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What Do You Look For in a Mate?

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Cynic, Dec 15, 2007.

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What are MUST HAVE traits?

Poll closed Dec 30, 2007.
  1. Good Looks

    58.3%
  2. Nice Body

    50.0%
  3. Excellent sense of humor

    58.3%
  4. Intelligence

    91.7%
  5. kindness and sensitivity

    70.8%
  6. Independance

    70.8%
  7. Mystery

    33.3%
  8. An "Edge"

    29.2%
  9. A Secure Job and Money

    16.7%
  10. Other (please explain)

    16.7%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. Cynic

    Cynic Well-Known Member

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    What are things you must have in a mate?
     
  2. Mike182

    Mike182 Flaming Queer

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    1) looks. when i say looks, i mean the whole package. how someone dresses, how they wear their hair, their physical condition, how clean their skin is... all of these have to be up to scratch! i'm attracted to confident people, and cloths can show great initial confidence. messy hair is something i don't particularly like, and i don't like beards, goatees or mustaches. i'm not particularly interested in a body builder type, but someone who looks after their body and isn't too chubby. Skin and hygiene are very important, so someone who washes daily and uses acne products if they need to.

    2) personality. what do i mean by a good personality? someone with a sense of humor, and someone who can understand my sadistic and sarcastic sense of humor. on top of that, someone who is opinionated and has ambitions, dreams and ideals, and is motivated to work towards them. confidence is important in personality because a confident person can freely express the traits i just listed above.

    3) intellect. i need someone who can hold a decent conversation. i don't mean someone who has an encyclopedic knowledge, or can complete the crosswords in the papers in under 10 minutes, i mean someone who is relatively well read, and who can understand what people are saying, quickly follow the train of the conversation, and reply in turn. again with the personality traits and the confidence, someone who will argue against me if they disagree.


    i don't think those are particularly high standards.... :cover:

    Edit: the only poll option i didn't tick was "good job and money", because i don't really care about that. i'm a student, i can live very happily on a budget.
     
  3. Quagmire

    Quagmire Imaginary talking monkey
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    Low expectations and infinite tolerance.
     
  4. angellous_evangellous

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    Everything that is Mrs A_E!!:punk:
     
  5. Hope

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    They weren't all listed, but here goes:

    1) Strong Christian faith. This is absolutely essential.
    2) Kind and considerate....basically an old-fashioned gentleman
    3) Nice looking (doesn't have to be a stud, but I do have to be attracted to him)
    4) Intelligent
    5) Doesn't want to "settle down," willing to travel or live abroad, is adventurous
     
  6. Buttercup

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    I'm thinking a Golden Retriever would work nicely. :yes:
     
  7. Buttercup

    Buttercup Veteran Member

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    Doesn't anyone expect their significant other to have a job? :confused:

    I wouldn't have expected my mate to have tons of money but I would expect him to work.
     
  8. ChristineES

    ChristineES Tiggerism
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    Intelligence is a must, he doesn't have to be a genius, but at least have some brains.
    Sense of humor- I love to laugh
    Kindness and sensitivity- My current husband is not very nice, so if I ever get remarried, then next time I would like someone who doesn't think that it is unmanly to be kind.
    Independence.
    Although I did not choose it, I would like any mate I choose to have a job. He doesn't need to be rich or anything, which is why I did not choose it. The have a job and have money should be separated in the poll, IMO.
     
  9. Buttercup

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    That's what I thought too.....but, I just had to pick it because it would be important. I want it all. Well, the being rich part definitely doesn't matter. :p
     
  10. eudaimonia

    eudaimonia Fellowship of Reason

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    I voted for:

    Intelligence
    Kindness and Sensitivity
    Independence

    I would add to that: Imagination

    Good looks and a nice body are definitely plusses, but not deal-breaking issues.


    eudaimonia,

    Mark
     
  11. Buttercup

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    A great sense of humor isn't important to you? That doesn't necessarily mean someone is funny as in cracks a lot of jokes, more that they find the same things funny that you do. Or, they laugh often.

    I could not live without that particular attribute. In fact, if I had to trade some in from my list in exchange for humor I would. I feel so fortunate that after all the time my husband and I have been together we still make each other laugh every day...I enjoy his sense of humor and he "gets" mine. :p
     
  12. standing_alone

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    I voted "excellent sense of humor," "intelligence," "kindness and sensitivity," and "independence." Of course, an attractive appearance and decent body (as in, at least trying to be healthy and in shape) is always desirable and if someone horrified or disgusted me everytime I looked at them, it'd be hard to have a relationship, I suppose. But I know I should just accept almost whatever I can get. Which is....*looks around*....nothing. :p
     
  13. Random

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    Intelligence, and utter obedience to my will! (Lol).
     
  14. Buttercup

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    Are whips and chains included? :drool:
     
  15. Random

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    YES! Drool away, young woman: chain n' whips guaranteed, but lots of arbitrary whimsical orders I expect to be carried out to the minutest detail! MWAHAHAHA! :flirt:
     
  16. Buttercup

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    Damn! Sometimes it sucks to be married.
     
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  17. Random

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    :D The single life has its advantages.
     
  18. Mike182

    Mike182 Flaming Queer

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    no it doesn't, being single completely sucks compared to being in a relationship.
     
  19. Sunstone

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    I beg to disagree. I've been married and I've been single -- and I strongly prefer single.
     
  20. Cynic

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    I'm amazed that everyone voted for intelligence.
     
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