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What's The Best Way To Deal With Sexual Desire?

Discussion in 'Religious Debates' started by Sunstone, Feb 18, 2008.

  1. Vasilisa Jade

    Vasilisa Jade Formerly Saint Tigeress

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    I think the best way to deal with sexual desire is to use discretion, don't repress but keep it in check. Find an outlet for it that fits best to you... or more than likely, fits best to your faith and comfort level. I have heard that very religiously conservative people can rely on prayer to overcome thier urges. In that case... repression WOULD be at that particular persons comfort level... but, it would be what they wish to do hopefully and not what they feel they should do because of what they have been told. Which takes me to understanding... everyone should strive to be introspective when dealing with thier feelings and desires. There is nothing worse for me in the world than being confused by myself. If I know why I feel certian ways I can work through it all faster, easier, and make sound decisions.
     
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  2. Yes Man

    Yes Man Well-Known Member

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    I dunno
    That seems more like compulsion to me.
     
  3. ChristineES

    ChristineES Tiggerism
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    People by instinct know what is bad for them and what is good for them (well, usually). That is true even if they indulge in what is bad for them. Sometimes they can't help themselves- they may have an addictive personality or maybe they were never taught that they can say no to themselves. Also, sometimes what I will think is bad for someone else may not actually bad for him/her, but only for me (some people can drink and never become an alcoholic, while others who drink can become alcoholics) (no, I am not an alcoholic). That would be a judgment call.
     
  4. sandy whitelinger

    sandy whitelinger Veteran Member

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  5. Smoke

    Smoke Done here.

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    Maybe. When Cardinal Cushing was in his seventies, a young priest (or maybe a seminarian) asked him how long you have to be a priest before you get over the desires of the flesh. "I don't know yet," said the cardinal. ;)
     
  6. Draka

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    Depends on the desire and where I am and what's going on at the time. ;) Like now for instance...if I felt the desire i could just turn around, grab turk, and drag him to the bedroom for a romp. I'm sure he wouldn't complain. ;)

    Repressing sexual desire as a whole though, I don't think is a healthy thing to do. Just as our mental state can affect our physical state, it works the other way around as well.

    Then again, if we are talking sexual desire that would result in illegal activities...then we are talking about something that needs dealt with and treated by licensed therapists. If that fails, then we need some kind of assurance that the person cannot act upon such impulses.
     
  7. blackout

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    I gave it all I could GC, tryin' to push you over the top into official whoredom,
    but i just didn't have enough frubal power to do it. :(

    Still you are probably one "frubal bestowal" away,
    (at 998597)
    so I wanted AT LEAST to be the first to congradulate you. :bow:

    No finer frubal whore have I ever known. :hug:
    You are a credit to your new title. :D

    UltraViolet
     
  8. blackout

    blackout Violet.

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    Now what was this thread about anyway? :eek:

    Oh yes... sexual desire... and what to do with it... :flirt:

    I've got some pretty good ideas for sure. :D
    I'll come back to this later when I'm filled with posting desire.;)
     
  9. Somkid

    Somkid Well-Known Member

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    I think that depends on the person, some people have such a drive they can't repress it so they have to find an outlet for it. Some people can just put it out of their mind like turning a switch off. I think like anything you have to personally define to yourself how important you think it is and act accordingly (as long as it doesn't hurt anyone).
     
  10. Starfish

    Starfish Please no sarcasm

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    Okay, here's the old-fashioned opinion:
    1.Get married.
    2.If you're not ready to get married, stay away from situations that aggravate it. Take that cold shower if needed.
    3.If you are married, turn off your computer and find your spouse.
    4.If you're married, but spouse isn't available, see #2.

    Is this realistic and doable? Absolutely; many many many many have done it.
     
  11. Quoth The Raven

    Quoth The Raven Half Arsed Muse

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    Actually, there seem to be a lot of men out there that would agree that marriage certainly does the trick for unwanted sexual desire...at least on the part of their wives.:p
     
  12. Mestemia

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    Thats just what the world needs.
    Tons of horny teenagers getting married simply so that they can have sex.
    What is that divorce rate again....?
     
  13. Draka

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    1. I'd have to ask for a definition of "married" here. Is the legal paperwork really necessary or are promises and commitments between two people enough? Must there be some sort of legal ceremony, or can there be a private 'exchanging of vows" just between the two of them (or private religious ritual before whatever god they believe in)?

    2. A lot of people thoroughly believe they are ready for marriage only to find out later that they really weren't ready at all. Hence the divorce rates. many believe that it is much more logical to live with someone and have sex with someone before commiting so far as legal marriage so as to lessen the chances that they could possibly be making a mistake with that person. So, staying away from having sex sort of defeats the purpose there doesn't it?

    I have no issues with 3 or 4.
     
  14. Starfish

    Starfish Please no sarcasm

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    Not in my world.
     
  15. Smoke

    Smoke Done here.

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    I was under the impression that you lived on earth.
     
  16. Starfish

    Starfish Please no sarcasm

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    Uh yes. I know that there are thousands of single people who abstain from sex until marriage. I dated my husband for two years and we were both virgins when we got married. You do it by setting limits on what you do while dating. In over 30 years of marriage, we've never considered anyone else but each other. In my circles, we are not uncommon.
    So I know it's possible and doable. The benefits are HUGE.
     
  17. Darkness

    Darkness Psychoanalyst/Marxist

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    The obvious answer is to have sex.
     
  18. Starfish

    Starfish Please no sarcasm

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    And then deal with all the consequences.
     
  19. doppelganger

    doppelganger Through the Looking Glass

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    Or do so responsibly and control the consequences, just like any other activity.
     
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  20. ChristineES

    ChristineES Tiggerism
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    I have thought of another way to deal with sexual desire, but I think it would be too painful. :D (I know that I have a bizarre sense of humor)
     
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