QuestioningMind
Well-Known Member
Then you didn't address what I have said before: You are, out of your volition, making use of this forum where such a rule (which includes banning people) is enforced. This entails you don't actually mind much about such a rule, because otherwise you wouldn't be here. That would be contradictory.
If it is a big deal to someone else and not a big deal to you, it is only natural to act in accordance with what the other person wants.
No, I don't mind it that much as a rule. I think it's rather silly, but I didn't create the forum and whoever did can make whatever rules they want and ban anyone they want. It's just an online forum. That's a far cry from laws in a free democratic society in which I have a say.
And in the free democratic society that I'd prefer to live in, I wouldn't want a woman to be held legally liable just because she bruised some ex-boyfriend's ego by truthfully telling her girlfriends that the guy had the smallest stick she'd ever seen. Or to turn it around I wouldn't want a man to be held legally liable just because he bruised some ex-girlfriend's ego by truthfully telling his guy friends that she hardly ever wanted to have sex and wasn't very good at it when she did.
In a free society I don't think you should be able to be legally punished for speaking a truth, no matter how uncomfortable or embarrassed it might make anyone. I may think that the person speaking the truth is a complete jerk for doing so and I'd be eager to use my own freedom of speech to tell them so. But in a free society simply being a complete jerk isn't a crime.
I agree, that as far as I'm concerned if something's a big deal to someone else and I don't much care, it's natural for me to act in accordance with what the other person wants. But in a free society not everyone has to do what most other people would do naturally. That's part of living in a free society, accepting that not everyone is going to abide by what the majority of us consider to be social norms.