What's The Best Way To Deal With Sexual Desire?

[ChristineES]

I have had 3 children and I can say from experience that being pregnant is a pain in the a** (pardon my language, no other word would suffice). If I tell teen girls how terrible being pregnant is and how hard it is to take care of a newborn baby would they even believe me? I tell my daughter these things and I can only hope she listens.

 

[sandandfoam]

If I tell teen girls how terrible being pregnant is and how hard it is to take care of a newborn baby would they even believe me?

In a word
NO

 

[Darkness]

I assent with doppelgänger.

 

[rajakrsna]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

I chant Hare Krsna then act accordingly.

 

[Rolling_Stone]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

Have a radical prostatectomy.

 

[Hope]

The best way to deal with hunger is to eat. The best way to deal with thirst is to drink. The best way to deal with curiosity is to learn. The best way to deal with sexual desire is to find somebody with a complementary desire and help each other out.

The problem with those analogies is that those desires aren't filled within the context of an intimate relationship with someone. As soon as you degrade sexual desire to the level of eating, drinking, etc., you effectively objectify people----they become nothing more than something to be used.

 

[Hope]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

As a Christian, and a virgin, my way of dealing with sexual desire is to turn to God. If He becomes my first priority in life, then sex is no longer as important. Also, the possiblity of getting pregnant or contracting an STD are risks I'm not willing to take simply for a little pleasure.

Any desire, no matter how good, that one gratifies too much, becomes an addiction. One becomes a slave to it. I don't want to be a slave to sexual desire. Rather, I want to master it. And by God's grace, I hope I am in the process of doing that.

 

[kadzbiz]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

I guess it would depend on whether the desire was healthy or not. Has it become an addiction that is impacting negatively on your daily life, for example. Each person has their own level of sexual satisfaction. To a degree, sexual desire must be instinctual, otherwise we'd not all be here. Can we successfully consciously repress it if it's unhealthy? I doubt it. Medication would probably be required. Should we repress it in other circumstances, like if it's a requirement for a way of life? I don't know. I'm not aware of what negative affects that would have if any. For guys, wouldn't one start having more nocturnal emissions? An outlet eh? Well in a healthy relationship sex should play a role like any other activity, as it builds on the relationship. If you're lucky to have a great wife like I do, she'll be more that happy to relieve the desire even if she isn't up to the task herself.

 

[roli]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

Typically, the natural carnal instincts of man do not allow man to surpress their sexual desires to easily.
Today's society encourages to openly and freely express it, however you choose.
Marriage is a way for mankind to morally express their sexuality.
Many religions attempt to insist on celibacy, but we have seen what it causes men to do when they are instructed to refrain from it by other men as part of relgious protocol.
God has called some to be eunuchs and for them it is apparently natural and somewhat easier to restrain oneself

 

[s2a]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

I advise getting laid, as soon as possible.

It's wonderfully cathartic.

There is no "other path" that improves upon the original "path".

 

[The Great Architect]

thank you for posting this thread, Sunstone. I face this problem every day. I am alone(in terms of female company), and immobile.

Moreover, I am supposedly at my sexual peak -- my contact with girls is minimal, and I have very few outlets.

The majority of pornography is repetitive, unstimulating and ridiculous. Plus, it makes me feel cheap and secretive. I have no moral objections to most of it, I just find it depressing.

Sexual expression is part of human nature, it can not, and should not, be suppressed. but I also know, that my current methods, for the most part demoralising.

I hope that I can find a nice girl, soon. One who won't mind all my scars and tubes.

Note, this is not a personal ad.:no::biglaugh::run:

 

[Troublemane]

Yeah, I think sexual expression is important for continuation of the species--not that we humans are in any danger of going extinct any time soon! But sexual energy is just like any other form of energy, it is more potent when it is stored up for a time before being released. Pranic energy is sexual energy, they are the same thing, but "prana" gets the better rep because it is guru-sanctioned 100% "refined" sex energy, when in fact all the life force is sexual in nature. ever notice people who are really energetic and positive seem sexier?

in my experience, becoming aware of the flow of psychic energy/pranic currents enables one to circulate that energy so it doesnt accumulate and begin to stagnate, that would be bad (and may lead to some form of obsession). however, lacking that, or a partner, masturbation is totally ok.---remember we are just hairless monkeys, and what do monkeys like to do when not throwing poop at each other?

...hmm, actually, that analogy tends to hold for much of human activity.

 

[TashaN]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

So simple, get married.

 

[TashaN]

Why not try a cold shower? (just kidding).

Ahaaaa, and i was wondering why the shower in the campus of my university is cold all the time even when the weather is sooo hot. lol

They don't want the guys to get wild i guess.

 

[Izdaari]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

I think the best way is to marry, and then indulge it all you want with your spouse, using to deepen your love.

Unfortunately I don't seem to be the marrying kind. Permanent relationships have never worked out well for me, so I have no options but either celibacy or more transitory relationships. And I don't find celibacy to work well for me either, so...

 

[Sahar]

The problem with those analogies is that those desires aren't filled within the context of an intimate relationship with someone. As soon as you degrade sexual desire to the level of eating, drinking, etc., you effectively objectify people----they become nothing more than something to be used.

As a Christian, and a virgin, my way of dealing with sexual desire is to turn to God. If He becomes my first priority in life, then sex is no longer as important. Also, the possiblity of getting pregnant or contracting an STD are risks I'm not willing to take simply for a little pleasure.

Any desire, no matter how good, that one gratifies too much, becomes an addiction. One becomes a slave to it. I don't want to be a slave to sexual desire. Rather, I want to master it. And by God's grace, I hope I am in the process of doing that.

Wow, wonderful posts!! I fully agree!

 

[MdmSzdWhtGuy]

What's the best way to deal with sexual desire? Should you try to repress it? Find an outlet for it? Simply understand it? Or take some other path to dealing with it? Why?

I recommend either getting somebody to help you with the situation, or you might be forced to take matters into your own hands. Or at least that is how I have been handling (Beavis laugh) such issues.

B.