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What does it mean to be "Normal?"

Discussion in 'General Debates' started by Cynic, Sep 15, 2007.

  1. Cynic

    Cynic Well-Known Member

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    Seeing how in psychology, there's no real definition to the word "normal."

    And look how thick the DSM-IV is...

    Well isn't that what being a human is all about: abnormality? I mean, come on, is anyone really normal, in the sense that they conform to the values, ideas, morays, and folkways of society/culture at all times and at all costs?
     
  2. Ðanisty

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    I don't think it means anything at all to be normal. :shrug:
     
  3. michel

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    No.......and that's a lesson it took me ages to get - and I am not sure I still accept that there is no normality.

    I have always wanted "to be like other people" - because I have always felt "different"; sure some of those differences can be explained away by my upbringing, the culture in which I grew, but we are all individuals. Maybe I am less "normal" that the average Englishman - but there is still no "normality".

    I used to be convinced - for years - that I had been reincarnated on the "wrong" planet. And, boy, is that lonely.:rolleyes:
     
  4. Cynic

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    What about Androgyny? It's not really acceptable in parts of this society.

    I used to be really sensitive. But a sensitive guy is a wuss. You cry in front of people, and that makes you not "normal."

    Honestly, it takes a lot of guts to be sensitive. And I just don’t have the guts anymore. I’m like a hardened shell. I don’t care much about other people as I used to. I’m hard on the outside, and empty on the inside.

    But screw that... Now I'm empty inside... I was better off being who I really was...

    What is wrong with this society? Egoism and individualism is the norm. Aggression is accepted and encouraged. Why can't this be empathy and compassion?

    Sorry, just some incoherent rambling... I guess my Cynicism kicking in...
     
  5. michel

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    I was brought up by parents who never showed emotion; I became like that, because for me, it was the "way I should be".

    It took me ages to learn how to cry, and, unfortunately, I have reverted to being unable to cry.

    I have a good metalic shield on my emotions.:eek:
     
  6. Sunstone

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    There are psychologically healthy people, but I wouldn't say they are necessarily "normal" people.
     
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  7. SoyLeche

    SoyLeche meh...

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    I'm normal. So, you can measure how normal you are by determining how much you are like me.

    :)
     
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  8. Buttons*

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    It means you fit in with the majority?
     
  9. UnTheist

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    It's the standard of something.
     
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    Most say "normal" when they mean "average".
     
  11. Papersock

    Papersock Lucid Dreamer

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    That's pretty much what I was going to say.
    "Normal" usually just means what is the most common and accepted.
     
  12. ChristineES

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    I don't think that anyone is actually normal. Every person (whether he or she admits it or not) has something about them that would be considered different. That's what makes the world an interesting place- that no one is alike. :)
     
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  13. Cynic

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    I learned in a Psych course that androgyny is more conducive to mental stability, in comparison to leaning on the extreme end of the gender spectrum.

    Its acceptable for a woman to have masculine characteristics. Masculinity is ideal in this culture. But a man in touch with his feminine side... That's just not really a social norm, despite many people being androgynous in some way.
     
  14. Terrywoodenpic

    Terrywoodenpic Oldest Heretic

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    The average person is the single person in the world, who sits in the Middle of all the abnormal ones...
    will be pretty lonely, I suggest.
     
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  15. Willamena

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    It means comparing yourself to others.
     
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    I would agree with this along with Wilamena quote of:

    It means comparing yourself to others.
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  17. capslockf9

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    If you have 2.5 children , you're normal.
     
  18. rojse

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    There are a lot of ways of working out an average. Do we define an average through mean, median or mode?

    And considering that ninety percent of people could not be medically considered sane, does that mean insanity, in a mild form, is "normal"?
     
  19. Ever learning

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    If you behave like most people do, that is often called normal.Experience has taught me that that is not always the case.:D
     
  20. Random

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    I have no idea, I only think I do. If "normal" were "being oneself" then surely there could be no conformity...yet there is too much of the latter. I don't know, it's a crazy concept.
     
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