natasha levchenko
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respect in marriage is not a luxury :it is a necessity)
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what bible principles can help to show respect in marriage?
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In traditional marriage, a man gets an all purpose domestic appliance and a woman gets a permanent meal ticket. They are deemed an official breeding pair.
Modern marriage is different.
To which are you referring?
Tom
Seriously though. I believe the simple fact that God uses marriage as such an important metaphor in scripture, implies that people should take marriage as seriously as God takes his promises.
Ephesians 5:33 Wives and Husbands
…This mystery is profound, but I am speaking about Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
…This mystery is profound, but I am speaking about Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Looking at this from a Christian liberal perspective: First of all, divorce is a Jewish principle and a Biblical one seen in Deuteronomy 24. Jesus comments on it as well. It is a law about how a Jewish man must behave towards a women he no longer loves, however, for Christians there is to be neither male nor female and the laws are not specifically considered binding in every case. Instead Christians are supposed to apply Jewish principles. The principle is that marriage must have love and certain other vitamins to exist. Jesus (according to Matthew) alludes to Deut 24 when he states that the reason for divorce is that hearts are hard, implying that 'Hardness of heart' in a marriage amounts to breaking the marriage union. There are examples in the Bible of people who are hard hearted. I think it refers to someone uncaring, ungenerous, unwilling to compromise. These things break the marriage union before a divorce ever happens.
Some people read Jesus to mean that divorce itself forces adultery, but such a shallow reading makes no sense. In the first place, the Divorce is provided to allow someone unloved to move on and not be bound in servitude. By pointing out that Deut 24 is about hardness of heart, Jesus is saying that a marriage union has already been broken by the time a divorce is justified. In other words when a marriage becomes toxic or bondage instead of nurturing, then I think Jesus is saying the marriage is already defunct. A divorce has been caused by the disgraceful hardness of heart. He is saying not to let the marriage get that way. A certain level of mutual love is a must or the marriage does not exist. Obviously love and marriage carries a requirement to have at minimum some respect for the spouse as a fellow in a mutual endeavor.
Some people read Jesus to mean that divorce itself forces adultery, but such a shallow reading makes no sense. In the first place, the Divorce is provided to allow someone unloved to move on and not be bound in servitude. By pointing out that Deut 24 is about hardness of heart, Jesus is saying that a marriage union has already been broken by the time a divorce is justified. In other words when a marriage becomes toxic or bondage instead of nurturing, then I think Jesus is saying the marriage is already defunct. A divorce has been caused by the disgraceful hardness of heart. He is saying not to let the marriage get that way. A certain level of mutual love is a must or the marriage does not exist. Obviously love and marriage carries a requirement to have at minimum some respect for the spouse as a fellow in a mutual endeavor.
Kelly of the Phoenix
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So, only an immature and self-serving version of respect, then.
God: I promise to make you My bride. Unless you irritate Me. Then we're getting a divorce. But if you come crawling back, I guess I'll take you back. Until you do it again...
It takes two ya know. Now it says women should respect their husbands and husbands should love their wives. So respect seems to be the burden of the woman, love the burden of the man. The logical necessity of the situation, if the man is going to be the head it requires the respect of the woman, and having the man take care of her is the benefit to the woman.
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psychoslice
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In my own opinion the so called bible has nothing going for itself when it come to marriage, I can see it only breaking up marriage.
natasha levchenko
Member
I agree with much of what you say,marriage is a divine institution/authorized and established by God in Eden.it was designed as a union between man and woman that they might be mutually helpful to each other
natasha levchenko
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sad experience?
natasha levchenko
Member
that makes sense because a husband cannot truly love a wife whom he does not respect.
Sometimes people are mistaken,in their eyes they show respect,but it is necessary whether your mate feels respected
I believe the situation defines the meaning of respect. That as Christ would have it, it suits God, who put man over women in the garden, as a curse on the woman, that her husband should "rule over her", meaning be the leader. But a man who is abusive to his wife, or even treat her less than he would himself, violates his part of the deal to love her. And an argumentative woman who will not respect her husbands decisions violates her part of the deal.
Kelly of the Phoenix
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Or both could do both.
No, that would lead to a headless and disfunctional family, arguing all the time.
psychoslice
Veteran Member
NO, just common sense of what I read and what I have seen within my own church.
Kelly of the Phoenix
Well-Known Member
Wasn't aware that a loving and respectful relationship included immature arguing.
See, now that kind of backtalk is disrespectful.
natasha levchenko
Member
in the very beginning Adam did not ''rule over ''Eve. they sinned and met the consequences of their wrongdoing. it meant the husband would become ''a bad leader".an imperfect man cannot be a good head of the house let alone imperfect wife.but God pointed out the rules to follow in order to live a happy family life .
the husband was head of the house and the final decision on different matters was left to him.
the woman while being in subjection to the husband enjoyed fine status and many privileges.faithful Hebrew men loved their wives and if the wife was wise and acted in harmony with God's law,often the husband would listen to her or approve of her actions)))))
natasha levchenko
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what church do you attend?if it is not a secret)