This is not meant to be about faith or truth of religion or stuff like that.
But would like to hear from a personal point of view what people get from their religion.
1. What does your religion give you in terms of positive values in your life? Do you think it makes you a better person than you could be without it? So basically just thoughts about what you get from your belief.
2. Do you think that there are any negative things about your religion, which you think limit you or restrict you or make you behave in ways which you have a hard time accepting? and so on.
The number one thing I get from my religion is a sense of meaning in life. Because there is a God, there is a reason for everything. And everything has a kind of essence that it would otherwise not have, if I could use a metaphor -- color rather than black and white, music rather than monotone, three dimensions rather than two... There is simply a QUALITY to life that is missing if there were no God. Judaism is the lattice that my monotheism hangs upon.
But lets talk about that lattice. I don't think its the only lattice. But it's MY lattice. It contains the histories and legends and myths, the rites and rituals and life events, and the people, who bring me closer to my God. They are all like reference points, reminders, little arrows that point the way for me. They keep me on the path.
Yes, Judaism provides me with my values. For example, I think all children tend to have an attitude of entitlement -- I imagine I would have been quite the cheat and thief had "Thou shalt not steal" not been drilled into me. On a more adult level, I see in Torah all the laws protecting the poor, laws incumbent on Jewish society. This was to be the ideal society, the society that God brought into existence. And so I ask myself, in what practical ways can I apply these ideals to my own democratic society? How can I help the poor here in similar ways, adjusted for our own culture and economy? You get the idea.
What I appreciate most about my religion is its emphasis on behavior. Sure there is kavanah -- sincere heart. But in the end, you can have all the right intentions and do the wrong thing. I'd rather have someone do the right thing for the wrong reasons than do the wrong thing with good intentions. If I were starving, I wouldn't care WHY someone was feeding me dinner. I'd just be grateful for the food. Some religions are all about belief, belief, belief. Judaism is down where the rubber meets the road. Love isn't a feeling, its actions of love. We start with the right actions FIRST, and then work our way up the ladder to a sincere heart.
As far as negative effects, no. But I think that has to do with me being just a Jew. I tend to be more on the conservative side, but I'm not actually attached to that denomination. I take some from the Orthodox, and some from the Reform as well. I feel at home in any Jewish prayer service. The things one group is into that I'm not, that's fine for them but not for me, I just think. I'm basically happy wherever I go.
It also has to do with the openness of Judaism. They say two Jews, three opinions. The Rabbis I've studied with have never minded that I've disagreed. We argue, and then we go out to lunch.
Thirdly, when I was Orthodox, the group which had the most observances I had problems with, my attitude was that it was fine to disagree, but I should go along with the community for the sake of being with the community. After all, it's not like it hurt me to do so.
I'm going to absolutely butcher this story -- maybe Rabbi O can help me out here. I was told this story so long ago that I know I've forgotten large chunks of it.
There was a famous Rabbi (Rashi's grandson???) who argued that everyone was getting it wrong. When it says "Thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thy hand, and they shall be for frontlets between thine eyes" it's not talking about making these little boxes with Torah scrolls inside, he said. It means to observe the Law with the all our strength and to understand it with our intellect. Yet despite his opinion, this Rabbi became an expert at making Tefillin (the little boxes with the Torah scrolls inside). Why? Because we don't as Jews act as individuals. It's not what my opinion is and what your opinion is, it's what Israel does as a community, and the community made Tefillin. (Today we know he was right of course, although we still make Tefillin as well.)
This Rabbi's willingness to both think for himself and also go along with community standards is my standard to follow. He is, basically, my mentor.
You can see how approaching things with this sort of attitude will always leave me feeling free and happy.