When someone doesn't like you

[Spiderman]

What things do you tell yourself when someone does not seem to like you, to cope?

I tell myself, "I've got my demons, they have theirs. I have often disliked people for the wrong reasons and hurt others while feeling justified, so I need to give people a Break for doing the same to me.

It could be I remind them of some one who wronged them. They may be scared. They may have been abused. They may be hurting " etc.

 

[Hockeycowboy]

That’s very kind of you, to reason on why they act that way!

 

[Skwim]

Ask yourself why you're caring what they think.

If you don't care then forget it. You're wasting your time.

If you do care then ask yourself if the reason is justified. If it isn't, forget it. You're wasting your time.

If you do do care AND the reason is justified then it may be worth examining. Maybe you should change something about yourself.

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[Samana Johann]

What things do you tell yourself when someone does not seem to like you, to cope?

I tell myself, "I've got my demons, they have theirs. I have often disliked people for the wrong reasons and hurt others while feeling justified, so I need to give people a Break for doing the same to me.

It could be I remind them of some one who wronged them. They may be scared. They may have been abused. They may be hurting " etc.

Two things possible good to add:

* Why do I have such a perception? (is my assuming right?)
* Why does it burden me? (what's my desire for "sex" here)

 

[Shadow Link]

What things do you tell yourself when someone does not seem to like you, to cope?

"Stoicism always wins!"

 

[Kangaroo Feathers]

What things do you tell yourself when someone does not seem to like you, to cope?

I tell myself, "I've got my demons, they have theirs. I have often disliked people for the wrong reasons and hurt others while feeling justified, so I need to give people a Break for doing the same to me.

It could be I remind them of some one who wronged them. They may be scared. They may have been abused. They may be hurting " etc.

When someone doesn't like you, sometimes you just need to shrug and say "eh, that's their problem". When everyone doesn't like you, that usually means the problem is you, and you should think long and hard about what you need to change.

 

[Rival]

Feel sorry for them.

 

[SalixIncendium]

It could be I remind them of some one who wronged them. They may be scared. They may have been abused. They may be hurting " etc.

A very astute assessment, Matt!

If someone doesn't like me, it's about them, not about me.*




*Unless I'm being a jerk. No one likes Salix when he's being a jerk.

 

[Spiderman]

Ask yourself why you're caring what they think.

If you don't care then forget it. You're wasting your time.

If you do care then ask yourself if the reason is justified. If it isn't, forget it. You're wasting your time.

If you do do care AND the reason is justified then it may be worth examining. Maybe you should change something about yourself.

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I do that too

 

[ChristineM]

What things do you tell yourself when someone does not seem to like you, to cope?

I tell myself, "I've got my demons, they have theirs. I have often disliked people for the wrong reasons and hurt others while feeling justified, so I need to give people a Break for doing the same to me.

It could be I remind them of some one who wronged them. They may be scared. They may have been abused. They may be hurting " etc.

Its up to them who they like or dont like. Me worrying about it is not going to force them to like me.. so.. their loss