You want death to be more than it is, Joeboonda, but it just isn't. Death is the opposite of life. That's it. The passing out of existence is not such a horrible fate when one considers the hope of the resurrection. This death does not have to be eternal as long as you live in God's memory. He alone can return life. As for the Rich man and Lazarus, it's just a parable. It shows the change of an approved condition that the Jews experience. Represented by the rich man, the Jews were always favored by God. Lazarus represented the christians or the despised ones. Since the Jews rejected Jesus they would be rejected by God. That was their torture. Lazarus or the christians would in turn find favor. It's not literal. As for the Lake of Fire, Rev. 20:14 tells us exactly what that is: the second
death. Death, non existence. Destroyed forever, that's all it's saying. As for the eternal punishment spoke of in the gospel, it's true. But it was the punishment that was to be eternal not the actual punishing of the individual. Once they were destroyed, that was it. They were dead forever. However, for future generations, the threat of punishment will always exist for any who rebel against God.
As for the wicked, they will be destroyed at Armageddon. God's final war. Destroyed--dead forever with no hope of ever enjoying life again. That's the punishment that God layed out for Adam and Eve, and that's what's in store for the wicked today. What I don't understand is why is that not enough for people. It's not enough that the wicked will be annihilated, but some want them to torture forever and ever as well. Answer me this, how does that punishment fit the crime? Millions and millions of years of torture for 70 or 80 years on sin? It's ridiculous and would turn any truth seeker away from God.