotional stability. I have another best friend now, but I know I can survive on my own emotionally after the sting from the previous experience.
Most recently, there was conscription despite multiple disqualifying health issues. My time in the military was when what was left of my senses of anger and anxiety absolutely faded. I realized my survival depended on being as calculated and calm as I could possibly be, and my worldview (mainly my lack of belief in free will) made anger seem pointless to top it off.
Now I feel stronger and more emotionally independent than I have ever been, but I can't say I'm happy yet. My close friends often tell me they feel safe relying on me to be supportive and a good listener, and I appreciate that but also find it a bit amusing at times because I wouldn't have imagined it happening if you had asked me several years ago, at the peak of when I was angry, bitter, and anxious.
I don't know when my life will reach the point where I can say I'm truly happy, but at least I now know not to take resilience for granted, although I also don't brag about it because it has more or less been a necessity for me to develop it. I kinda believe life is like a guitar that you can play most optimally when you have developed calluses on your fingers. Since I have multiple calluses now, hopefully playing the guitar to its maximum potential isn't too far off.
As some here know, I have had COVID twice within two months. Thankfully, I recovered without major damage in both instances. Shortly after recovering from my second infection, however, I felt an intense increase in fatigue. I went for a blood test that showed mild anemia and leukocytosis, and I'm now waiting for my follow-up to get those treated.
I don't know whether the fatigue is related to COVID, but one thing I have noticed is that nothing makes me panic at this point. I just no longer feel anxious in that way. Instead, I experience distress, depression, or just numbness--but not anger, anxiety, or panic.
Ever since I became an atheist while in ultra-conservative Saudi Arabia in 2012, I have had to adapt in multiple ways as a survival mechanism, for better or worse. One experience after another since then has only added to the lack of quick reactivity. First there were spending two years literally fearing for my life in KSA, struggling in my last year of high school, and reluctantly switching majors two years into my first one due to failing an entire semester.
Then there was the sudden loss of a best friend who distanced herself (for personal reasons that she said were unrelated to me). That caused genuine heartbreak, but it also taught me not to rely on anyone for my happiness or emotional stability. I have another best friend now, but I know I can survive on my own emotionally after the sting from the previous experience.
Most recently, there was conscription despite multiple disqualifying health issues. My time in the military was when what was left of my senses of anger and anxiety absolutely faded. I realized my survival depended on being as calculated and calm as I could possibly be, and my worldview (mainly my lack of belief in free will) made anger seem pointless to top it off.
Now I feel stronger and more emotionally independent than I have ever been, but I can't say I'm happy yet. My close friends often tell me they feel safe relying on me to be supportive and a good listener, and I appreciate that but also find it a bit amusing at times because I wouldn't have imagined it happening if you had asked me several years ago, at the peak of when I was angry, bitter, and anxious.
I don't know when my life will reach the point where I can say I'm truly happy, but at least I now know not to take resilience for granted, although I also don't brag about it because it has more or less been a necessity for me to develop it. I kinda believe life is like a guitar that you can play most optimally when you have developed calluses on your fingers. Since I have multiple calluses now, hopefully playing the guitar to its maximum potential isn't too far off.